For hobbyists, how important would you say chemistry is between you and your provider during a session? Obviously during an extended meeting the two (or more) of you will have to speak to each other eventually... But what about shorter meetings say for 60, 90, or even 120 minutes? Do you really care if the two of you click? Or is it enough for her to just look appealing and "fulfill her duty", so to speak?  

..since some providers are so nervous meeting me for the first time that I will do everything in my power in making sure that the chemistry is as good in person as it must have been during back & forth of the session email/text exchange.  

Have you ever felt that there was chemistry but the provider did not and as a result chose to stop seeing you? If so, how did you react?  

Sure it's a must for longer (+2 hour) sessions, but even an hour or 90 minute session with my ATF would be lacking if we didn't have that genuine rapport. I also wouldn't repeat nearly as often if it was just a fulfillment of duty on her part.  

I have never had a provider ask to not see me again. In fact many let me know when they are back in town in case i want to book again.

There are two types of atfs. There are chemistry atfs, and there are get off atfs. As for the chemistry atfs it’s never an insistence, rather it just happens. With get off atfs, you know you’re going to get a hard charging roll in the hay. With chemistry atfs the sex lingers, the conversation continues, and the lines blur somewhat. With get off atfs, when the roll is over, you’re outta there. Both are important to the discerning gentleman. However, to be perfectly honest, once chemistry takes hold, those ladies get 80% of my money.  

and I've had it with a handful. What I really seek, though, is the kind of chemistry that makes me want to come back again and again and again. That's only happened twice. The second time, I knew in the first half hour I'd be seeing her many times.

As far as my screening is concerned I'm fairly, perhaps even excessively at times, stringent. As I've mentioned I am still fairly new and there has been a learning curve (thankfully nothing more severe than an annoyance) but I don't think it's fair to say that it's a result of my screening standards that I have encountered gentlemen that who lack self awareness or aren't mature enough to effectively process a critique or even a different point of view.  

You sound like a sweetheart!  

especially because my comment was somewhat of a tongue-in-cheek poke!

I love those little serendipitous moments! I'm glad my curiousity was able to help you in your quandary! I hope you have a great time with whichever lady you end up seeing this week

It sounds like you and I would get on absolutely terribly

Yea.. that went right over my head lol

...with almost all of my encounters. I'll attend Meet & Greets for the specific purpose of gauging whether we have the potential for chemistry to support an extended session (most of my encounters are at least 2 hours in length and some fun longer, to overnights). Without chemistry, such extended sessions would be a disaster.

spilling our seed, many of us would just go to a rub and tug and get a HJ or BJ, and save a ton of money in the process.  For me, the social game is as important, if not more, than the sexual aspect.  I want to have an experience that engages all of  my senses, as well as my mind, so I most often do two hour sessions, which leaves enough time for stimulating conversation and getting to know each other, bracketed by a couple of orgasms, one before and one after the stimulating conversation.  I have found my connection and chemistry with a provider, and accordingly my desire to repeat often in the beginning, is tied more to the social time we spend together than the sexual time.  In other words, I go there for the sex, but the chemistry is what makes me return.    

If we don't like each other, why bother?  Just move on.  Fortunately, most of the ladies I've met in this game feel the same way...  

but it can be nice. There are some escorts that just don't want to "connect" and are still a lot of fun. A lot.
Chemistry is nice when you like to repeat. Like me.  

I mean how can it be gfe without the chemistry sizzling or simmering.  I do. It has to be there.  You are curling into each other physically and emotionally blending into one entity of delight.  That just cannot happen without chemistry.  

most of the time. There is nothing any better than
having that Electricity flowing with that special lady that you  
have come back to see.. your friendship is sooo good that if you met  
her originally outside of the hobby you would easily be good friends in  
the civvie world..

and I think there is always chemistry of some sort present. It is like a scale, sometimes the chemistry is powerful, sometimes it is weak.  

Back in the day niche was the word. Sometimes you wanted a certain hair color. Sometimes a certain boob size (not just large). Sometimes you wanted a certain pussy type. Sometimes you wanted a certain acronym, a fbsm, without the sex, a certain tightness of skin. If you're open to all races, that was a huge factor. There were/are ladies for every fantasy. Sometimes you played Escort Roulette. First legitimate ad to pop up, or first lady to respond. The list goes on and on. Chemistry was big, but sometimes you needed to play rock star.  

Yes-There has to be a Chemistry !  You can sense it in the first few minutes-often on the phone or even in a text.

I've seen a lot of girls ...once.. then never again.. It's not like we didn't get along.. it was just pretty routine.. I tend to see girls for a repeat when we have something good to talk about.. chemistry by another word..

i think there has to be some chemistry, I will to spend half of the booked time getting to know the lady some. especially for the first session. i like to get to know her some, and find out what she likes, ones we are comfortable with each other, the play time just is a hole lot better for both.

