"If i'm gonna p4p, it's gonna be with a women that i can't have in the civee world."


 Do you know why you can't have real beauties in your civve world ?

Because you think you can't.

Every night thousands and thousands of very  beautiful civvie women sit at home alone wondering why no one is calling her.
Many guys think they aren't good enough for those beauties .

If you thing you aren't attractive enough, many beautiful women  are not into strikingly handsome  men for a variety of reasons .

I think I'll make some calls .


 Have a nice night.

I try and stay loyal to providers, but I notice after a few repeats, it gets "harder" to get "hard" At first I thought it had something to do with ED, but being fit and in my mid 30's, I could not find any smoking gun.. My guess is my brain is just letting me know it is no longer attracted/excited by the provider... Little to do with my diet, testosterone, or how many days I went without jerking off Does this happen to all hobbyists? Is the solution just to search for a new provider or is there a way to rekindle the excitement? I love the convenience of being a repeat client, since I avoid all the pre-date nervousness of meeting someone new..

I should add that the providers I see aren't my favorite body types and such. I see them because their rates are more along what I can afford.. But perhaps it is better to have sex less frequently with more attractive providers?

-- Modified on 2/6/2012 8:03:02 PM

The phenomena that you are experiencing is basically the "marriage effect". It's the reason why married couples have less sex as time elapses after their marriage date.

It's also another reason why some prefer staying single to getting married.

Posted By: 1800hotstud

I try and stay loyal to providers, but I notice after a few repeats, it gets "harder" to get "hard" At first I thought it had something to do with ED, but being fit and in my mid 30's, I could not find any smoking gun.. My guess is my brain is just letting me know it is no longer attracted/excited by the provider... Little to do with my diet, testosterone, or how many days I went without jerking off Does this happen to all hobbyists? Is the solution just to search for a new provider or is there a way to rekindle the excitement? I love the convenience of being a repeat client, since I avoid all the pre-date nervousness of meeting someone new..

I should add that the providers I see aren't my favorite body types and such. I see them because their rates are more along what I can afford.. But perhaps it is better to have sex less frequently with more attractive providers?

-- Modified on 2/6/2012 8:03:02 PM

First, I get tired if the provider has a 7 in the looks department, and I'll probably won't go back. However, I'll go back again if she has spectacular skills. I hate to break the news to you, but, it's also the same for very attractive providers, ranging from 9-10's on appearance. Met this one chick that was consistent with 9 on looks and 10 on performance. Seen her like 5 times, and got tired. Same with others, after seeing them so many times, you been there, done that. What's new?

I have learned that, waiting for a month will defintiely increase your drive. I was seeing her like 5 times a month, that's overindulgence. It's like having an SO, you get tired after a while, and want to fuck something different.

To answer your question, yes, it does happen to the majority of hobbyist. Now, if I have a favorite, I will only see her twice a month, or just once a month. I find that changing my diet, which means, seeing multiple different providers definitely increase your sex drive. Also, try different varieties too. Don't just stick to blondes eye spinners, mix it up. Last month, I mainly saw mostly puerto rican girls, and damn, my sex drive kicked into overdrive. They can suck a good one! Had this one puerto rican girl, she sucked my cock so good, I booked another appointment with her the next day just for the cock sucking session, and didn't want the pussy.

Anyways, mix up your variety, and limit the amount of times you see her.

get any civee pussy?
If so, i'd save fucking the less attractive women, for my civee life.
If i'm gonna p4p, it's gonna be with a women that i can't have in the civee world.
It's up to you, but, i would save my hobby money for fucking some real beauties.
Their are ALOT of them out there, and most have about the same rates as the average looking provider, atleast in my area.
Why settle for second best??

The excitement and getting to know your provider as a person could play a factor. I know a few providers I see on a regular now, before I actually got know them, I literally walked in the room hard. But after you start to some what know them, you view them more as person, & some a friend, rather then a sex object.

