for the little head. It wants what it wants and it wants it THIS way RIGHT now. It's only odd logic for a larger head that isn't attached to the particular little one.

Unless of course she provides a subpar performance in which case she forfeits any right to ask not be revealed as a sub par performer. but as long as she is "as advertised" why would you want to disrespect her wishes in the first place?

She already has reviews, so you are providing anything new to the community, so why go against her wishes?  Do you really need to crow to your buddies that you fucked her? or do you really need the fifteen days of VIP that badly? Those are the only reasons I can think of that you would have to write a review against the wishes of a lady. her reasons are her own, she has made them very plain to you, You can either respect her or not, as long as she treats you well, I can't imagine why you would want to disrespect her wishes this way

Review her if she is no longer provides same kind of service as described in her previous reviews.

However, if she still delivers as advertised there is no reason to NOT respect her wishes.

Keep saying it, it pisses off my dumber brother. lol

So I am getting ready for my Las Vegas trip (my favorite destination). Everything is set. Airline tickets - booked ! Hotel and Shows - booked !! I email this well known escort and go through her screening process. Everything checks out fine and she is willing to meet me. But there is a precondition. She doesn't want me to review her. She says she doesn't like to be reviewed anymore. She has couple of pages of reviews and point her to them.  She informs me that if a client reviews her, he is banned for future visits. This lady charges $600-hr so she is definitely not cheap. Her reviews are simply off the charts

My take on this is that if a lady has web presence - a website and phone/email, hobbyists have right to review her. Being able to write the review is not the privilege, but our right.  Why can't some women understand this simple concept? If she doesn't want to be reviewed, the she should completely take down her website and should only advertize through word of mouth.

I told her that if I see her, I will definitely review her (unless of course I die during sex). It is up to her to see me or not. I explained my case in the email. I have evening flight today. I still haven't heard back from her. I do have a back up, so I am not totally screwed.

How many people have gone through this? How many would blow off a perfectly fine escort just because she doesn't like to be reviewed? How many would lie to her face, go fuck her and then review her anyway? How many would cave in to this, unreasonable, request.

Thoughts? Ladies and Gentlemen, both, feel free to chime in.

Yes, you definitely have a right to review the girl. She definitely has a right to not see you if you do write a review.

It's the "If she doesn't want to be reviewed, the she should completely take down her website and should only advertize through word of mouth". That goes way too far. It is fair that a provider who has a "no reviews" policy should have no presence on a review site.

But thinking that she should have no website and no ads goes way too far. It denies free speech on the part of the provider.

It is not unreasonable to not want to be reviewed. Reviews can get you in trouble with folks who are prying into your business and are hostile. So discouraging / encouraging reviews and seeing / not seeing a client based on whether they will review or not is understandable: the lady can run her business in accordance with her risk tolerance. What is completely unreasonable on her part is to have a "no review" policy and still want the benefits of having a review profile up.

I think if TER knew about this, if it could be documented, her profile might disappear.

Regardless of her web presence with one caveat: i will always write a review if i feel the pics are outdated or the services are subpar. I see several UTR providers regularly who advertise on Eros and i never review them. I remember one well-reviewed DC provider asked me what my review policy was when I requested to see her. I thought it was kind of weird that she would ask me this question, but I answered it truthfully. She then made up some flimsy excuse and decided not to see me. I guess she was afraid I would give her a bad review which seemed so unlikely considering she was very well-reviewed and I am a very generous grader.

You DON'T have a right to see her unless it is on terms you can BOTH agree to. See someone who is a better fit.

She has a right to not be reviewed, she then has no right to be present on a review site like TER, though.

Well, write the review if need be, and respect her opinion

Like others have mentioned, if the performance is lacking or have any deficiencies, write the review. This way, this enable the next hobbyist to prepare themselves before selecting her.

It's your choice if you want to write the review, and she has given you the stipulations. You can either accept her rules, or see someone else. Every provider's has got her preference. There are plenty of fishes in the sea willing to take your money.

If it was me, and I really wanted to see her, I won't write the review and respect her wishes. However, if the service did not match what other past reviews have stated, and it seem way off from my expectations, then I will write the review. She can't deliver BS service and not expect a review.

"How many would lie to her face, go fuck her and then review her anyway?"

What an awful thing to say. That sir is unreasonable, unethical, crass and reflects a selfish and mean disposition.

