There are some providers whom I am not totally sold on seeing based only on their reviews and their website. So I want to ask a question and use the friendliness of their response to decide if should take the plunge. The question should show I am serious but not committed. And the question should provide an easy out if I don't like their answer..

Also, expecting this kind of interaction with many, if not most, girls will get you cut off as a time-waster.

their take on the friendliness of the person in question.  If she has been friendly with them in communication, then she will be more likely than not be friendly with you, unless you have a totally repulsive personality.  

It's not to chat. I want to only ask one question before sending the whole enchilada text to book a session. Perhaps something like if they could confirm the donation is $$$?

I was going to tell him that providers have a word for a guy like this . . . . .    Lol

I don't think you both understood my question. Or are you saying the only question a provider will indulge is "Are you available at XX time for a X hour session?" ? And any other question is considered time wasting?

Many SWs are lazy at pursuing clients.  They can call them time wastes ... but it joften means they don't want to be bothered closing the deal.  They just want the sale handed to them.

Generally, your first intro has one goal...to show you're serious, so keep it short and sweet - date (or date range), length of time, incall/outcall and general location.  You can mention if you're a VIP membership of some site like TER or p411 to add legitimacy. If at all possible, postpone screening forms to later if required.  

is about specific sexual activities on her menu, she will most likely shut you down right there.  Those are the kinds of questions LE asks when they are setting up a working girl.  If you are asking something innocuous, like does she see guys with an eye patch and a wooden leg, it has nothing to do with sex, and she should answer without any blowback.  

(ask in the form of an answer). More accurately, in your into, describe a scenario and allow her the opportunity to respond or not. eg:
I only enjoy sessions that allow me to  xyz... Please respond if you think we are compatible and I'd be happy to then share my references, etc...

you offer a bit more context regarding just what problem you're trying to solve.

This is really not complicated.  

IMO, a provider would see this as time-wasting:

But a little pizazz or mustard on the questions that are pertinent to the meeting. Make a little light of it, in a good way. Most have got a kick out of it but you have to be creative. Now, in all fairness, some may not see the humor. But some let their guard and open up. But if you get her booker, shit watch out, game over for you....lol..They don't take too much shit.
It's my approach, but some have found my jovial nature kinda childish....but I don't care.

In your OP you referred to a "friendly response" and then later on you dropped the "friendly". Not sure what you're looking for really.

Hey  @Coeur-de-lion  

I am ok with a curt response if it is timely. But a curt response 24 hours after my question is a red flag.

are giving you the 411 on what many of my colleagues and I would consider this (re: wasting time).  

It's the "game-playing" which is exhausting and  
frustrating when it often occurs  between  both  
perspective Clients and some Providers.

see your jovial nature?   LOL    (Just kidding, bro, you're one of the less serious ones here, and I like that.)

Ask the question to the lady in question, not this board. You have a 50/50 shot in getting the answer you seek. Good luck
Taylor

..Most of the times the info is on the website.. Why should you need to talk about that?

Well I could say the ad looks really old, so want to confirm what is latest and greatest donation is. We've all seen providers who post different rates on different websites . So it's never clear till you hear it from the horses mouth.

I like the idea of asking if they prefer morning or afternoon session. It shows some respect for them which should win you some points.  If you've got any more along those lines, do share them. I think asking about clothes may be dicey . Asking about music seems too irrelevant and more about you then them.

Thanks for sharing your insights. Would you consider an inquiry like this time-wasting or serious:

Do you swallow?

Some people find the ability to create humor to be a gift, while more serious people think its some form of mental illness. Everyone can decide for themselves.  Lol   I'm happy to entertain you now and then.  

Whenever I was on the fence about seeing a provider and went ahead and scheduled the date anyway, it didn't turn out liked I'd hoped. I should've listened to my gut. I do now. Live and learn.

Actually that is a good question. And anyone who says that it's not (That person will take whatever is given to them).  Providers should ask the Hobbyist to be specific in what it is that he is looking for.  The more details that the Hobbyist gives and the more he's able to be flexible with the $$$$$CASH$$$$$ he has on hand then the easier it would be on both sides of the fense.