I'm thinking of trying an overnight visit with a favorite lady.  I visit her regularly and think we get along very well.  Still, a two hour visit is one thing...overnight is another.  Of course I'd have a great time but from her(or your) viewpoint, are overnighters difficult?  What makes an enjoyable evening for you?  Perhaps you have a list of overnight "do's and don'ts" I should be aware of.  Thanks...

if you are a snorer, you may want to find out how heavy or light a sleeper your lady friend is.
Maybe earplugs (or narcotics) will be necessary.
Perhaps an all day date may be in order if your sleep is 'sound'
Good Luck!

--Snorer

Discuss this with the lady and inquire if she does this.  Issues to consider include hygene and (potentially VERY important) Snoring.  

Oh, and one more thing: none of us look that great in the morning.

-- Modified on 2/7/2004 8:54:00 AM

DO:   Book an overnight visit if your provider offers them
DO:   Expect to pay for dinner and breakfast if you want them
DO:   Have a firm idea what you like, how you like it and when
DO:   Discuss them with her and make sure she offers them
DO:   Let yourself feel the romantic mood of it all
DO:   Take her, Make her .. then wake her and do it all again

DO:   Leave an 8am Blowjob-wakeup call!!!!!!!!


Don't:Be overly concerned about what pleases HER (sheesh!)
Don't:Worry if she's having a good time - this is YOUR party!
DON'T:Confuse "romantic" with "romance"

Don't treat her like a circus animal because "I paid for it so I can."

Do have fun and expect to get what you want out of it (OK, so Cleavage was right ONCE)

.. BUT setting the alarm and saying "It's blowjob wakeup call time!" is tacky.

DO be somewhat concerned if she is having a good time, because what JuneC fails to realize is that when the lady is enjoying herself, you get that back tenfold.

Escorting 101!

...yes, it is your party. However, if you act as a gentleman you'll find your overnighter will be a lot more fun.

An overnight should be fun for you and the lady.  I recently did one and had lots of fun.  An important key is that you be a gentleman at all times and keep yourself clean.  While the overnight will be your party, you will get more out of it if you make it her party also.  Also, be sure to understand the location of the line between hobbying and falling for someone, I do not know you, but the escalating interest in this provider may imply that you are slipping over that line.

I love overnighters, but they can be exhausting if you have to work the next day. If you're going for the marathon evening, it's nice to let her know what's she's in for. A lot of providers expect to get some sleep too. I usually make sure the first time is great, the second is exceptional and the morning has a pleasantly surprising awakening. Maybe there will be more than three sessions. Who knows? It depends on the person. The best advice I can give is make sure your teeth are brushed, you've showered, and keep some Listermints next to your bedstand. They actually come in handy.

Hugs,
Ciara

and don't forget to gargle with mouthwash before and after.
I also recommend an anti-bacterial body wash for the both of you during showers between sessions and don't forget to "lysol" the toilet bowl after useage. Oh yes...by all means do keep the maid busy with clean sheets before and after each "sexy-fun" loving moment.

Tally-Ho!

I just spent the night with one of the sweetest,sexiest providers going. It was one unbelievable night of passion and lust.
I usually wake up around 8:00 a.m., put some coffee on and then casually wander into the lavatory to unload my brown-tar. But this morning I woke up at 8:15 and my body didn’t know what to do with itself!She was so pretty and relaxed as she slept quietly. I was afraid to fart and afraid to move for fear that any subtle movements would uncork the contents of my colon. So, I took baby steps but I still felt my ass getting wet and juicy. My only chance was to run for it and pray that the mess was minimal. Obviously there where no deities listening because with the first step and every subsequent one, I felt the hot, liquidy mess hitting my underwear and running down my legs. By the time my buttocks hit the porcelain, I had nothing left to give and there was a yellow/brown trail from one end of the house to the other with no one to blame but myself and the curried chili.
OOW WE!
Cheers!

Hope you passed these little tidbits of knowledge and etiquette to Wally and the Beaver...

Gaaaaaack!!!!

Too much information!
Practice those kiegels brother!!

If you do, you might wake the next morning, next to a very grumpy provider, if she's still there and didn't try to smother you in your sleep. If either one of you do snore... you might want to bring along some of those cute little strips to place across the bridge of your nose to help you breath quietly. Or have a suite and/or an adjoining room, so either one of you can retreat to peace and quiet, if you need to. Yes, it might take away from the warm fuzzy feeling of waking up in each others arms, but at least you will still wake up.

Guess it all DEPENDS . . . . .

WORD OF CAUTION - Overnights are always the same as the two or three hour joyride - I had seen a provider a dozen times for varying periods of time and decided, after she moved away, to visit her in her new city for a weekend date with me - paid for the weekend, but kept getting interrupted by errands she had to run, etc, and when we finally "connected," she was too tired to be the companion I had been with on the other occasions.