It may be your right to review, but it is NOT your right to see HER.  Therefore, if you want someone to review, book a different person. Or, risk the fact that you might have a great time, and she might refuse to see you again because you are NOT a respectful gentlemen, by refusing her requests. That she will let other ladies in her price range know you treated her with disrespect, and that you will likely be black listed by that crowd.

 For high end ladies having a lot of reviews is a detriment to her business, and as such she doesn't want them.  She is obviously trying to build a high end clientele, and many of those men do not write review themselves and frown upon a woman with pages of reviews. It's considered tasteless and crass. I've said it many time sand I'll say it again, there are way more hobbyists than there are memberships on this board. She is trying to tap into a much broader selection of men, particularly ones that can easily afford her rates, a group that doesn't review.  You should respect her decision.

Why can't some men understand the simple concept that we are allowed to set standards and expectations for our interactions, and if you do not agree with the expectations of a particular lady, *you should see a different lady*, instead of being pushy, arrogant, self absorbed, unfairly demanding, rude, and a bully.

If a lady treats someone well, for them to go and then treat her poorly is abhorrent.


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.. you really are the smarter brother...

Why does her having a website make reviewing her your right, and conversely, why does her advertising only through word of mouth mean you have no right to review her. I don't get it. Having said that I would definitely respect her wishes.

a client reviewed after I expressly told him not to. The review was favorable but added details that could implicate me in a crime. Since then, he's been asked him multiple times to remove these details from the review. Fortunately, the next client was kind enough not to fabricate criminal activity while verifying that I am sincere and provide a good service.

Why did I have a no-review policy? Because there are many safety and legal implications which come into play. Providers' businesses are exposed to liars, abusers, blackmailers, and shills because of this process.  Yet, there are no consequences for the writer because he is anonymous.

With that said, her request isn't unreasonable at all. If you have a great time with her, refer her services to your friends on the back channels. Make sure you tell your friends that YOU sent them. My clients are given  discounts for referring my services to their friends. She may have a similar program.

If you cant resist the urge to review her don't see her. There are so many ladies to choose from - especially in Vegas who would LOVE a review.

I like the way Julia put it. Just prefer less reviews.
Sounds less threatening than banning reviews.

I think that I would just be polite and move on.
I would not like going in with that on my mind.

In fact, I wouldn't see her.  The info you gave makes it fairly easy to identify who you're talking about and from what I've heard, my guess is that she's protecting her well crafted set of reviews by dropping the chances that a low one will appear.  By not agreeing to skip the review, she's willing to lose the money in exchange for perpetuating the myth that she's worth 6 bills.  Rumor also has it that you won't be able to find her if you meet in public because her pictures are not very representative.

The First Amendment guarantees the right to free speech. The client has every right to review a girl. The girl has every right to refuse to see a client.

which you felt needed to be exposed, then I would honor her request for no reviews.  

You do have freedom of speach (write) but she has freedom to not see you again.

You should be seeing the lady because you want to have fun for mutual enjoyment. Not so that you get a chance to write a review. I don't post reviews for everyone I see for a variety of reasons. One of them is the lady requests no reviews be written, others could be I am too lazy to write the review/and or the lady is utr.

we're all breaking the law, but if a girl has a no-review policy she's out of bounds?

If her reviews are all great, spend some time with her and enjoy it.  If you can't agree to her terms, move on.

I'm not sure I agree with your point: it's my right to review her.  Yes, you're free to tell anybody and everybody within earshot how it went.  But posting something on a board that will likely follow her forever, and she doesn't want it?

The best (and most appropriate) thing for her is to have her profile removed and go UTR.

I review a lot of the providers I see, and there are some I don't. There was one particular provider who needed to be outted, because she was upselling on her clients. She's take, and secure the money, give you a two minute CBJ, and then say this all my 30mins cover, if you want more you'll have to give me.

I made sure I put this in my review, and two other guys did also. I was more in detail in how she did this. Based on her reviews she quit doing this. She was pretty upset by this, in reality I may have just saved her from getting hurt.

Upselling like that could get a provider hurt badly. What happens if the client does not have the extra money you're asking for? Do you think someone's going to just walk out the room 140.00 short for a 3min CBJ?

and pretend that you are respecting her wishes.  If however your results are less than favorable or you feel there is something your fellow brothers should know, then write an alias review.  

I feel that way also. If you are not adding anything to the community... if her performance matches all the reviews she already has, then writing a review really serves no purpose.

Respecting her wishes isn't really a difficult thing to do is it ?

I myself don't want pages of reviews. A couple here and there are plenty for me. I don't feel it brings any help whatsoever to me by there being many. Alot of us prefer staying UTR.

