Things I look at:
* Smile
* How clean he/she is (Yes I said "HE/SHE")
* If He/She put the $$$$ into my Cash App or on the Counter (I've been ripped off once before)
* The time He/She actually showed up.....Compared to the exact time He/She was scheduled. I stick to a
schedule so that I can make money.
I pay attention to details. I love smiles! For me teeth is important. If you invest in your smile to me it shows you care about yourself. Many people don’t care about their mouth & it shows. I look at hands & feet as well. Manicured hands show me you care about yourself. If a person has good self care it’s a bonus when it comes to our first meeting, and the amount of quality TLC you may receive. If your hands and nails are dirty, or your mouth is not attractive to look at it could = YMMV.
Since for me meeting a new person is not just a provider I am going to bang, I'm not looking at just sex appeal details. That said, my answer still applies to providers as well. I'm looking right in your eyes. I know within 30 seconds what kind of person you are when I make eye contact. I'm a confident person, so I'm not shaken by eye contact being returned. The effect my eye contact and glare has on you though will tell me a lot. While my contact is steady, it is also calm. If I get steady calm eye contact back, we are off to a good start. If I get unsteady contact, perhaps you are nervous, and that may be something we can overcome, but it leaves some questions that will need to be answered. But when I see the skin between your eyes just above your noise start to scrunch, I know we are off to a bad start. This for me is negative enegery. You might be angry. You might not like or understand why I am gazing into your eyes. You might want control. You have now flinched in a way that says you don't not accept my calm stare into your eyes.
I love eye contact! Good one Zeel. I also, look at eyes because it tells you right away when if someone is sincere. I read people and body language. They say when you meet someone new they judge you in less, than a minute.
It’s a simple question. I am not sure why some guys feel the need to comment on this board if they’re not actually responding to the real question. I’m still confused at his response. Are you men all in agreement with his mind boggling reply?
Speaking for myself, I cant tell what kind of person someone is within 30 seconds. Not trying to take you too literally and if I am, I apologize. But for me, people reveal their true selves over hours and sometimes many, many hours in many different situations. 30 seconds just isnt nearly enough time to know anything about a person unless they walk right in the door and are rude, demanding or mean and even then, they just might be having a bad day.
Even body language experts will tell you they need to establish a "baseline" for the person by seeing their body language in previous encounters for comparisons sake before coming to any real conclusions and they always temper their comments by mentioning such. You cant have a baseline with anyone you have never met before imo.
Not me dear. It’s a statistic they tell young adults who are seeking employment. I worked for several schools & this is what they teach our children. I am not literally saying I do because I don’t.
😁 Smile for me. I’m off to be a Super hero = Single Mom life. To much drama on this board it’s supposed to fun.
It's kind of like judging a book by its cover isnt it? The good stuff is on the inside, not the superficial things.
People are much too complex to be able to accurately know a person in that amount of time and it's unfair to the person being judged. I try not to judge people on their first day or their worst day but I dont always succeed in that as I an human. Knowing a person is just much more nuanced and complicated than that.
Enjoy your day!
This is actually something that's been studied rather well. Subconsciously, when you meet a new person, you categorize them according to the people you've previously been exposed to in somewhere around a second. That doesn't mean you *know* someone, of course, everyone has at least some aberration from their mean, but realistically there aren't really that many different types of people, and being able to rapidly decide who you're dealing with is valuable for survival, which is why that propensity exists.
So all that to say, yes you can Bobby my man, you can't help it, because for thousands of years your ancestors relied on being able to figure out if someone was going to share their food or hit them with a rock, and they were good enough at it to get laid and perpetuate their role in the human comedy, leading to you.
I've found that most people who say "I don't judge", are either bad at it, or, what they really mean is "I judge the hell out of you, I'm just not a dick about it".
Now maybe he meant it in a way that I misconstrued or maybe he would phrase it differently if given a chance as I cant speak for him.
But I don't fundamentally disagree with what you are saying as yes, we size people up in seconds, but that often turns out to be faulty after many more interactions and dealings with that person. First impressions can be lasting ones but hardly fool proof. And if you look at my other post, I admit to being human as I am sure I judge quickly on occasion but I try and fight that as best as I can.
Actually I think we are essentially saying the same thing here and it's more semantics or minor variations in opinion. Thanks for your take.
My answer does not change. Knowing what kind of a person someone is does not mean knowing everything about them. People are much more complex. However, what you see is the first 30 is often more telling than what you will see for quite some time in other ways. When you first look at me, more often than not, that look is you, it is natural. But when you first speak, that may not be you. What we say when we first meet people is hardly telling of who we are. People have relationships for years, and not until after they are married for years do they sometimes finally see who someone really is in all their complexity.
