[Sunday, February 09, 2003] The American Medical Association recently published what is considered by experts to be the most comprehensive sex survey in 50 years. Not since Alfred Kinsey's landmark studies in 1948 have researchers gathered so much reliable information on the sexual health of the US.

Their findings, presented by the study's lead author Edward Laumann (a sociologist at the University of Chicago), represented years of work that included in-depth interviews with 1,749 women and 1,410 men.

The results were not good. In fact, the problem appears to be twice the magnitude experts had predicted. It is no exaggeration to say that North Americans are in the midst of a sexual epidemic -- one that will probably get worse in the future.

Lack of sex is hazardous to your health

Before you run out to get tested, sit down and relax for a minute. The bad news is that there's an epidemic. The good news is that you're not hopelessly infected.

Why? Because the disease diagnosed in 43% of the women and 31% of the men is sexual dysfunction. Now think about that. Can you imagine the media response, the blaring headlines and grim-faced television news anchors, if the results were the opposite; what if researchers had discovered that sex was in some way hazardous to your health?

If anything, it's a lack of sex that can be deadly. The British Medical Journal just reported on a long-term study of nearly a thousand men between the ages of 45 and 59. In this age of "Just Say No" and "If It Feels Good It Must Be Bad" it's perhaps not too surprising that the findings have not received the attention they deserve.

You see, the data showed that the amount of sexual activity enjoyed by a man is directly proportional to both his health and longevity. Men who reported twice as much sex were half as likely to die prematurely.

Archaic religious and political restrictions on apparently essential sexual behaviour may actually be taking years off people's lives. Yet it's the greatly exaggerated and often wholly imaginary "Wages of Sin" that continues to make the front page. The fact that it's abstinence that turns out to be the really risky behaviour and that sexual dysfunction has reached epidemic proportions gets short shrift.

Devastating problem

Of the women taking part in Laumann's study, 33% said they never wanted to have sex, 26% said they didn't experience orgasm when they did have sex and 23% said sex simply wasn't pleasurable. On the other side, 33% of the men said they had persistent problems during sex, 14% said they didn't want to have sex and 8% said they derived no pleasure from sex.

Tie this to the fact that subjects diagnosed as suffering from sexual dysfunction also tended to describe their relationships as unsatisfactory and their lives in general as unhappy and the devastating nature of the problem becomes apparent.

Domeena Renshaw of the Loyola University Medical Center, author of 7 Weeks to Better Sex, says that although the numbers were twice what the experts had predicted, she was not surprised considering the increasingly long lines of couples waiting for treatment at the sexual dysfunction clinic she has run since 1972. Many of her patients have never had sex, including one couple who had been married for 23 years.

Raymond Rosen of the R.W. Johnson Medical School in New Jersey was appalled by the sheer size of the sexual dysfunction epidemic. "It's terrible," he says. For years Americans have been "getting their information about sex from magazines bought at the grocery store checkout." And those "Americans" include many so-called "experts" who then dispense their ill-gotten notions to millions.

From the radio's Pop Psych gurus to the newspaper's Love Lore columnists, the message mirrors the Uptight Right's "Sex Is Dirty" credo. That God ever invented sex in the first place was clearly a mistake so they continue to create caveats that will at least make it as unpleasant as possible. And when one of the more notorious of these screwball hypocrites got caught with pictures and both her legs spread across the Internet, support from the clinically dysfunctional was so complete that barely a single moralizing moment of her coast-to-coast broadcast was lost.

Strange behaviour

When Pfizer's director of sexual-health products, David Brinkley, was asked about the different stories he's heard in the year since his company began the commercial production of Viagra, he was quoted as saying "People are strange when it comes to sex."

Indeed. They love to wax lyrical when it comes to the birds and the bees and especially those little ducks they say mate for life; a "natural" role model humans would be well-advised to follow. But mention gay giraffes or masturbating monkeys and suddenly an equally "natural" behaviour becomes bestial.

Recorded history goes back about 10,000 years. Cave paintings go back about twice as far while communal living goes back twice that and ancestors indistinguishable (given a haircut and shave) from modern humans go back twice that. Half the people who ever lived are alive today. What this means is that there is a whole world of human behaviour separated by time and space.

The notion that love and marriage and sex go together and last forever is just the latest blip on the screen; a passing fad that, when taken seriously, results in a third of all males and almost half of all females unhappy with their lives dissatisfied with their relationships and sexually dysfunctional.

