I'm wondering if any of the providers here think a guy can be annoying by telling too often that her she's gorgeous, or paying her other compliments too often, or giving gifts every time he sees her.

male. To be honest, yes hearing it more than once, is VERY much what a BETA male does... and honestly, MOST women are more attracted to ALPHA males...  

...you enjoy playing "daddy's little girl."  That might tend to influence your view of what a man should be.

obvious boundaries set by the manner in which we met.  

In my case, my Provider is too Nice to me. She is so Awesome and caters to all of what I want. She Loves White Chocolate. So before a Session I buy her White Chocolates. Recently I took her to the Sybaris. The Sybaris is a Romantic couples Retreat. She Loved it. I'm trying to get her to do an Overnight Stay at the Sybaris.

saying the majority of women DO prefer a man who is more alpha type vs beta..

where did I say he was macho or not as gentleman?  

I tried hard not to babble but I don't recall much of what I said.

Never.

I am the worst to complement, give gifts, tell her how great She is. And I am a Alpha Male! You can be a Gentleman an a Alpha Male!

Gals can tell if you're blowing smoke just like we can. I usually tell them when they walk in the door how bueatiful they are. Well unless they are not, but it's only happened once. Seems a few sincere compliments will have a better effect than a bunch of over the top meaningless babble. Of course this comes from a guy who proposed to a gal once during the throes of passion. Luckily she knows I'm a jokester. Of course this doesn't include the hot dialogue during play time. What gal doesn't love to hear "oh my God you're pussy feels so good!!"  
Ya dont wanna come off like a love starved teenager, that could throw up the stalker flag.  
The old adage comes to mind, say what ya mean and mean what ya say.  
If you and a lady have an ongoing thing sometimes the pillow talk can get a little more personal and affectionate. Keep it light though something like "holy shit that was awesome we should make porn" will do the trick.  
As the gals have said being a gentleman is definatly the way to go.  
I ain't the best looking guy, definatly not the best in the sack, but I can make up for it with personality and of course cleanliness.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt. But being  self confident and nice are not mutually exclusive. Being respectful and appreciative are not limited to one "type". Most people can discern between  genuine sincerity and being false or phony just to impress!  
Even in  this hobby world, there is certainly room for giving sincere compliments.  


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I disagree with you that an alpha can't be complimentary. Alpha is not synonymous with asshole. (Although an alpha wouldn't seek approval for his compliments on an Internet discussion board).

Some folks over compensate you know.

You should never compliment a beautiful woman on her looks or body if you are hoping  to have sex with her ,  unless you are paying .  
   After sex  compliments about her beauty  are OK in moderation , especially after a year or two .
   
  If she's not beautiful , she might be more receptive to  overbearing praise .  
     
 Most truly beautiful women hear it so many times  from strangers , family and  friends   , it makes her feel like puking .  
  If you have a feeling she's the  Beta male type , don't tell her she has beautiful boobs ,   tell her you love her shoes .    

Well to be honest I really have no idea what makes an alpha male or female. I take people as they come to me with no such labels.  I just require that they be gentlemen (which, admittedly, may be construed as a label).  

Hot girls I've met have been lousy in bed , and many don't swallow. Here and in civvie land. The 8/9 or 9/9 s usually a better time. Just say in.

I don't want a door mat...I want a man. I don't need a guy to constantly compliment me for me to feel good about myself, nor do I need constant attention and approval in the real world. I want a person who is as independent as I am to compliment the relationship/friendship, not a guy who has a sign saying "Please take advantage of me." Some women, are just the opposite.  

They are the ones who made her.

Is that he be a gentleman and is respectful.  

telling her how gorgeous she is, how much you are thinking of her, etc etc etc is creepy.

To tell u I really enjoyed your daughter, good job.

But a nice guy (respectful, thoughtful, clean, etc. etc.) in or out of the hobby, personally I can't get enough of that. But each to her own. Some women like being treated badly and find actual nice personable guys weak(add your own word here).

Alpha men, from what I have learned, are very humble and have a very good sense of who they are and do not need to constantly chest thump and prove themselves. Their behavior, their quiet countenance and confidence (don't mistake confidence for arrogance) speaks for them. At least that's what I read

In her defense she did say "most" and not "all".

Is a very good book.
Although it revolves around the business world, I feel it is important
in life to be Very Nice. People that view me as weak or non masculine.  
They can go F... Themselves. LOL

you might be too nice and turn off a girl in a real relationship.  but these situations are artificial, in that its a business arrangement.  

No way. Women love to be desired, but they also love guys who are dominant, and guys who aren't *merely*
interested in their looks. The trick is to compliment them in a way that makes them feel desired on a more personal level but leaves the guy in charge.  

Sad to say, experience seems to tell me that, whether with providers or "civilians," it's better to err on the side of withholding compliments, perhaps retaining whatever advantage the woman's own insecurites may offer you.  The risk of being consigned to something like the "feel like puking" category or the dreaded "friend zone" is simply too great.

The envelope and its contents are surely the key here —and perhaps the beginning and the end of the story for most— but many of us dudes do care about what the lady seems to think of us, and the signs are usually pretty easy to read.

Actually, one of my compliments was along the lines of what you just said. When she told me she was planning on starting her own business (outside the escort business), I said something like "Damn. A beautiful face, killer body, fun to be with, and ambition, too. You're the whole package."

besides, most of them will give it up as soon as she says  
"oh hunny I forgot the tampons at the store and I am sooooo tired"  

Of course I would see him for the green! And will I smile as he gushes? sure...  

well said!

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You sound very sweet. It doesn't sound like you did it to a point where you sounded insincere, which is important.

Be yourself, be respectful, be clean and I am almost certain any lady would enjoy the session.