I’ve been wondering about something that happens to me on 95% of my dates with providers.  They at some point ask me if I’m married. I always find this strange given the nature of the hobby.  

...to fall in love with providers.  That's one less problem they have to deal with.

I imagine they are curious.  I actually don't mind questions like that.  I actually think they feel more comfortable with married guys (even if they might look down on it) for the same reason companies used to prefer to hire married guys ... marriage demonstrates some small measure of character stability.
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But mainly I think they are just curious.  It's also something to chit chat about.
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That said I don't actually recall being asked about it.  But I don't tend to remember chit chat.

there seem to be some consistent patterns.  Blackmail has never entered my mind, but I think there are three legit reasons to ask. . . . .

for all the cases you suggested and all the ones you didn't think about.

It's exactly what I would have said. Short and to the point. Very well said

I try not to read much into it. Just a piece of conversation...  
if anything married people may be less risky because they have more to lose than a single guy, ceteris paribus.

mutatis mutandis

Interesting question because I’ve always wondered why men always ask me my age. I look a certain age so why ask for the exact number? My conclusion, they’ve just run out of topics of conversation. I was taught a gentleman never asks a lady her age and I guess being behind closed doors a lady shouldn’t make certain inquiries regarding a gentleman she’s keeping company with. Moral of the story, as time marches on acceptable norms change. Live and let live !

Agree that too!

....so what's one more? :P

...Veni, vidi, Vici!

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find it interesting that they ask.  I am almost always asked.  It does not bother me but it does strike me as odd, I never ask a personal question of a provider and quite often you will see a provider on here complain about guys asking personal questions.  It is interesting to me that they would ask a question that they themselves would not want to be asked.  I'm always tempted to say no I'm not married, how about you?, but I never do

They don't have to ask.   They understand why I came to see them, I'm there for some strange.

I don't ask escorts any personal questions.  But some of them volunteer info.  Some tell me their marital status, some tell me their age, or that they have a boyfriend.  But most don't reveal too much.  

Providers are more likely to say, “You are married, right?” I don’t know what to make of it or given it much thought.  Maybe I have an air of sexual desperation typically found with married men.  😳

I can only speak for myself, but have read this situation many times on this site.  

I have personally experienced this with several dozen older providers.  Just because YOU are not interested in a clean exit with a guy who can afford to give you a luxury lifestyle, it doesn't mean others wouldn't consider it or aggressively  pursue it.  

Because we have already become accustomed to familiarity.  Lol!

young, hot providers that know this is a difficult biz to grow old in.  (Only a small percentage, some of whom are here, manage it successfully).  You realize these are your prime earning years in this biz, but you also know that you can't wait until you're menopause age to land the kind of guy that can provide you the lifestyle you want.  You want a guy that can take you shopping and never has to look at the price.  If you want it, you get it.  In return, you will make sure he never desires another woman.  That's a happily ever after in my book.   Is that pretty much the game plan?   Lol

I get asked this question, now that I read about it, just about everytime too. Never really worried about it or thought anything from it. I give a different response based on my read of the ASP. If you enjoyed your time, you will visit again, but many no desire for another visit. Usually they will tell me they are looking for regular, repeat clients.

I WON'T ask a provider is, "Did you just fart?"  I already know the answer, so why embarrass her?

They don't want your pig of a wife to go chase them down and kill them!

a client if he is married. It is none of my business.  
Many clients share on their own that they are married and quite a bit of times discuss issues they are experiencing in their marriage. Not sure why you are being asked this more often than not.Maybe they are just making small talk.
Funny I do not ask gents about their dating/married life but I have had quite a bit of clients ask about mine.

I don't ask about an escort's private life, but I am curious, and I think society in general is curious.  Some people have weaker filters, so I am sure they just blurt out questions like that.

That is a good policy.  Oftentimes, THEY are married, but their dick isn't, and they're not sure how to explain it.  

Jaydalee I can give a damn if you're married or not. Just as long as I can pretend you and I are for the night right now! And not like the 20 year deal when saying 'fuck you!' passing by each other constitutes foreplay...!

I agree with the "exit strategy" idea. This question is asked by almost every massage parlor girl for obviously the same reason.

Shallow pig that I am, I am much more concerned with how old a woman LOOKS, more than I am concerned with when she was born.

Life before the internet?
Oh yeah....when I used to get laid for free.

MyaMichelle, that's been my experience also a couple of times: being asked at the end of the session as to whether or not I have a wife.
I've had the provider asking me after we've fucked or once I've taken my exit shower and I'm getting dressed, you know, the outbound smalltalk portion.  
It always catches me by surprise, because I haven't taken off my wedding band for over 17 years. What kind of observation powers do some of these women have that they spend an hour or two with me before focusing on the ring finger? Lol. I thought the average woman zeros in on that finger within the first 10 seconds of being close enough to a man to see it.
One provider years ago had a really strange reaction. She was cheerful and friendly the whole time I was there, we talked before any action started and got to know a little bit about each other, we showered together playing with each other, she had sucked my dick, I had eaten her pussy, we screwed each other silly, everything was fine. Or so I thought.
As I was leaving, I looked around the room to make sure I wasn't forgetting anything, I did the self pat-down and verbal checklist. Wallet, keychain, comb, . . . she saw my wedding band, apparently for the first time. She asked, I answered, her entire mood changed. Since I was 10 seconds from stepping out the door anyway, it wasn't going to get deep, but I tried asking her what was wrong, she told me to just leave, her face sour and twisted.  The only thing it could have been was the ring, so I asked her if my being married was a problem for her.  She wasn't a spring chicken nor new to the game, so I was lost.
"You can't tell me you've never had married men as clients before, is that it?" I asked her.
She said, "I have, but most have the decency to take off their rings when they're with me." she glared at me.
What. The. Hell?
"Lady, I have had this on during the whole hour, if you didn't see it, that's not my fault. And ring or no ring, married or not married, we both know why I'm here, and we both know why you're here."
She was pushing the door closed and I didn't have the desire nor the time to figure her out, so I just left and chalked it up in my mind as a loose screw somehow. To this day I have never understood it. I think she beloved I took my ring off pre-date and put it back on when I got dressed, neither of which happened, but even if they had, what difference did it make to her?
Well, at least the pussy was good.

BriannaM, I take the gentleman's angle on this.  
I don't outright ask providers their ages, but I prefer older women (MUCH older) over younger ones, and I understand that this game is chocked full of a majority of men wanting as young as humanly and as legally possible, I know some women have a tendency to downplay their calendars and use fuzzy math when giving their "approximate" ages.

In flagrante delicto

Typo, last paragraph:

When providers ask if I am married I tell them that my wife passed away in the past year.