Maybe i'm not so good at hiding what i'm thinking but like the gentleman did when he told the provider she was acting like a jilted gf I think that in a polite way you should problem do the same and let them know that them acting jealous about what you do is weird.

he has a man on the couch, he really has a lizard, a horse, and a human before him. Any one of which will manifest themselves in any particular moment. The lizard is represented by the part of the brain called the Reptilian Center (the seat of basic physiological processing, arousal, and motivation); the horse representing the Limbic System (the seat of emotional processing, arousal and motivation); and the man who exercises the reasoning capacity of of the higher level cortex.

So, on one level, us guys just want to bang one out, and not be emotionally involved whatsoever. On another level, we are stallions wanting to score with, and collect as many fillies, for ourselves, as possible. And, on a third level, we have these thoughts, given to us by society, that sex should not be experienced as in the first two levels.

So, for myself, there are times when I'm very much in touch with just wanting to bang one out, without concerning myself regarding what the lady is experiencing. Somewhere along the line, a fantasy pops up, that she, like all the other ladies I've been with, are only hot for me. And, then the reality sets in, and I'm reminded that I must play nice, abide by the rules, and my experience with her is based primarily on an illusion.

I hope that helps. I know it sounds complicated, but it's the simple truth.

and I wince when they get a less than stellar review.

I guess you could call that a bit of an emotional attachment.

Otherwise, I read their reviews to see if I can pick up on some new techniques the next time I see them.

Just a quick question...

Lately I have notice that my friends/lovers get a little jealous over other dates. Or mentioning my reviews to me.  What gives???  

Why does this happen? I don't get upset when they go play with other ladies....  I know its a business.  It seems to be the story of this journey for me lately.

Hmm,  do they forget that I was a fantasy that became real.....

How many of you men can honestly  admit that it bothers you - when you read reviews or your ATF.

Be safe and enjoy this journey,
Vivianna Love From San Diego.

I've stopped reading them and since I know she's no longer in the porn industry I've stopped watching her stuff all together.  

I know it's a business and I try not to dwell on it.    

Considering she's the only one i've been seeing for the last 6 months it hasn't become an issue.

Thankfully it was mutual and she quit the business and I didn't have to deal with it. For any of the other girls I saw.. never an issue. Well, maybe I got a little jealous when I read in reviews that they treated other guys with the same enthusiasm as me. But that's just me wanting to be special.

I had that happen to me in reverse.  A provider that I had seen a few times got really mad at me when I posted a review (on another website) about another provider.  When I told her that she was acting like a jilted girlfriend she exploded.  It was a very wierd situation.

it doesn't bother me to read other reviews but maybe thats because i don't have an atf or hobby very often. i had a provider tell me that she was looking to only see a few regulars and wanted me to be one of them...but only if i didn't see anybody else. how's that fair? haha!

WOW....that's not cool.  I see my ATF once a week and she doesn't have any new reviews.  However, if she did, I would like it.  I like the fact that she is sexy as hell and attracts other men like myself.  I find it attractive.  I guess I'm that guy that would not mind watching her get fucked my someone else either....or watching her suck another mans cock.....that would NOT bother me in anywat.  Again, I find it sexy for some reason.    Maybe I'm special  :    I love the journey!!!!

It seems some of your friends have crossed the line of fantasy to reality.No one is committed to another in this business so their is no reason for the jealous feelings.I think this issue is on both sides of the coin some gentleman do not want to read reviews of the lady or ladies they are frequently seeing.Which is their right if they do not want to do so but do not question the lady on her reviews or why she saw a certain person.It is none of anyone's business.On the other hand there are some ladies that do not want a gentleman to see any other lady but them.I feel it is selfish if you want to be exclusive then be in a exclusive relationship but that does not work in this business.Some fail to realize this is a business yes there are people that you will meet and you might become friends but this is how many ladies pay their bills.

with me it isn't a matter of jealousy at all. i do get annoyed at evidence of poor business practices. also it isn't just the reviews, it's also partly "backchannel" i.e. gossip.

a large part of it comes down to communication style. i've discovered that with ladies that communicate clearly i don't have a problem. as long as the direct communications are solid and clear i won't care about what reviews or gossip have to say.

i will admit that when communications are not so clear and straightforward i may get a bit uncomfortable. when the lady seems to only be telling me what she thinks i might want to hear (despite my reassurances that i can take less than pleasant news) i am more likely to consider contradictory information in reviews and backchannel from reviewers.

most folks like their fantasy laid on thick and don't care about good business practice. i prefer my fantasies to be thinner with a sounder and more wholesome business practice.

the difference is: treat me aa a client? i'm cool. treat me as a trick? that's annoying.

From stories I have heard over the years, the jealousy thing can crop up due to you going the extra distance to show appreciation to a regular. Anything special that you might do to show appreciation can backfire. The guy gets confused by the unexpected favor and comes to expect more in the future. I know of a case where a lady offered to go to dinner with a regular off the clock. The only message she wanted to send was "Thanks." Unfortunately, the guy followed up with a slew of requests for more dinners and all sorts of weird demands.  The moral of the tale is that your well-meaning show of gratitude can result in a jealous client.

Your so on it Jaydalee!

on the client's part. he would need either a talking too or a cooling off or a DNS depending.

your alias intrigues me... is it a reference to the UK nursery rhyme, the John Updike novel, or the rap by Eminem?

thought you were going to say something out of character, like you taught them everything they knew...

beaming or just taking it in.... both beat being disgruntled and interfering by a long shot.

it would not be truthful to say that i "beam" but i am happy to hear of a friend's success. the only times i have been unhappy at reading a review or hearing something backchannel is when it seems "out of character". for instance: hearing that a lady is upselling on menu "specials" or that she is being compelled in some way......

that is very different from being peeved at someone's success.