We both love to put on a show for people and want to believe things about people that are not always true. I try to catch you when you are pure and I'm not quite caught up in wanting to believe anything about you. I'm an observer by nature. I was born this way. My pops tells me when he first saw me in the room with other babies, every one was crying or sleeping but me. I was just looking around and observing this new world. To this, that is how I walk into a room. I'm not saying a word. I'm looking. I'm sizing up the people, the place, and anything else my eyes can see. My eyes can peer into your soul. And when they do, it will tell me something about you. No, it won't tell me everything that makes you a more complex person. But it tells me enough to know if I want to learn more about you. And, that is what my point was and still is.
Practically though, how many different people are there really? I bet if you were honest with yourself, you'd land the same place I've landed, which is about a dozen, maybe two dozen if you're being generous with how much they're allowed to cross over.
Anything outside of that is deep into the realm of subjectivity and likely isn't actually useful to consider in most cases.
lol I look for the quickest exit in case of an emergency. I observe the room looking for possible threats because the World is dangerous. I have self defense insurance also because shit happens. I highly recommend it.
Link below. ⬇️ Are there any other members here? Just curious because I also have jewelry insurance. I like to be prepared. I was shocked when I did a poll on estate planning & basic health and life insurance, wills & trusts, so many people are not prepared. Life happens.
I never sit with my back to a door. I threat assess every room I enter and every venue I visit. I put on my "cordless hole puncher" every morning just like I put on my socks and belt. It's been a part of my morning routine for 40+ years. I try to avoid places where I can't carry and I am always on the look out for anyone that may pose a threat. This goes hand in hand with what I look at and look for whenever I meet someone for the first time (see my other response in this thread if you care to know).
I'm 61 and retired five years ago. The bulk of my assets are in trusts, I pay for health and life insurance for those I care for the most, my will is up to date and I have a financial plan that should carry me nicely through however many years I am blessed to have left. I consider these things to be a big part of being a responsible person who owns their shit.
I try not to "judge" people, but I will damn sure make an assessment fairly quickly after we meet for the first time. And yes, there is a difference between making an assessment and making a judgement. As assessment is cursory and tends to be short-term. Judgement is long-term and more often than not, final.
In America, Canada, Britain, and many other places,some people get judged based on their skin color more than anything else. As matter of fact some people stigamtize an entire group without regard to any exception .
Some people need racism to survive, because it gives them everything they own. They achieve this by denegration, and how one group is better that the other based on some bullshit narrative (the goal is to elimating the competition) . A narrative that started years ago also used to justify atrocities like slavery,holocaust etc.
Those thoughts and behavior are still with us today (2024) mostly in subtle forms, through redlining, denying of loans, gentrification, medical racism, denying true history, deny or water down atrocities etc.
Totally agree with carrying. Hardly want to go states that makes legal sellf defense difficult . Even in tough gun law states make sure you have quick access to that lock box.As they say " better to be judged by 12 than carry by 6 ".
Absolutely not for me. I prefer to keep moving around. Artwork, not people, are meant to be pressed against a wall. Unless, of course, it's in the heat of passion and your getting ravaged by a suiter.
Pepper spray and a stun gun comes in handy too.
Love the question (Ignoring the crazy poster)! First, I usually see her hair and her eyes. Pretty hair is a turn on (short or long tho prefer long) and at the same time I notice her eyes! Next I look quickly down to her feet. I love feet so I am going to look at them pretty quickly. Bonus if they are bear and I see her pretty polish but I will also admire her choice of footwear (or not). Lots of guys like the "preview BBBJ" but I like to worship her feet first. (Hmmm, can you guess my fetish?)
Thanks for the post!
I love feet! I keep my feet nicely pedicured. I care about a females feet because if I feel, like it’s a reflection of how they care for their vagina. I don’t eat pussy if the entire package is not pretty to me.
Tbh I started doing my hair for all my dates & noticed how much it makes a difference. My appearance score goes up when I do my hair. I always have my hair & nails done now it just shows you care.
I always look at feet. lol. Thanks for honesty answering my post. I appreciate your honesty & participation.
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look in one place because its hairy feet.
Whenever I meet a person for the first time, I pay attention right away to how they position their shoulders. Are they carrying themselves proudly, with an upright posture, shoulders back and square to me, or are they carrying their shoulders in a slumpy manner, down and rounded like they are trying to go unnoticed. From there, it's their eyes, their mouth and then their hair.
I like eyes that sparkle and are bright and attentive. I like smiles for miles with bright, clean straight teeth, and I like hair that is natural, soft, well groomed and that frames their face perfectly.
So, for me and in this order...1) shoulders...2) eyes...3) mouth...4) hair. If those all pass for my taste, I will make the effort to spend enough time to check out all of the other interesting features and attributes they possess.
Throw your shoulders back and smile for me!
Things I look at:
* Smile
* How clean he/she is (Yes I said "HE/SHE")
* If He/She put the $$$$ into my Cash App or on the Counter (I've been ripped off once before)
* The time He/She actually showed up.....Compared to the exact time He/She was scheduled. I stick to a
schedule so that I can make money.
