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rape  [reyp]  
noun  
1. the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse.  
2. any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person.  
verb  
3. to force to have sexual intercourse

By Lacie GloverPublished May 07, 2014  NerdWallet

Despite increased education and awareness, the rate of sexually transmitted diseases in America is slowly rising. In fact, STDs cost the U.S. health care system roughly $16 billion each year, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Infection rates aren’t spread evenly throughout the U.S. or across different age groups. Young people between 15 and 24 represent half of all new STD cases. STD rates also vary widely by state—the state with the highest syphilis rates (Georgia) reports 47.5 times more infections than the state with the lowest prevalence (Montana). Read on to see which states have the highest and lowest rates.

 
STDs are easily confused with sexually transmitted infections (STIs), which are sexually transmitted viral or bacterial infections that have not resulted in disease. For example, human papillomavirus (HPV) is an STI that sometimes results in genital warts, an STD. The most common STDs, in order of prevalence, are chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis—all of which can be cured with the right medication.

READ MORE: The Cost of STIs

Chlamydia, the most commonly reported STD in the U.S. for the past 20 years, often goes unnoticed because it is usually asymptomatic. However, untreated chlamydia can cause pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), a condition that damages the female reproductive system and can lead to infertility. The CDC recommends that women under 25 be tested annually for chlamydia. While most people with chlamydia have no symptoms, an abnormal discharge and burning when urinating are warning signs in both sexes.

Gonorrhea was the most common STD in the U.S. until the implementation of a health initiative by the federal government in the mid-70s, which led to drastically reduced rates. Like chlamydia, gonorrhea is also often asymptomatic and can lead to PID if left untreated. Gonorrhea warning signs include burning when urinating and abnormal discharge in men and women.

Syphilis is less common than chlamydia and gonorrhea, but is potentially the most serious of the three if left untreated. Syphilis exists in a series of distinct stages and can be treated at any stage, but damage is permanent. The late stage of syphilis can take 10 to 30 years of latency to develop, but symptoms include paralysis, dementia, and blindness. The first sign of syphilis is a single painless sore on the genitals lasting 3 to 6 weeks, after which more sores and a rash appear on one or more parts of the body.

To determine the best and worst states for STDs, CDC data on chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis were obtained. States were ranked according to prevalence of each, and then ranks were added together to find an overall score. Using this system, the state with the lowest score is the “best state” for STDs, and the state with the highest is the “worst state” for STDs. In the case of an equal score, or tied ranking, each state’s chlamydia ranking was used as a tiebreaker. This is because chlamydia cases are by far the most commonly reported—over four times more common than the next most prevalent STD, gonorrhea.

READ MORE: STD Statistics by State

Best States for STDs

1. West Virginia
(48th for chlamydia, 41st for gonorrhea, 49th for syphilis)
2. Maine
(49th for chlamydia, 44th for gonorrhea, 43rd for syphilis)
3. Vermont
(46th for chlamydia, 46th for gonorrhea, 44th for syphilis)
4. Utah
(47th for chlamydia, 45th for gonorrhea, 42nd for syphilis)
5. Wyoming
(37th for chlamydia, 50th for gonorrhea, 46th for syphilis)
6. Montana
(35th for chlamydia, 48th for gonorrhea, 50th for syphilis)
7. Idaho
(45th for chlamydia, 49th for gonorrhea, 38th for syphilis)
8. New Hampshire
(50th for chlamydia, 47th for gonorrhea, 30th for syphilis)
9. Nebraska
(38th for chlamydia, 32nd for gonorrhea, 48th for syphilis)
10. Minnesota
(43rd for chlamydia, 36th for gonorrhea, 34th for syphilis)