Mostly I do not read the reviews of ladies I know because I do not need to, and I do not care what they do with anyone else, only what they do with me.  When I do read them I have never felt jealous when reading a review of any lady I have seen, including a few I have become very fond of.

The only reviews that bother me are those where a friend gets trashed by someone, especially when it is clear they made up the encounter (for example, they describe her as a DD when she's a B at best, or they talk about her incall when she only does outcall.

thats just way to possesive and she was for sure in the wrong for that. Run dont walk away from that one !!

I read some of their latest reviews, and I actually say outloud, 'Right on, ------!'

And then the ones that get less than stellar reviews, I say, 'WTF? This fucking guy is full of shit.'

But just because I like whiskey, and he likes rum, it's a different buzz and I really can't fault him that.

that sometimes jealous clients can be so petty as to try to block other clients from seeing their favorites. it then simply comes down to a business decision. an independent lady for whom money isn't the only value will not agree to that. someone for whom the financial bottom line is the only consideration will let her choice of clientele be influenced by her more "significant" clients.

But I get confused at the differences in reviews.  I definitely do not want to hear about others from you in anything but general terms.  I have read your reviews and will read the new reviews but there is something about a girl talking about a previous appointment that does give me the creeps.

I don't have any problem reading the reviews of my favorites. I want them to get reviews. I'm glad when they get good ones. I don't mind when they see others. I expect them to see others. It their business.
These guys that get "jealous" (?) are crossing the line.

I went to her reviews, but didn't read them. She had great scores as far as looks and performance.

If a lady is consistent, in the 8, 9, 10 deal, I don't need to read them. Especially if I see who writes the review, and I get a 'feel' from their other reviews.

But I went to this lady's site and I find her quite attractive, though she doesn't show her face.

What she has on her 'services offered', as well as the scores other guys gave her, I hope she'd let me see her if our paths crossed. But that's up to her.

I'm with you on this.

Not only that, it IS kinda hot reading if you're in the mood and can fantasize a bit. >.>

Even when, on a couple of occasions, the lady uttered an "I love you" the context of that was clearly understood.   This is a business relationship & we are paying them to ACT as our lovers for a brief time.  This is pure role play, not a reality.

once i was annoyed at finding a particular favorite (now retired) getting a review way after her retirement. the review described an encounter that was simply impossible both in style and for the fact that she was far far away from the city where it allegedly happened.

so i wrote to her that there was a maybe a fraudulent review on her profile and she had it taken down. the way i figure, it's the lady's profile and it affects her business. if she isn't aware of what is going on in that profile, as a friend i can tell her. but it is her responsibility to do something about it or not.

I have no issue with reading the reviews of the ladies in this business I have paid, even those of my ATF. But to be truthful I usually don't. Why should I? Reviews are for screening and if I seen you you are already screened.

Maybe he is telling you of one he thinks is fake? Or maybe while I am not into the fantasy, but maybe he is, so maybe the new reviews kills the fantasy for him? But in that case he should simply not read them. If those are not the case maybe he is getting to attached and needs a break, voluntary or otherwise.

I don't know, I don't have that issue with the ladies I pay.

Knowing a lady, how hot she really is, hot she gets off, seeing and sharing how she gets off...getting me off.  Hell, I request they tell me blow by blow their great sessions and how they were able to get off...the fantasy of almost like having a threesome without being a threesome...ha!!

but the ones I see or have seen?

It doesn't bother me. It's the way she makes her living.

It is the way I make my money. A client gets in the way of that by being a jealous freak= meet the curb.

It doesn't bother me when ladies I've seen get reviews. I have no illusions of exclusivity. There is a group of local hobby men and women where I live that gets together periodically in a social context. It is a pretty tangled web of who has seen whom, but nobody really minds. It is a great combination of business and friendship without possessiveness.

When a lady I know gets a review, sometimes I'll read it. If it is a positive review, I'll think, "Good for them. Sounds like they had fun." The only reviews that are annoying are the ones where the guys pushes for services not offered and vents his frustration at not being able to connive his way into getting them. On those, I feel bad that she had a shitty and confrontational session. But I also know that the lady can take care of herself and it isn't my role to jump in (as a white knight) and do anything. Inappropriate. That type of review is pretty rare, although I'm sure it happens more than publicly described.

If I am considering repeating with someone I haven't seen in awhile, I'll read reviews, just to verify that nothing major has changed.

In the hobby check the jealousy at the door. That was my thought when I got into this, and it hasn't changed.

Ren'man
 

My ATFs are incredible ladies who deserve the recognition and the business - I love to see them doing well via good reviews.
I can't go along with your allowance for different tastes in all cases - when a consistent 8-9-10 lady gets a 5 or 6, he is full of shit!

It was nice to read what you all had to say.  Thanks for sharing.

Thanks!
oxox
Viv

I really enjoy reading reviews of the ladies I've seen.  It is fun to compare experiences and to relive my experiences.  Most of the time, the reviews are consistent, but sometimes I'm surprised how different they are.  I never let fantasy conflict with reality.  I'm just happy to have a few stolen moments with beautiful women who treat me well.

NAILED IT.  

When a guy gets jealous it creeps me out and I stop seeing him.  We both know what the situation is going in.