So what you see may not actually what you gonna get. Might be close yes, as photos might be dated, that's why it's important to keep updating photos at least every few years. Both party
reserve the right to terminate the date if what advertise is not what shows up.
A majority ,or 100% positive review that includes the physical feature might be the best bet.
I am a boobsman, body types vary depending on my mood. Teeth and smiles counts too. Stuff like body odor and attitude, you cannot tell from photos. And don't forget that some of the most measurable blow jobs are from people with no teeth 😁🤣😆.
Everyone should chew sugar free gum containing Xylitol. It's been shown to significantly reduce plaque and tooth decay. Plaque is produced by oral bacteria called Streptococcus mutans. That bacteria picks up the Xylitol thinking it is glucose but can't use it. That blocks it from using glucose so without energy they die.
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So if you kiss a lot, you could be getting Streptococcus mutans from the people you kiss. If you chew Xylitol gum you can kill off that bacteria.
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Xylitol can also prevent ear infections, yeast infections, increase collagen (anti-aging for skin) and protect against osteoporosis.
A friend of mine put xylitol gum in his ear and it did not prevent against ear infections.
Hydrogen peroxide is both an anti-bacterial and an anti-viral and is highly recommended as part of a daily oral hygiene regimen.
It also whitens teeth.
It's teeth ARE important, or tooth IS important. Part of the confusion is when they invented the toothbrush in Arkansas, that's what they named it. If it had been invented in California, it would be called the "teethbrush."
in a hotel room I check the bathroom or closet so her bf/daddy or shady ass girl friend doesn't Rob Me!
My first reaction happens is on the phone call. I can tell a lot about a new client by talking to them. I'm getting really good picking up their attitude. When they come to the door, I look out the peep hole. I scan their energy field and see if they are good people. If not, I don't open the door. If I detect heaviness or a down feeling they don't get me. That rarely happens but it has. I scan for appearance and body movements. I'm a fun upbeat human and seek the same in clients.
On the phone, I listen carefully if a new client is pushy, demanding and arrogant. If so, I shut it down immediately. If you think a hooker is here to give you everything you want, you are wrong.
Waves of Love, Zoe Zane aka Fetish Diva Diamond
San Jose CA
Wait a minute. I gotta make sure I’m understanding this right.
Are you saying you let guys get all the way to your door and then turn them away based on your instantaneous perception of personality or even mood? Did I read that right? Customers would get blacklisted all to hell for that kind of time wasting.
This is like a standup comic getting the bouncer to eject anyone who wasn’t already laughing their ass off as they filed in and sat down.
Obviously you have to turn away anyone you believe to be unsafe. Of course.
I’m fine with you not seeing anyone who is pushy, arrogant, or demanding, because I’m none of those things and I don’t blame you for not wanting to deal with that.
But did I read that correctly that if someone LOOKS LIKE they’re feeling a “little down”, you turn them away at the door? Somebody might be feeling a bit down and go play with a provider and it makes their day a lil better, helps their mood, lets them forget their troubles for a spell. That’s like your whole JOB!!
I almost always head out to an appointment happy and super excited. And sure, me showing up for an appointment already in a great mood is the most ideal, and that’s when my most fun sessions happen. But if I go see someone when I happen to feel a bit “down”, that doesn’t mean I think I’m going to get “everything I want” from her. It means I need a lil pick me up or a distraction. More likely, I was in a good mood when I scheduled it, then had a bad day or didn’t sleep well but wasn’t going to cancel like a TIME WASTER.
Doesn’t mean I’d be a bad client. It means my day is about to get a lot better! A woman smiling at me can perk up my day real quick. Especially if she’s gonna get naked soon. But she’s not my “everything” she’s the reason for my goofy grin for the next couple hours. Simple as that.
I agree, anyone who thinks they can get “everything” from someone, like a SO, is a codependent fool. Anyone who thinks they can get it from a provider is a total moron. I’m just curious how you know that’s what they’re thinking through the peep hole. Codependency / unreasonable expectations is a good reason to not see someone AGAIN. Thinking you can know it from a quick glance seems unrealistic. Especially if you already had a phone conversation and didn’t pick up on it then.
Somebody being a bit down when they show up can still have their head on straight about what all this is and isn’t.
Someone could easily look “down” in the peephole just because they’re trying not to be grinning like an idiot walking up to your place. For YOUR sake. A bunch of grown men giddy as a schoolboy coming and going from your place might not be the attention you need. I always try to look casual, bored even, approaching a residence incall. At least until the door opens. Because people ignore that.
If I misunderstood your comment then please disregard. Also please consider explaining.
BTW, I really like that you have a phone conversation before meeting. I enjoy that when it happens. Very few providers do it and I think I understand why. But the ones who do, it’s made me feel more comfortable with them and reinforced the decision to meet them. It always seems to make them more comfortable as well. Nothing wrong with realizing during the conversation that you don’t click and declining to meet. I took exception to what sounded like a snap, game time decision that was NOT safety related.
thing I notice. I love thick brows! Clean, tidy nails are also a huge plus.