got outed within the past few days. She has always been discreet and I feel horrid because it is identifying photos of her, that we not taken with her consent (very obvious). The guy posted them on a differing website to slam her, although he admits to getting what he paid for and her being nice to him. From what I gather, he felt he paid too much for her and turned around and outed her with very horrid pictures.

If he outed her, he certainly couldn't say it would be unfair for her to out him.  And that might make her feel better temporarily.  But long term, she'd need to worry about what it would do to her reputation if she decides to keep providing.  I suspect if word got around that she outed him, no matter how justified, guys would get very reluctant to see her out of fear she could out them if they had a misunderstanding.

That would be a legitimate reason to DNS someone.

I'm so sorry for your ATF. Please let her know I'll be thinking of her and wishing her well. Some people are so miserable they will do anything out of desperation to bring you down to their level. I hope she can keep that in the forefront of her mind and not let the pain of betrayal consume her. I'm completely unaware of sites that "out" people.  How sad that sites condone this type negligent behavior.

if she outs him.

A notice on the national black list boards, however, is very much called for.

The guy is a sick-o to do that.

that someone would ever do something like this.   Hopefully she does everything in her power to make sure that no one else sees this guy.  

There is never a reason to "OUT" anyone, good, bad or indifferent.

Depends if she has his real info. If she only has a handle and a throw away phone number and an anonymous email address, it is a moot point.  

...you're only repeating what she told you.  You don't know what went on BCD which led to her being outed.

For example, have you asked yourself (or her):  how did he obtain those "very horrid pictures" of her?

Yes, you are correct. I can only go by what she told me and his post accompanying it. I personally do not get why a guy would say  he admits to getting what he paid for and her being nice to him. Then to proceed to out her. Makes little sense to me.

Just wrong.  We have t trust each other on some basic level.  Clearly this violates this trust.  I wouldn't want it done to me, would wish it on no one else.

I hope administration applied the correct punishment to the perpetrator.

amn right she should out him on every outlet around, because he is a proven ass hat and someone who will use extortion to get what he wants.

But as many have said, real info can be faked. You can give a name, it just might not be yours. Well, the general thought on this board is not to give escorts your real info. So, what do the ladies do in this case and many others like it