what would they be?

Good thread, because it is too easy to focus on negatives.  

Like my dearly departed husband always said:

It gives me a community of people I can talk about this with. Can’t talk about this at work or with family. And 1-3, that I know of, of my friends has paid for it so conversations with my friends will be very one sided.

TER seems to be truly interested in offering an industry level forum where both sides of the fence are treated fairly and equally. I do think they -- and the majority of posters and reviewer -- are interested in accuracy of information that allows fair expectations setting prior to making any arrangements.

Can you blame them? And that is why so many have left. There are several things I love about Ter i.e. reading differing viewpoints, being able to see an ad I might not see elsewhere, having a chat by DM, making friends, etc. With that said, equality is not one of them. The women are not treated as equals here.

Unlike Ad boards;  Honest reviews; with cranks and a*holes weeded out.
Comparing the reality with the reviews, the reviews are a little oversold, but not bad.

Very true. I've only talked with other guys about the hobby while sitting in the hot tub in FKK's in Germany. There your'e walking around and can hang out and shoot the shit with other guys; like being at the country club - except you can fuck every single woman in the establishment and they are all smoking hot.

I don't think that is TER but the TER community. I was speaking specifically about TER the platform tool.

Many/most of the women want to be treated in an "equal" manner, but others want to be treated in a "special" manner, and they can't have it both ways. Women are either equal or they or not, which means when a woman lies, she should be get called out for lying just like a man.

It's the reviews. Other sites have reviews but there's something about a TER review and it's format that is really great and informative. But it still takes some work on your part but this site makes it so much easier. And depending on where I'm playing, I like the local boards. I just wished there would be more participation but, I work with the hand that's dealt.
And the messaging site is really cool, I'll get a few private messages and we'll share information so it's like our own lil gossip center...So yes ladies, we do talk.

Except for everywhere else. lol

and for guys like Robert, fair and equal is not fair and equal at all.  He wants to elevate the treatment of women so that they are superior, and while a lot of guys will not necessarily think that way in their everyday lives, for some reason, when it comes to the P4P biz, they want to put hookers up on a pedestal and be more deferential because these ladies are "allowing" them to rent their pussy.  I don't do that any more than I would put the lady at the Avis counter who rents me a car on a pedestal.  She's just doing her job.  I will always be polite unless she does or says something that no longer deserves it.  

Unlike many other review sites of all types, in all lines of work, Ter doesn't allow a response from the "service" i.e. the providers. Please explain how that is fair and equal? I don't think Ter's biggest defenders would claim that. They may like that women can't respond, which would baffle me, but I don't think they would claim it is "fair." The person(s) who initially designed and implemented this software didn't have "fairness" in mind as it was, as best I can tell, a pro "consumer" i.e. a pro "client" site from day one. Not trying to be argumentative with you Jensen, just trying to see your point. Thank you for your time and response!

one major negative ...........this site has cost me easily well into six figures over the years  ..  being so easy to find stunning willing alluring breathtaking reliable sexy women available to satisfy my male sexual desires.   how can these people sleep at night being responsible for encouraging me to spend all that money ..  my wallet would be better off replying to a Nigerian lottery email !   !  LOL    

I CAN blame them because some walk in here with the attitude that this is the real world and it is not. Meaning, they are hot women and guys are falling over themselves to be nice to them IRL; impress them, and bow down to them because they are good looking and just maybe if they are nice to her she'll fuck them. I'm worth $$$$$ if I just spread my legs and lie there, you're just lucky to be with me. Then get pissed when its pointed out their service sucks.

Do you think Ter made any mistakes, particularly in the last few years, specifically re: the avalanche of fantastic women that decided to leave Ter? I am sure you would agree that them leaving has not made the site better and has actually hurt it greatly. Looking back GaGambler, and had you been advising them, would you have made any attempt whatsoever to try and keep the many great women from leaving?  If so, what? Thank you for your time.

I read all the beginner guide stuff before jumping in. I hang on here because it's really the only place to discuss this life.

TER is a really useful tool in identifying quality providers versus providers who are scammers, LE, bat-shit crazy, etc. TER is the reason I started seeing providers in the first place, cause before I knew of its existence I wouldn’t dare attempt meeting a provider out of fear of being robbed, beaten, stabbed, arrested, what have you. TER is really useful in taking that first step and overcoming the fears and concerns I had previously.

the "60 and over" board has been very helpful to me.  