 
Worst States for STDs

10. North Carolina
(10th for chlamydia, 6th for gonorrhea, 24th for syphilis)
9. New York
(11th for chlamydia, 16th for gonorrhea, 7th for syphilis)
8. Texas
(13th for chlamydia, 13th for gonorrhea, 6th for syphilis)
7. Illinois
(9th for chlamydia, 10th for gonorrhea, 8th for syphilis)
6. Arkansas
(7th for chlamydia, 7th for gonorrhea, 9th for syphilis)
5. South Carolina
(5th for chlamydia, 4th for gonorrhea, 13th for syphilis)
4. Alabama
(3rd for chlamydia, 3rd for gonorrhea, 15th for syphilis)
3. Georgia
(8th for chlamydia, 5th for gonorrhea, 1st for syphilis)
2. Mississippi
(1st for chlamydia, 1st for gonorrhea, 11th for syphilis)
1. Louisiana
(4th for chlamydia, 2nd for gonorrhea, 3rd for syphilis)

-- Modified on 5/14/2014 1:50:48 AM

You consented to sex with her under the condition that you would use protection. To sneak and remove or never apply said protection without your knowledge nulls your consent. No consent = rape. Rape does not have to be forced or coerced to be legitimate. For example, it is now considered, by law, rape in several states if a man pokes holes in a condom or tampers with a woman's birth control. This is the same situation. I don't know what plan of action you can take but that is not okay and she needs to face some consequences.

Posted By: PrinceCharming

This provider I have seen several times did something I can not understand. She was sitting on top of me in bed. She ripped the condom wrapper open. I couldn't see or focus clearly on what she was doing actually, because it was dim and there was soft music playing in the background while she seemed to be applying the cover. She then sat on my dick, it was full penetration at that point. I thrusted for a couple of minutes and she used her vaginal muscles nicely. It felt a different but I dismissed it as the lube she used. Still, I checked to make sure we're protected but to my utter shock, there was no condom on! I panicked and asked her why she would do something like this without my consent. She claims it was in the heat of the moment but when I pressed her if she does that with everyone in the heat of the moment, she said that it's only with me because she really likes me beyond a client. Being clean is a must for me since I'm planning on a child with the SO. I have suspected she has romantic interests because she texts me everyday and sometimes refuses my donations after several hours of play time. However, I did not think she'd go raw on me like that in a million years. Fast forward to today, I have tested positive for a fairly serious STD. Thanks to her because I did not see anyone after her. What was she thinking? Why would she do to me? She has killed my family planning with the SO for now because I don't want to risk giving this to my SO. I'm being treated now and it won't affect me long term since it's treatable, but I feel very angry and violated.    
 Was I raped by this provider? To be fair, I was the one paying her to sex with me so there's a fine line of mutual consent but I have never consented to bareback sex. I have no desire to engage in bareback sex. Maybe it's all my fault for cheating on my spouse and I have noone to blame but myself. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm very upset and needed to talk about this somewhere.

Nice troll post

No, the scenario does not rise to the level of rape, lol. You could always contact LE and give them something to laugh about with their mouths full of Krispy Kream.

LMAO! That was worth a second read.

or even is actionable under torts or other civil laws.

But I'd like to toss this out for whatever:

If the situation were reversed, and the guy seemingly applied a condom but didn't, would that be rape?  (I note that one respondent already replied as much that it would be.)

You did not consent to having unprotected intercourse with her. Plus it sounds like there was some trickery involved what with her opening the wrapper and pretending to apply the condom. That's fucked up. Any sex act (regardless of the genders of those involved, consent in the past, consent to other sex acts, etc) performed under force, threat, coercion, diminished mental capacity, or deception is sexual assault. Granted, it may not legally be considered as such (states have different individual statutes pertaining to sex crimes), but in terms of the physical and psychological ramifications, it's rape.  

I'm very sorry that this happened to you and I hope that you'll reach out to your local sexual assault survivors advocacy organization.  

