so I had a guy message me on TER messenger ( I am REALLY starting to not like this service )

and immediately starts in on the I want you for a overnight or weekend lol

and can I be frank with my requests LMAO


then I say ok well lets check references and then talk


he says I value discretion and do not screen or provide references LMAO


ok dude

are you kidding?

you want me to fly 3k miles to you with no screening ?

yeah!


are there any real conversations via the messenger or is it just a waste of time to use it? lol


do you other girls experience this

I know I've had real conversations, sometimes they even lead me to emailing the lady then setting up an appointment there.

To me it's not a waste of time.  But Im not a provider, so I have no idea what the other guys are saying to them.  Probably some time-waster stuff.

 I use  PM when asking her many inches she can swaller, or what posichun  do she like the best doing brown eye.
Is messenger a better place to ask jusey  questions?
I don't git many replize on PM.

and had problems using it when it was new. I gave up on it, and refuse to use it.  I don't know a soul who likes it or uses it.

Just think of them as spam pop-ups. Not every guy will make u feel comfortable in PM. You have the power of control--to ignore or accept. You do not have to get emotional about it. Its like every other thing in life. You appear attractive in your website, and I am sure you must get hit on by men all the time. Its the same scenario, if you ignore, they will go away, if you accept, then they will "likey likey fo your booty booty".

Anyways, the PM system is a great attribute in TER. I have made many good connections through it with providers. I have also gain many good insights from hobbyist about providers. Its a gain situation. Your an adult, just kick that suckaaa to the curb girlfriend!!

Well first of all* you should be happy you know better.  I only fly out to the men that I know , I feel safe with and have great Chemistry and mutual respect.
 
2nd. thank God they don't blow up your cell. Like most ladies that have it out, then they complain about it..

3nd. do you really need to have your number/name out there for anyone to send those???

Well, we are different as to what we do with the way we advertise...  Ladies,  stop complaining! You put yourself out there (the way you do)  So you will get what you ask for...
SORRY! to say this ---But you have it all out there!

I have been on here for 4 yrs! and I only gent great men... With No drama...

Ladies be safe, while the men will be big kids and play.
oxox
Viv

It's too bad that more BS than anything seems to be going on when using the messenger service here.  BS propositions with no references.  Or guys who just want to talk dirty to me.  Not happening...  There are websites they can pay for computer porn chat.  LOL  Consequently, I rarely use the messenger here anymore.  I will use it to chat with some other ladies I know from time to time.  Other than that, I found it to be useless.  ie: out of every single hobbyist I chatted with on TER Messenger, not ONE led to an appointment.

Just my .02 cents.

and I really want to LOVE the messenger system lol

Well said and full of wisdom. That's what a strong and wise woman would do.

LMAO!

I own a small company and stopped posting on Craigs list because the quality of the calls from there was horrible. Mostly people looking for the lowest price. TER is a great site and the only one I use for reviews but any good client worth his salt will be verified through a site. As a hobbyist, its just easier for me to get what I want. This guy is a wanna be and a flake.