Helps keep me safe and use my time efficiency.  Before I discovered TER I remember calling adds out of the yellow pages and rolling the dice all too often.  Now I don't have to gamble.

I hear you. I'm wondering why TER allowed providers to delist themselves. I'm not sure what leverage they had to make TER make that move. I was one who didn't think providers added much, but I'll eat some shoe on that one. They do add value. Just not the train wrecks. Ms Hollander for one is very helpful.

...are a great one-two punch.  I won’t see a provider who isn’t on P411 and doesn’t have a solid review history here on TER.  Using both of these resources together has taken so much stress out of booking a date.

There are a couple of recent threads about the reliability and quality of Reviews. I wasn't sure where best to post my views, so I am replying to chunking. (Aside: Is that "chunking" as in the present participle of the verb to chunk?  "He was really hungry and chunking down that lasagna by the mouthful!" Or is "chunking" a contraction of the old brand of canned Chinese food Chun King?  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chun_King Or something else?  Whatever it may be ...)
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Many times in the past, I have proposed that TER adopt a Secret Shopper version of Review Authentication. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mystery_shopping
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Some earlier posts (and replies and comments):
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/suggestion-and-policy-4/secret-shopper-authentication-15598
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/get-in-line-932125
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Only mongers of the highest integrity would be approved by TER to "shop" for the purposes of authenticating reviews and WEEDING OUT the fakes or correcting inaccurate reviews. In addition to myself in the NorthEast, a few others in various TER regions might be able to qualify.

US access for 20 months from April 2018 to December 2019.  Women were FORCED to find other places to advertise and interact with potential customers.   Some of them are slowly coming back to TER when they realize that its still the best site to find mongers who know the biz and won't waste their time.  

A positive is my anxiety is way down from wondering if it is law enforcement on the other side of the door. I remember all too well the unpleasant feeling of prepping myself for the potential of getting arrested. Doing the LEO check, grabbing her pussy or kissing her right away.

And plenty of good responses, so let me add my .02:

FOSTA was overturned?  

Yup, wish there was better QA, fake reviews hurt everybody.

TER has all the information that makes setting up a date much easier.  

They'll be following the almost exclusively DEMOCRATIC members of the feminist movement who are leading the charge against what consenting adults can do BCD.

In response to right wing criticism of a NYC EMT who was also camming on-line to make ends meet (NYC EMT's are not paid well vs other cities), including doxing (outing) by the right wing NY Post, AOC came to her defense and said, "Sex work is work."

You really are beyond help, not to mention nothing you said refutes my point in the slightest.

You said, "Whatever the "thumper crowd" does in regard to P4P ... They'll be following the almost exclusively DEMOCRATIC members of the feminist movement who are leading the charge against what consenting adults can do BCD." It was RIGHTY Reps who outed and condemned the EMT.  AOC (a lefty Dem) came to her defense.  Camming isn't P4P but they are both sex work and the same sentiments apply.

Spot on!! Those two platforms working in tandem are almost guaranteed to ensure your choice of provider is going to be the right fit for you--combined they're a great resource!!

It’s a valuable tool to hopefully get a sense of reliability.  If someone has 20 reviews over 12-24 months, that cuts down the possibility of a scammer.  If ladies interact on the boards-much less rare than 10 years ago, occasionally I may get the sense that I wouldn’t like the person. Combine with p411, Twitter, and websites, the misfit factor is lessened.  Add recommendations from trusted providers and trusted mongers, the number of bad experiences is low,  usually things go bad when I’m horny and I cut corners.  

I like that there are basically no annoying ads. This of course means that ter doesn't make a lot of money and most money comes from subs. But relatively clean and simple, lightweight, if slightly dated, layout is quite welcome.

A "huge minority" is that like a vast smallness?

Thanks for catching this Freudian oxymoron

The lady who is my ATF (7 years and still going strong) advertised on an Ad Board when visiting the city I lived in at that time. A dozen visits since between me going to see her there, FMTY's and meeting in a mutual destination.  Two more visits already planned for the last half of this year.