Can we hobbyists REALLY tell when our provider friend is truly enjoying herself?

Yes I usually make it a point to cum during sessions. I feel like it is only fair. It isn't very fun to leave a session with the female version of blue balls! Usually I try to finish myself first lol. But that doesn't always happen. So after he is finished, I try to get off quickly. It's a difficult task on my part, unless he is able. Usually ORAL is the best way and fast way I can cum. But then again, it all depends on the client. Someone who tries too hard and makes it obvious they are trying to get me to cum- it never works.


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I can't help it, it feels good. But releasing is an entirely different thing. Takes me a while to get my wits back so edging is what I do to keep the focus of the session on you!

If a woman attacks my dick and makes it plain she is trying to make me cum as quickly as possible, she is usually going to be in for a long day, as it has the exact opposite effect on me.

I try to be the same when giving oral. In my experience it's a rare woman who is going to cum from me giving her DATY in just a couple of minutes. Except for one civvie GF who could cum from anything more than a strong breeze, I am pretty certain that those ladies having all those convulsions down there after about two minutes are ALL faking it. OTOH, if I think  woman is truly enjoying herself, AND if I am seriously attracted to her in the looks department, I don't mind at all going slowly, knowing eventually we will get there. lol

Now, 3 out of 5 dates I actually have an orgasm. And, the guy does not have to be the least bit attractive for that to happen... I can just get off based on how he is down there, his method of build up and how clean he is from mouth to balls lol. Nothing turns me off more than bad breath... sorry guys, but brushing your teeth before you arrive then drinking wine and eating cheese does not exactly work. GUM please!

unless maybe you can do a Vulcan mind-meld with the gal.

All I know is that the gals I'm with very often appear to be having orgasms, that make me one very happy camper.

Whether they really are, or are earning an Oscar nomination is irrelevant to me.

Eeeewwwww Cheese Breath!

But honestly, as long as she's a good actress and makes me believe it then I'm happy. It would be nice if every provider could get off, for them. But I can certainly understand why they can't, just lie to me.

Let's be honest here, the escort is there for your own enjoyment which you have paid for. That is her end of the bargain and her responsibility. Even in the civvie world it is difficult to honestly tell. So don't worry about it, your objective should be your enjoyment first so she can match her goal with you, making sure you enjoy yourself. Don't make it a goal to give her O during the session, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't happen it's ok also. I eat pussy because it's awesome and I love doing it, if she's cooperating she would give you guidance. Don't do it for her do it for yourself.

It's harder to tell on the first few times unless she is a gusher, squirter etc. Once you know the signs of someone's real O, hard to fake. I laugh like crazy after an orgasm orally.... just can't help it. RARELY will I cum during sex, especially in the hobby because the condom messes it up for me.  

Since I'm the client and this is all about me...

... I explain to providers that I'd really like them to be honest with me when it comes to their pleasure. Let me know if I'm doing what they like, or not. I'm a man, but I accept directions.     And I tell them I'd rather they don't fake their Os. I know sometimes the O just isn't there, and it may have nothing to do with me. Or if it does, maybe there's something I can do to help that O along.

But am betting in many cases.........it adds to a hobbyist's enjoyment if he can HONESTLY make a provider orgasm.  I know it does for me..........but the operative word is HONESTLY.

Most of the guys I see share your POV. At first I thought it was odd how much emphasis was spent on my pleasure, but now I welcome it. I can't see a guy booking more than a half hour or an hour if all he wants is to get himself off... kind of expensive and pointless IMO.

but rather how it's being used that messes it up for you.

but if I'm paying to be pleasured anything you get out of it is your bonus, not mine. Some guys get off on it, want to eat puss the all day, God bless their little wiggly tongues. Not me.

I just want her to see the person I am,  hopefully share a few laughs and have her think "hey, I would not mind if he were to call on me again."    That being said, because it is a shared experience and it is so intimate, I do want to try to please my P4P partner, just like I do in the other setting.   If it happens, great, if it does not happen, that is fine too.   BTW, I would guess that for most of us who feel this way it is not a power trip of "yeah, I got her off, look at me! look at me!" it just makes for a better shared experience.   I would humbly submit that if one has delusions of being Don Juan, or some other great swordsman, P4P is not the setting to indulge those thoughts.

and definitely don't worry or place pressure on her to reach climax. Try hard = Die hard.  

I did not say you only getting yours was pointless... I said paying for multiple hours when you can get off in 10 min. was pointless for guys like you, and most have posted that. They don't want to talk to a hooker, eat with a hooker, sleep with a hooker and get one off so they pay for an hour, cum and go. The same guys all about their nut, are generally not willing to see providers with 2 and 3 hour time minimums. They tend to book an hour and want to pay less than 400.

For me, helping a provider reach an orgasm during DATY gets me even more aroused and gives me almost as much pleasure as my own. I especially love the leg shaking, back breaking mutual orgasms during 69. Can't really say that I know for sure when they are faking, but if they go through that much trouble to simulate a squirming, moaning, body trembling orgasm, I am still happy.

...and it had nothing to do with vocal pyrotechnics. She spasmed and I felt it loud and clear. Other times may have been real but not like that.

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Typically it is when I hand them the cash. Regardless it won't taint my experience if they don't. In this relationship we have with Ho's it is truly all about me!

Can't say as I agree. Always felt that fucking was about two people connecting for mutual pleasure in this otherwise isolated existence and if not, might as well masturbate.

i misread your post. You were spot on, but you already knew that.

I think you may have to see Udo if condoms mess itup for you . ..

..times when I know for sure that they haven't..and times that I really can't be sure at all.

I've learned to stop worrying about it so much.  It's nice when it happens, and I do derive pleasure from knowing that my partner is enjoying herself--but I can't get too hung up on it.  I'll save that kind of concern for my civvie partners.

Of course I book 2 hours or more. Not sure how you got that notion from. I'm just saying obsessing over whether a WG cums or not is well... obsessive.

You listen. Just because you like it does not mean you're any good at it and I for one will stop a guy mid lick if he does something my pussy does not like.  

only three ladies have answered this thread. There's your answer right there.  

Yes, absolutely. If she cums four times that's 20% off. 15% for three, and 10% for two big ones. If she only cums once, then she tosses your ass, and she'll never see you again. When I schedule her, I do everything in my power to bring my A game.

Wow, Alissa, I admire your candor & effort.  
I always feel that it's unfair to expect a provider to have real O because she has to deal with so many guys, not on an emotional level. However, once in a while when the impromptu happens, it's a big bonus. Ya, things have to be natural, for both sides.
Too bad you're in Illinois, otherwise I'd be the 1st to line up.