Hi. I have been reading posts on this site for about 3-4 weeks now. I love it. All of you are so insightfull and nice. First let me start off by explaining that I am not the typical TER reader. I am a wife and mother of two. No, I am not an investigator,LE,cheated on spouse, or anything else weird. I am however someone who feels very out of place. I sound more like most of the guys stories, except, I am a woman. I have been married for 17 years. I have 2 children. I am 5ft2, 125lbs,red hair, brown eyes. The reason I started reading this is I guess you could say I am kind of living vicariously through you girls. I read a couple of replies by the guys on here stating that a certain type of wife does not exist. While I agree that there are very few, I am one. Yes, I mean I enjoy sex. I know, I know, I am married, WITH CHILDREN, and I actually ENJOY sex. In fact, I enjoy it way too much. Any position, any time of day, BJ, you name it, I enjoy it. Talking dirty, watching porn, playing with sex toys, the whole works. Here is where my dilema lies. My husband, not so much into sex, and not nearly as wild as I am. OK, I know what has popped into all of your heads. No, I am not ugly, or deformed, or diseased. And no, my husband is not gay and is not cheating. I have been unlucky in life in the reguard that I am teamed up with a man who does not enjoy sex that much. I KNOW he is not cheating. He is always with me. No buisness trips, no late nights at the office. He states that he is just getting old, however it has been this way for over 10 years. He says he cannot keep up with me, and that I am a nympho, which I really think I am. It drives me crazy. It is like a built up energy that has no where to go. I have never seen a group that can talk so maturly and openly about these things. I hope even though I am different then your typical poster, I hope I will be accepted. I will not post much. Just wanted to find out if there is anything that I could try to make it better. At first I thought that it was me, maybe I just sucked(no pun intended)in bed. So I did the unthinkable, I slept with someone else who had been flirting with me for years. I got comments from him that actually had me stop and say "really"? I don't mean to sound conceeded, but I got really good comments.I just did not want you all to get the idea that I am some nympho scank who was not appealing in bed. My husband is not into BJ's, I love to give them. He does not DATY (I learned all these abbreviations from this site, He He)I am talking once or twice, at the most,IN A WHOLE YEAR. Yes, we have even had sexual conversations about it and I tell him what I like. He says"you know me, I just don't get into all that stuff."I will say that I do not DT very well. I seem to have an over active gag reflex or something. And I have no problem with BBBJCIM? I think that is the right abbreviation for that? However if I do this, it takes him like 3 days to get it back up again, and I cannot go that long without sex. I go long enough as it is.And as for 69, yeah right, I'll be that age before I see that again, if then. I also wanted to point out that as most wives would have some sort of problem with this hobby. I see nothing wrong with it.Maybe because I am a nympho though. I read all the reports of all these providers getting all this stuff, and getting paid for it besides that!!! I mean wow!!!And you husbands, if you are not getting it at home then you should be getting it safely somewhere. You only live one time, just once. And there is no way you should waste your life by avoiding something that you enjoy, that should be enjoyed. I actually have a goal to have sex in every state. My husband drove a semi-truck for awhile so that helped with that a little. I tried to get him to do me in an airplane bathroom once so we could be members of the mile high club, but that wasn't gonna happen.Well anyway, you all seem very insightfull, I was scared to post, but thought, what the heck. I hope I did not offend anyone. Any advise from either side would be helpful. I know one thing for sure, if you do come back to another life after you die, I know just what I'm gonna do when I grow up

I'm not sure what to say.  At times I felt like the next sentence you were going to write is that you are thinking of becoming a provider.  Your last statement seems to suggest that is a desire as well.  But I'm not sure if that is what you want to explore.  Perhaps you are intrigued with the idea of visiting a male provider.  I can't tell from what you wrote.

I also sense somewhat of a mixed message.  You seem very supportive of the hobby and married guys who play in it.  You also express wonderment at the ladies who provide.  But when you mentioned your affair, you prefaced it with '...the unthinkable' and you never really state if it was sexually satisfying although you liked the positive compliments.  While you clearly are expressing sexual frustration on the home front, did you feel guilt when you sought fun with another?

I think my best suggestion would be to point you to the The Erotic Highway message board on this very site.  The resident Love Goddess is a great sounding board for posts such as yours and you might find her thoughts to be quite compelling.

Good luck.  And keep stopping by...

There have been others in your situation who have come across this board and found it to be interesting. Their posts, coming from a different perspective, were welcome, as I remember. Don't be afraid to post.

I enjoyed hearing about your goal to have sex in every state, as I share that goal with you. You're right, you only live once.

Enjoy the erotica while you are here!

The only advice I have is to make sure your husband knows the extend of your sexual drive, and speak with him (with the help of a counselor if needed) to ensure that both of you are adequately getting your needs met.

Maybe you SHOULD be a provider!  Or maybe you should see one!  Or maybe if your husband has voyeristic tendencies, the swing scene might have extra pleasures for the two of you...
; )

Have fun!

so nice to see another female here . . . I thought I was alone in the wife/mother/nympho category.  I love any sex any time all the time anywhere as you do, but lucky for me my husband at least tries to keep up with me and is very supportive of my drive.   I know most women lose their sex drive for a while after having a child/children, but mine was exactly the opposite.  I even thought I'd lost my mind for awhile, but have just accepted that this is how I am.

Advice?  Probably not much to give.  Do you enjoy sex with other women? We have always had an agreement that I was allowed as many girls as I would like, but I find it hard to squeeze all that in and remain discreet, as  I must request no strings attached.  I have recently found one provider, a dominatrix, who is very understanding of my needs and took excellent care of me.  So maybe you could explore some of the providers on this site?  Or become one of the providers on this site?
As long as your husband is supportive (which I think is the most important part) go for it!  I find that my husband's support and encouragement empowers me to stop feeling guilty/ashamed/strange and just enjoy the ride! Would love to hear from you again.  Good luck.

You can be my ATF. Yowser

I know kind of dumb. Good previous though is to seek advice from The Love Goodess on the Erotic Highway diccussion board. Keep coming back with your stories though, they are hot.

Even though he might be a stand up guy in some areas, real stand up guys ARE willing to make their partners feel good more than twice a year by compromising.

He says "you know me, I just don't get into all that stuff." >> That is a very selfish statement if you ask me 'out of place'.

WOW!! Thanks for all the positive comments. I somehow feel a little less weird now