: TER General Board Discussion : Videotaping Sessions for Protection

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posted 9 years ago

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In light of the recent accusations,do you think it's a good idea for a mandatory agreement to mutually videotape all sessions as a form of proof / protection against ANY form of accusation against either party, should someone social/economic/political status be elevated.

Bear in mind that while some of these allegations are true ,I believe there are always a few opportunist .

So what do both party think ? ....Don't worry about it because such thing will never happen here because no one will come forward given the nature of the hobby or if something should surface just deny to the very end.

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posted 9 years ago

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Umm no. Just no. And besides...What recent accusations?

Are you referring to your provider encounters or intimate encounters with “civilian” women? I may have missed the drama but I haven’t seen any instances of a provider accusing a man of non-consensual sexual activity on the boards. If you have paid the proper donation with legitimate currency, do not overstay, and are respectful of boundaries expressly stayed or otherwise implied by some nonverbal cue through the entire session, I don’t understand why any provider would accuse a client of rape? It’s as simple as respecting the word no when a provider says it, and not purposefully manipulating her to your own benefit by overstaying, threatening her, using counterfeit bills, reversing electronic transactions, etc. Furthermore, the unfortunate reality of this industry in the US is that most providers suffer silently from rape, theft of surfaces, boundary crossing, and abuse by clients anyway, which is a whole other discussion.

So I assume you are talking about “civilian” women, as we in the sex work industry like to call them. I mean you are welcome to try this but I doubt you’ll have much, if any, success with it. First and foremost, my guess would be most people don’t want to be recorded having sex. If I met a man asking to record me, I would immediately run for the hills. Who would retain the recording for safekeeping and how long? How does said recording prove that she was not agreeing to perform a sexual act under duress or the influence of drugs or alcohol? Even if you had the person recite some “legal” statement on camera, they could still say they felt they had no other choice?

The bigger issue is how exactly would you go about using this recording as proof? You say elevation of social, economic, or political status... there’s a difference between running for Congress and trying to be the next Kim Kardashian. Even if you have this sexual encounter recorded.. are you going to release it yourself? That would potentially damage your career and do irreparable harm to your reputation. Further, my (limited legal) understanding is that you would need the consent of the other person. Even if it’s not a crime, most people would think it unethical to release it without the consent of both parties. If she’s accusing you of sexual assault or the like, do you think she’s going to consent to the release of a tape that makes her out to be a liar? And if she does, the easy response would be a counter-argument such as the aforementioned (being under duress or under the influence or drugs and alcohol)