I agree whole heartedly, Humbolt.   In fact, I'd rarely see a client a second time if he wasn't a gentleman.   I hope I didn't convey otherwise in my original reply.

I think it's sweet when a guy brings flowers and it's always nice when the gentleman in concerned about what pleases me.  By posting a focus on the gentleman's needs and desires, I was trying to stem, in my own small way, a disturbing trend that I see in these threads that it is the gentleman's OBLIGATION to please the lady as part of the arrangement.

I consider myself fortunate to be in a profession that is personally rewarding as well as financially beneficial and I am genuinely PLEASED to be of service in this field.  Regardless of what my client may or may not wish to do for me, what I get is more than enough already.

While I find it interesting the number of gentlemen that post threads regarding pleasing and pleasuring the provider, it is just as disturbing the number of provider responses that seem to encourage and in fact demand such treatment.   Case in point the response that suggested that the man expect a wakeup-blow job is tacky - in the first place, I can't think of a better way to WAKE someone up! (grin)   Secondly, and more important, when did what the provider think is "tacky" (or not) become more important than the client's pleasure?   More and more, I find myself having to remind my clients to focus on what HE wants and not focus on what I want.... I get what I want in the process of focusing on him.

If you go back and reread my second point

"Do have fun and expect to get what you want out of it"

This means, yes, the guy is put first and foremost on the ladies part.  However, I did disagree with your statement that he should be too concerned with the provider. Here's what you wrote:
Don't:Be overly concerned about what pleases HER (sheesh!)
Don't:Worry if she's having a good time - this is YOUR party!

That to me is NOT good advice to give to a hobbyist.  Sorry, I just think that's a bad tip on your part.

I understand what you mean ..  But I was hoping to be taken in context.   Too many men are OVERLY concerned with what the provider wants.

I want the hobbyist to understand that HE is the client, HE is the boss, HE is the reason I am in the business and to understand that what HE wants is what this business is about.

If putting on Tammy Faye makeup and a Dolly Parton wig is what pleases him, then I'll not only do it, but do it happily and be grateful that he chose me.

That's an old Beatles song BTW

June wrote:
While I find it interesting the number of gentlemen that post threads regarding pleasing and pleasuring the provider, it is just as disturbing the number of provider responses that seem to encourage and in fact demand such treatment.  


This makes me think..from either perspective it can be about time is money. The question of balance about the man pleasing the woman seems complex. I mean after all the pleasure he is getting is his climaxes, and her pleasure is the money. Those two factors are the ONLY two things that can be changed either forward or backwards...Whereas, TIME can only be changed forward.

In a perfect world there would be no need for the man to emotionaly, or physically pleasure the woman in any manner in the fantasy  world of ours, only financially. And the woman should fulfill the men's physical or psychological fantasy in exchange.

Fortunately we are humans, with more complexity than mere logical binary reasoning and cannot be automatons when it comes to sex. The conflicts we create make us stronger according to how we resolve them.

I suspect if the legal and moral issues surrounding the fantasy hobby were less of an issue, there would be a less conflict and more pleaseure in the Puritanical, fundamentalist and venal nation because of the pleasure we could all give each other.

Is it a personality disorder for me to get almost as much pleasure seeing or helping a woman orgasm as it is for me to orgasm?

TET

Someone recently said to me that he knows I refuse to do overnights.
It isn't that I 'refuse'. I've slept alone for 14 years, and can't imagine it.
I'm sure that down the road (not anytime soon), the right one will convince me that it'll be ok, otherwise my dates can go into the wee hours, tucking him in, and going home.

That isn't acceptable.  When someone pays for a weekend, they should GET the weekend....that said, I often request (during the discussion/preplanning part) that I have 2-4 hours a day to myself...that is just to get centered (I like my own company) and that time alone allows me to be the best that I can be when we're together.
I think that any woman that does errands and then is to tired to be with you romantically is simply taking you for granted.
That said:  Do NOT expect 20 hours of sex in a 24 hour period, you truly are paying for her time to some degree...

Part of the reason a woman who is GFE is so highly regarded is it helps us(the men) with the illusion

If all we wanted to do was bust a nut as some say we could do that with a SW far cheaper or go to a MP for a bit more

It's not just the sex...it's the contact with another person...kissing and DATY is part and partial of what makes up the illusion...I'm sure there are times when we REALLY connect with this woman who we hardly know but for the most part it's a measure of her talent to make us believe we connected

Face it if all it was...was just the sex...the hottest and youngest of women in this business would all have the highest reviews and it go down as they get less attractive and older...it take just a few minutes looking over the reviews here to see this isn't the way it works

The women who consistantly are raved about are the ones who have mastered the art of making the men feel special and making us feel they love what they do

I guess in my long winded way I'm saying sure the guy's paying and it's HIS party but at least TRYING to give the woman pleasure too is so important(with many men) that even if she fakes her response(and is good enough to fool us) we're more likely to see HER again instead of some hottie who didn't put forth any effort other than show up