Posted By: PrinceCharming

This provider I have seen several times did something I can not understand. She was sitting on top of me in bed. She ripped the condom wrapper open. I couldn't see or focus clearly on what she was doing actually, because it was dim and there was soft music playing in the background while she seemed to be applying the cover. She then sat on my dick, it was full penetration at that point. I thrusted for a couple of minutes and she used her vaginal muscles nicely. It felt a different but I dismissed it as the lube she used. Still, I checked to make sure we're protected but to my utter shock, there was no condom on! I panicked and asked her why she would do something like this without my consent. She claims it was in the heat of the moment but when I pressed her if she does that with everyone in the heat of the moment, she said that it's only with me because she really likes me beyond a client. Being clean is a must for me since I'm planning on a child with the SO. I have suspected she has romantic interests because she texts me everyday and sometimes refuses my donations after several hours of play time. However, I did not think she'd go raw on me like that in a million years. Fast forward to today, I have tested positive for a fairly serious STD. Thanks to her because I did not see anyone after her. What was she thinking? Why would she do to me? She has killed my family planning with the SO for now because I don't want to risk giving this to my SO. I'm being treated now and it won't affect me long term since it's treatable, but I feel very angry and violated.    
 Was I raped by this provider? To be fair, I was the one paying her to sex with me so there's a fine line of mutual consent but I have never consented to bareback sex. I have no desire to engage in bareback sex. Maybe it's all my fault for cheating on my spouse and I have noone to blame but myself. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm very upset and needed to talk about this somewhere.

You consented to sex, so rape is out of the question.  However, a battery is simply defined as a harmful touching of another.  How do you know the provider gave you an STD?  Have you discussed this with her and did she test positive for the same disease?  Have you even told her about your infection?   Have you told your wife?  You are exceedingly irresponsible if you have not done these things.

All in all I find your story implausible.  Sounds more like a 50's high school pamphlet warning of the dangers of sex.

sexual assault
Web definitions
a statutory offense that provides that it is a crime to knowingly cause another person to engage in an unwanted sexual act by force or threat; "most states have replaced the common law definition of rape with statutes defining sexual assault"-

That is straight copy/paste of my results when I put in "define sexual assault" on google.

Now, it is your job to decide this:

1.) Do you want to pursue, find out if you can press charges, decide if you would, realizing while applying the consequences towards your assailant, also outing (at the minimum) your cheating?
If you DO pursue legal ramifications, the SO *will* find out, you will HAVE to tell her before the fire gets too big... Would you try to "contain" the story as only cheating? Would you expose your hobby life, to protect other hobbiest? Do you feel the provider should be punished for what she did? Can you live with this ordeal being exposed? You may also want to consider your "employment" & the (negative) impact this could potentially have....

And then there is the other option...

2.) Keep your effing mouth shut & pray to God this never sees the light of day. Eat your antibiotics & hope you can keep the SO's hands off of you until the pills have done their job.
Cross your fingers for other hobbiest & hope this doesn't happen to them...

 
My two cents, for what it's worth (which probably ain't much) what is done in the dark, eventually comes to the light. This is pretty serious, consider the consequences either way, you take route 2, and somehow, your SO finds out about it anyway. Assuming this is a life-time commitment (considering you are planning on bringing a child into the world together...) losing your SO could be devastating at this point in the scenario.

 
You broke some rules, but you weren't trying to hurt anyone.
The provider def broke some rules, and whether she knew it or not (that she was infected)-
it has caused a whole lot of problems for you.
She violated you. IMO it was most definitely a form of sexual assault,  
unfortunately though, it is my opinion that means very little; it is the Law's eyes that count.

 
The question is are you going to bring this shit to light or try & bury it in a deep dark hole?
Either way, you got yourself into a nasty little hornets nest.
My heart goes out to you.
Best of luck to you either way you go & may God be with you.

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Here's some information about the laws and penalties for non-consensual transmission of an STD: http://www.criminaldefenselawyer.com/resources/transmitting-std-criminal-laws-penalties.ht

Yes.

She put you at risk you did not consent to. She stole your right to choose. Never see that birch again.

At least, a man was fined for removing a condom there. I'm sure it works both ways