There is an upscale provider that I really want to see, I contacted her, gave her one of my references and after a couple of days she replied approving me. I called my reference to ask if she had been contacted and she said no.
Is it suspicious? Could it be that shes not screening? She has  20+ good reviews.

if they have been referenced?

I think your reference made the right call.


I can't spell

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ladies don't really screen. Some do, but a lot of them don't.

I have done the same thing. I have used one lady as a reference to see another one, and when I went back to the first one for our next fuck meet, I asked if so-and-so called her. She thought for a minute and said NO...

A lot of times they just want you to believe that they screen. But when that rent or car payment comes due all the screening goes out the window for lot of them.

Its slow time in the business right now, with Christmas just round the corner....Also keep that in mind...

I sometimes even check with a previous provider before even asking another. Good providers are not territorial and are more likely to know the low-down than on others than me.

especially with younger, inexperienced providers with fewer reviews. In this case, an upscale provider that is highly reviewed that didnt check my references wouldnt concern me. Its possible they just missed it. Its happened to me where they just forgot to check my references. Sometimes they feel a comfort level with you with good email banter and they might get overwhelmed in there personal or business life and they just skip it by accident. It happens. Believe me.

she approved you..now you wonder why?..are you really that insecure?..

I thought the OP was asking the reference if his future date had contacted her, after gettiing the
go a head from his future date.

Like he was verifying the future Lady.

There's close to zero chance that the girls I have been with would remember me absent a promp, and probably not then.  I'm some guy they fucked four+ months ago for money. This is why P411 and whitelists here exist.  Different, of course, if you're a regular of someone.

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"i'd never belong to a club that would have me as a member...

There are so many ways to screen. Provider references are just ONE way.

This is why so many guys are easily able to rip women off, rob them or hurt them, because many providers don't check your refs, and they know this. If I am going to go through the trouble of asking for them, you can bet I am checking them out. Often times if I know a guy from the boards and he has 50 plus reviews, I may not spend a lot of time screening as I would with just some random dude. I still ask questions, just not as many.

I'm really curious about this.  I use an email that has nothing to do with me and only offer p411 or an agency reference.  I imagine you're talking about guys who don't completely isolate their p4p email and identity, but if not, will you elaborate?

I call bullshit then.  I'm no dummy on teh interwebs and I cover my tracks.  I don't imagine there's a super secret club of providers out there that can magically decode my separated accounts, etc. that i use to keep real life and p4p separated.  The weak link in a good setup is Gina at p411, and I believe her when she says she destroys connections because she couldn't resurrect a cancelled one when pressed.  That's really the only way to tie "me" to Bromios.

I'm sure you can figure out mongers who don't try hard, but just like you, a few of us make some effort to keep our personal business private.  The idea that there's some secret knowledge of figuring out identities seems silly.  

If there really was, people in more lucrative businesses than p4p would be monetizing it, selling it to governments, operating criminal fraud rings, etc. - and it'd not be a "secret" at all.

Nice typo LR "not in pubic"

Pubic in the brain after all the pubic hair threads!

Ever wonder how some people's info gets out? You keep on wondering lol. Do you know how easy it is to trace your IP address back to the very computer and location you sent an email from? How about sending emails from your phone? You don't know many cops do you? Meh. I am not saying that's what "I" do, but don't kid yourself honey. Some hookers have more connections than you realize, so you just keep on calling bs ha ha.

If you are really naive enough to believe that anything you put on the net can't be connected back to you...you're living in a dream world. I am not saying the average provider using a site like verifyhim.com can find that info on there, but if someone wants to out you, they very well can find a way to do it.

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using various proxy servers dear. If admin on a hooker board can do that, what makes you think serious IT guys and cops can't beak through that, and more? How do you think child porn franchises are busted? I am not saying anyone is going to go through all this trouble to bust the average joe, but don't assume it 'can't' be done.  I will just let you keep wondering.

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Identifying the use of a proxy is easy.  Identifying the actual address behind it is not.  Either way, we agree that the use of advanced tracking is beyond the usual screening approach, so (setting aside the condescension... which just makes me feel like I got my level 1 board badge) I take your comment to mean "really motivated people might be able to learn more than some think" and that makes good sense.

maybe she googled your name and it showed your work address along with your work email.

You can also find out where a person lives if they paid property taxes by going to county Tax website of that state.   However you have to know what city that person lives in.  So it might be best for security reasons not to disclose what city you are from