The excitement part could be from the lack of the thrill of hobbying now. When you 1st started seeing providers it was the of rush as to wondering whats going to happen, and all that got me. Once you get settle in with a few nice providers the excitement of the thrill will fade.

For me the thrill is gone, because I have a few providers I see on regular now, and I only go to see them when I'm in need of sex. Before it was nothing to just a pretty face on backpage or eros, and go see her if she was legit. As for right now I rarely see a new provider unless a provider or hobbyist I know recommends her.

I have been very fortunate to have met a couple of ladies over the years that I have seen regularly for years with great results. In fact the sex with woman that I am currently seeing has only gotten more amazing over time and I fully expect it to continue to get better.

While I agree that finding your favorite body type is important initially I have always found that making the right mental connection is the key for a great long term connection.

Good luck.

and while some of us may have similar needs, there is never any one size fits all formula to what makes for the best satisfaction.

Don't feel that you have any moral committment to continue seeing a provider who does not turn you on any more.  This is a business and they are pros.  You will not be doing them or yourself any favor to continue trying to make something work when it isn't going to.

Do experiment and see what works for you.  By all means, hobby half as much with a twice as expensive gal whom you think will light your fire repeatedly.

Best wishes with this and let us know how it goes.

There seem to be two kinds of fatigue. Sometimes I do get tired of a provider but sometimes repeated visits can make the provider not try quite so hard or make assumptions about you or your likes. The best ones keep it fresh and interesting, however, and leave you wanting to come back.

I think a big part of repeats for me is making a mental connection with the provider in addition to the physical attraction.

A good idea is to have a rotation of a couple ATFs and fit in a newbie every month or two. I've got one that's great with p2p in the shower, another that's great on her knees, one that's great when I'm behind her and another that's great when she's behind me. Depends on what kind of experience I feel like that day.

Here in LA I also tend to have the opposite problem. Many of our providers are here on 3 or 12 month student visas and when you find a great one that you click with, they have to leave in a few months.

Connection.  Of course, it helps that she's right down my wheelhouse, in addition to being a freak.  Four days in, gets me so hard it's actually painful.

Otherwise, it only stands to reason that you'll "perform" better with girls you're better attracted to.  Mix it up a little, meet some who meets your preferences and see how it goes.  This might require reducing frequency to allow you the cash to do so, but things could be worse.  Suppose (1) you had NO cash to hobby; or (2) you couldn't get it up at ALL.

Pussy burn out in general.  After my out of town trip 2 weeks ago where I went a little nuts (for me) in provider frequency I'm now in an all out phase where I want nothing to do with pussy, anyone's.  Wonder how long it will take for the libido to recharge.

a couple of months. Seeing like 5 providers a week is too much for me these days. I try to limit it to a conservative 4 a month. Sometimes I might even kick it back to 3 or 2 a month.

i SEE WHAT YOU MEAN. tHERES A SCIENTIFIC EXPLANATION FOR THAT. tHERE ARE CHEMICALS RELEASED WHEN IN BEGINNING STAGES OF RELATIONS SIMILIAR TO FEELINGS PRODUCED BY CERTAIN DRUGS ECT ECT. iTS ALL BRAIN CHEMISTRY. THERES AN EXCITING CHEMICAL RELEASED IN BEGINNING STAGES OF RLATIONS. tHEN WHEN IN LTR. tHERES IS A SEDATIVE TYPE CHEMICAL RELEASED.  { D i d I mention I am goin to murder the caps lock key?}  Ok so no you arent weird your just apparently into the exciting chemicals all himans brains relese in beginning of relations. i am also. i find myself avoidong calls of oldie but goodies at times and instead seein a new client. Simply cuz its more exciting to me. i feel your pain baby. xo-

The fact that it's possible that the "newness" wore off. Maybe she let's you do whatever you want, and the, as B.B. King would say, the thrill is gone. Try not seeing her for a while. Your body will tell you if and when you wanna see her again. If your body says no.......well, I'm sure you can find another. There's PLENTY of hot, sexy ladies to give your hard earned money to, and even more who wil gladly take it.