Because I was having too much fun with my lab partner, who was my GF at the time, creating new combination of chemicals and seeing how they would turn out. I learned then that some combinations are toxic, some combinations do nothing, and some combinations boil over into a foaming mess.  Those tend to be the most fun, but if you don't have good chemistry, then the trust in each other can be lacking that allows for experimentation.

It's not rocket science.  
If both parties have a vested interest in making the session the most that it can be, then it's easy to envision a provider having great chemistry with a majority of the clients that she chooses to see. A provider who goes that extra mile to create a site and/or ad that entices a target audience will generally have a better chance of getting that chemistry just right.

Thank you for your input Caressa! I was hoping a few providers would chime in with their perspective!

At the peak of her career, before retirement,  one of my two ATF's had reviews that were  fascinating to read. It was as though she was almost a different person in each one. She had the ability to read a guy and become what he was looking for. It was quite a talent.

I'm not sure why it had not occurred to me that clients would be looking for  a "get off and get out" or "hard knocking" (I think I got that right?) meeting until I read Mojojo's response above. Very interesting. It makes sense and I feel sort of silly for not having considered it before. I really just assumed most Johns are looking for an "experience" of sorts, ESPECIALLY when acronyms like GFE are being thrown around.

Does this conversation sound familiar?

I agree that chemistry exists on a sliding scale and that it isn't a constant thing.  

I don't need to "connect" on anything more than a physical level to enjoy myself or feel "chemistry" in a one hour session. Quite frankly I am not looking for anything more than that in a session, although I will confess I have found a LOT more at times even though I wasn't looking for it.

I think it's pretty deep in the psyche to want to feel connected to other humans. Even in the highly circumscribed world of P4P I think we all enjoy the fleeting intimacy more if it feels . . . intimate. I think why some people burn out doing this is exactly because they can't get that from a session. We all want and need some emotional sustenance. And it also happens to be my chief concern and complaint about duos--you can right away tell when there is no or very little connection between the 2 women having sex in front of me. They may be physically intimate but as far as connection they may as well be standing next to each other in the laundromat.  

but chemistry is not important to me.  Maybe it's the fact that I'm not looking for anything except p4p.  That being said, I've never had a bad session with any of the girls I've seen.  Most are extremely professional and know what I want when I walk through the door.  

I have had a lot of sessions where her first words to me were "habla Espanol"  

For me it's important - always he been. You'll get much more if me if we have mutual chemistry than you otherwise would. Simple xx

Not in this day and age at least. Once upon a time I ran into my share of "dumb white people" who would comment on "how good my English" was,  but that hasn't happened to me for a long long time.

Senor, she's stalking you...Do us all a favor and finally just do her...So she isn't 18, but she's a pisana.
End it now...it's getting pathetic her chasing your sorry ass. Just do her..

Replace "he" with "has", "if" with "of" and "mutual chemistry" with "perceived chemistry" and I'm sure a client will get much more from you than he otherwise will. Simple.

I think chemistry is very important. To me that means a return visit or not. If I click with someone I will definitely repeat. If it was difficult or the conversation was labored than I most likely will not repeat even if she was incredible with the sex. The awkward times before and after sex would make it not worth it for me to repeat.

otherwise she'll pretty much just lie there like a starfish the whole time without even so much as letting out a moan, and then when it's finally over, both y'all will just go your separate ways like estranged divorcees without even so much as exchanging a single word. If they want her to act like she's into it, they gotta be impartially open to her suggestions without taking it so personal, just like what you said in your OP. As for me, I only care about establishing chemistry with a provider if I intend to keep her as my regular/ATF. Apart from that, I'm basically just a squirrel looking for a nut.

I only do dinner dates, overnights, travel dates so chemistry is everything. I cannot be with someone who I cannot connect with. My experiences are more than sex. So much more.

Two typos - yes
Perceived chemistry - incorrect. Mutual chemistry is what I meant. I understand fully the difference between shared and perception. Simple

I agree with there are atfs who just come for a roll in hay as one said, then there are atfs who like chemistry. I would think it is important to know who you are and what you want. Myself personally I am very socially skilled and have no problems with chemistry which I do like. I connect through personality and the others so my style is for 4 or 5 hour dates. I have enjoyed each provider and have made return visits with a couple. I am not a guy who just can show up for 60 or 90 minutes. I personally like to take the girl out eat or grab something light and maybe go for walk. I see providers and hobbyists as people with thoughts feelings and hopes of their own. Then again I am just over 40 and it is more psychological for me at this point in life. If one enjoys the quick roll in the hay that is there choice and I respect it as well. Its not who I am and I cannot be someone I am not.

Well, a man I can relate too. I hear you brother and cheering you on. It took me a number of years to figure it out. But in my place now and I love the connection with the right lady.