I completely agree.

However, if the gentleman has the intention of being dishonest, leading the lady to believe her wishes will be respected only to do the exact opposite... than she isn't given a fair chance to exercise her right of refusal.  

Deception is unethical, it's wrong for the woman to deceive, and it's wrong for the man to do so.

Yes, deception is unethical on both sides of the fence. But it shouldn't be surprising to girls that if a client is perfectly willing to deceive his wife as to his marital infidelities, then why wouldn't the client also be perfectly willing as to deceive the girl by going back on his word to not write a review?

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As a provider with 3 pages of reviews. It shouldn't be a issue to not review someone. I have more than enough reviews and at this point the reviewers are telling the same story over and over (slightly different). What is important is that I am real, worth my donation and, I am not a rip off, with pages of reviews to prove it!! Enjoy your new GFE.

Your issue is she doesn't want a review?

Maybe it's just me, and I'm a relative newbie at this, but why is this a concern if she's been reviewed before and the reviews are solid?

I've never reviewed, and I doubt I will. Thought about it once, but never did.

If she was REQUIRING a review, I could see this being issue, but otherwise...I'm not seeing the problem.

I do not believe people who participate are inherently in possession of a moral deficit. I believe most people are fundamentally good, this example of unethical behaviour belongs to a mean-spirited and destructive minority.

Life is complicated, and most married hobbyists are looking to find some sense of fulfillment and pleasure in the one life they have to live.

Marriages aren't always healthy, people become emotionally walled off, and many feel trapped. Partners can form dependencies, divorces can ruin lives, and people can be vicious.   And some people are just poly-amorous.

If people could be honest about this and expect consideration and understanding, most would be honest. I can certainly say that in nearly twelve years of being a companion, the vast majority have been honest and considerate people.

All I am saying is that it should come as no surprise to anyone that a man could lie to a working girl if he is also willing to lie to another woman that he pledged to "love [and respect] in sickness and in health 'til death do them part."

Nothing more, nothing less.

I totally get it. She's telling him he can't do something that he feels he has a right to do... something just rises up that says, "Watch me."

What kills me about this is the idea that providers have any control over having a profile or reviews in the first place, like suggesting she take her profile down. She is not the one who put it up! Her first reviewer did... with or without her permission! If it's taken down, someone else can review her and put another one back up. Just because a girl's reviews are to her benefit does not mean she has control over her profile.

So girls don't want to be reviewed because the explicitness of the review implicates them and that's enough reason to stop the review process? Really? Since when did we have any say in whether or not anyone reviews us in the first place or over what they say? Nobody cares if writing in black and white what went on behind closed doors is the ONLY proof that an exchange of sex for money ever happened. The review process is not and has never been about protecting anyone.

As a matter of fact, the "I agree" page says all the reviews are fiction stories... TER's official position is that none of it ever happened and guys are just making it all up for everyone's amusement. How hard would it be to say, "I don't know what guys are writing about me.... they have very vivid imaginations and they post their fantasies on review sites."

If you are in this business, with or without a website, above or below the radar, anyone who sees you has the right to review you and say whatever they want in the review regardless of what you think about it... I think that has pretty much been established.  

No, I don't like that. I don't like it one bit. But, otherwise, reviews have no integrity and they are just another form of slanted advertising.

But I don't think he should lie to her and tell her he won't review her and then do it anyway.

But I can see how he would be tempted to!

review.  If she is B & S, ROB, C & D, etc. then write the review for the benefit of your fellow hobbyists.

This is not like other business. LE looks at reviews, fresh reviews could cost her custody of her child. Ads can be hard to remove as sometimes they are even bogus and that is provable and don't usually say illegal activities are happening. Reviews are different. Unless you need to warn others of something do not review. If she is any way a rip off review away.

My former favorite got herself delisted when she retired because she needed to prove she left this game to get her kid back. Getting your self delisted by having your reviews pulled prevents further reviews form being put up. It will end your TER membership and your ability to advertise and post here but your profile and reviews would be gone. You do have a choice.

So are you saying that TER should delete and prohibit ALL reviews unless they deal with girls who rip off clients?

I disagree. Rules that violate rights protected under the US Constitution can and should be broken. If a city had a rule that prohibited black US citizens from voting even though it was in violation of a couple of Articles of the Constitution, then they should break that rule.

If the girl does not want to be reviewed, then she can tell TER to pull her profile. She can't have it both ways. Otherwise, it leads to girls being able to "cherry-pick" which reviews she wants posted.