1. Meet and greet board is still there. Not a ton of activity.

2. View his reviews. Scroll to the bottom to see his white lists. Click “Submit Referral” to whitelist him yourself.

...and weren't afraid to ask:
http://www.theeroticreview.com/info_policies/whiteListFAQ.asp

1.  I don’t really know. What I do know is that most posts I see regarding M&Gs are people lamenting that they don’t happen anymore 🤷‍♂️  
There was one recently in Phoenix, sounds like it flopped. There is a M&G board. Seems kinda slow.  

 
2.  From the whitelist FAQ in the information and policies section:
“I'm a provider, how do I submit a referral?
Go to Reviews and click "Search White List" Type either the user name or e-mail address and click "Submit." When the user's White List appears, click on the button that says "Submit referral." It's that easy.”

 
3.  Yes, quite a bit.

So glad you are posting again. Others have answered your questions so i just wanted to say I hope you keep posting and good luck to you!

While most organizers and attendees have been TER members, TER itself was never an organizer or an endorser of these gatherings.