It’s been so long since I was active on ter
Couple questions  

1. Do people still do the ter meet and greets ?  
2. How do I whitelist someone, someone I saw recently asked me to do it but I can’t figure it out.
3. Has the TER community died out a bit ? Years ago this used to be so active

1. Meet and greet board is still there. Not a ton of activity.

2. View his reviews. Scroll to the bottom to see his white lists. Click “Submit Referral” to whitelist him yourself.

...and weren't afraid to ask:
http://www.theeroticreview.com/info_policies/whiteListFAQ.asp

1.  I don’t really know. What I do know is that most posts I see regarding M&Gs are people lamenting that they don’t happen anymore 🤷‍♂️  
There was one recently in Phoenix, sounds like it flopped. There is a M&G board. Seems kinda slow.  

 
2.  From the whitelist FAQ in the information and policies section:
“I'm a provider, how do I submit a referral?
Go to Reviews and click "Search White List" Type either the user name or e-mail address and click "Submit." When the user's White List appears, click on the button that says "Submit referral." It's that easy.”

 
3.  Yes, quite a bit.

So glad you are posting again. Others have answered your questions so i just wanted to say I hope you keep posting and good luck to you!

Look at the Phoenix board. There was a meet & greet gone wrong last week. Whoever put together the event failed to inform the provider patrons that it was not a TER event just regular people with no intentions of dating it was bad for the providers who invested their time and money to attend.  

Do your research before attending any Meet & Greet. These are no longer the good old days. Welcome back.

Link below.⬇️

While most organizers and attendees have been TER members, TER itself was never an organizer or an endorser of these gatherings.