That an individual can passionately adore a person, find a person a wholly compatible partner and still be blown away by an anonymous body in a pile of bodies is so common to the human experience that you would think it would be accepted apriori, yet women who enjoy sex are sluts and men who enjoy variety are philanderers.

It has been said that those who don't study history are condemned to repeat it; a sentiment paraphrased (sort of) by Yogi Bera's, "It's deja vu all over again."

Yet from Joe McCarthy's equivalent of the Salem witch trials to the Drug War's attempt at prohibition, people continue to ignore the lessons of the past.

Perhaps one day, in the distant future, students of history will read about Holland's Tulip Mania, Great Britain's South Sea Island Bubble and the West's 20th Century Sex Epidemic. But until that time, the future of sex appears to be decidedly unsexy.

Dr. Stephen Mason is a psychologist living in Southern California. He is a former university professor, syndicated columnist, talk radio show host and comedy writer for Joan Rivers. He is a member of MENSA, a recipient of the Committee for the Scientific Investigation of Claims of the Paranormal's Citizen Sane award, and once appeared as a centerfold in Playgirl magazine. Currently, he serves as Media Affairs Director of The Lifestyles Organization. Address comments and column suggestions to him directly at [email protected]

-- Modified on 3/4/2003 1:37:00 PM

The more we do it the better it gets, the better it feels, the better we feel and the happier we are.

It was so true, when we throttled back (usually at her request) to several times a week, we were less apt to want to go out and get active (i.e. walks, drives, etc.) but when it was more than once or several times a day, it really made a difference in frame of mind, attitude, general outlook on life, etc.

I always told her that the longer we wait between having sex leads to KSB (Killer Sperm Buildup) for me, and walking bowlegged for her!

Here's to swimmin' with bowlegged women!!! =:0

-- Modified on 3/4/2003 2:38:25 PM

I'm constantly amazed how otherwise intelligent adults can't instantly turn off their brains and parrot back some "archaic religious" teachings  when it comes to sex (Hey, do you think brainwashing them in sunday School when they're children might be the reason?).

Ditto, with the political agendas of BOTH extremes of the political spectrum.  I see absolutely no less danger from the authoritarian left wing types as I do from the religious right wing(nut) types.  They both seek to impose an intrusive agenda on people of free will, making them equally to be feared.

As for the rest of the study, I doubt few on this board could disagree with any of it.  

A little perspecitve on the "sex experts" in the magazines at the grocery store checkout- a friend of mine is a well regarded sex expert with many books to her credit.  She was frequently quoted, or should I say misquoted, in many of the women's magazines, and a couple of the men's mags as well.  In the case of the women's mags, she got so tired of them changing her words to support THEIR made-up premise for the article (and attributing it to her), that she quit letting them use her quotes.  The magazines just wanted to create insecurity, fear or just titilating curiosity and didn't care about the facts.  She said if she told them their premise wasn't supported by the facts they'd just ignore her and run it anyway.  

The only thing worse than no information is misinformation. Thanks for an good post.

You want to stay young? Then drink from my fountain of youth!

(Ok there, I said it. Bada-boom)

It doesn't surprise me that lack of sex adversely affects your health - mental and physical.  But isn't it also interesting that other studies have found married men live longer than unmarried, while married women actually live shorter lives than their unmarried sisters?  Are married men getting more sex than they let on? (lol)

-Anya

The only way I get any at home, is self service. (8^O

Many years ago, I recall a report that came somewhere out of Europe, that showed married men lived longer than single men, but that deaf married men lived much longer than them both...

Baby, you're just what I need to live longer!  Let's put this study to practice and prove 'em right!

followed by pan sexual lacto-ovo vegetarians and symphony conductors. Guys who jump in front of moving vehicles to collect the insurance money came in last.

Well, I figure it would take many days of contiguous study, so a grant would be helpful.  I suppose a test study could be done over a few hours, but that sampling would be rather limited, wouldn't you think?

I loved Charlie McCarthy!!!

HPG

Their main message is to exploit the insecurities that woman feel so that they can get advertising revenue from the makers of beauty products.  

As parents, counteract this pernicious influence by reinforcing your daughters' self-esteem.

Gee, I think a TER grant for that would be splendid!  It would go for a good cause after all.  Extending our lives and such.  I'm sure we can compile enough DATY to make you beg stopping the research for a short period of time.  I wouldn't want you overwhelmed after all.

(as I recall)..... men need three things...... sex..... food....and silence.