Because of maturation, I am able to meet various people from different cultures, and appreciate the qualities they offer as a whole. It takes time to build success, and have things. Not everything I wanted was able to fulfill, and I had to work for it.

Maybe my life just got too easy, but I still struggle. Maybe my tolerance level for ignorance has increase beyond my control. Maybe I am just too laid back. Maybe I don't worry too much as the next guy. Maybe I just like to enjoy life, and look at the good side of things, rather than the not so good side of things.

Maybe I am influenced by my friends, to accept and appreciate people, and understand them despite their deficiencies. What's going on. I don't know.

First, if you don't usually TOFTT, then don't. Leave that to the Vets. I myself, I see agencies, Indies, a wide array of providers from different dimensions of ads. I don't discriminate. However, for New Year's eve, I TOFTT, and it was one of the most terrible experience I have ever encountered.

I decided that I am not gonna TOFTT anywhere near the future. I am one of those guys that just likes to go for it, and my small head tends to leads me into disastrous situations. Anyways, all of this could be avoided if she was well reviewed. Period.

So, that experience with that provider got me thinking. It was a terrible time of course. At first, she told me to wait 5 minutes, then it became 10, then 20, then 40. She would repeatedly tell me to wait with good excuses. I waited outside in the cold, just thinking that she would be available soon. 45 minutes later, I went in. Asked her what happened, it went downhill from there. The session only lasted 7 minutes, and she got easy money. Not a ripoff, but service sucked ass beyond words can describe.

I went to sleep, and thought about it. It sunk on me good. Here I am, a respectable man, a volunteer to help inner city kids read after school, have many influential and positive friends, a decent career, I have established many things. And, yet, somehow, I degrade myself into letting myself in this situation. I then asked myself, do I respect myself enough to change. And yes I did. No more TOFTT anytime soon. Period. There are things that could have been avoided, like leaving after 10 minute delay, and other stuff.

Just curious, as to how many of you put yourself in similar situations and ask yourself that question.

That must have been a really terrible time.

I have not exactly TOFTT yet, though I may someday... to some degree, as in seeing someone seemingly well reviewed elsewhere and not here.  Too much to risk in terms of LE issues going for a total question-mark.

Anyway, I think going for something like that you just have to have a totally different attitude to going to see a normal provider.  I think it's more like R&D in a way, you have to examine every possible clue the provider presents to you for issues - both online and even off once you get to her location.  After three delay calls for instance, that to me would mean aborting the mission no matter how reasonable she was.  

And even then, if you do end up going in and it's a seven minute disappointment, well it seems like you just have to expect that to start with and basically be expected to have a bad time,  using your own money to arrive at whatever conclusion you find and agreeing beforehand the money is gone for nothing, and you will be OK with that.

I don't find it degrading at all.  Every now and then someone has to beat back the jungle even if it means you sometimes fall into a swamp.  Discovery is always a noble pursuit, even if just to put on that corner of the map "there be no fuckin' here".

I almost did, but just before I was to see the gal, she got a favorable review.

I was only going to see her because we had a lot of email back and forth, and I felt very good about her.  She turned out to be one of the best providers I ever met, unfortunately she retired shortly thereafter.

In any case, don't forget the FTT part and write a review so that others don't fall into the same situation.

If TOFTT is not for you, there's no shame in that.  Just see the well reviews gals and you'll be fine.

Sorry to be a flamer, buy my God, what a jerk off bunch of shit to write.

Suck it up, grow a set of stones, and move the fuck on for Christ's sake.

And stay away from Chicago. You'd be a statistic inside of ten minutes.

CW

Anyone waiting for P4P beyond 10 minutes deserves whatever they get. Dis you say, you waited in the cold for 40 minutes, if it is true, there is no way in the hell your frozen ass experience is going to enjoyable.

Make resolution for yourself: “I will not P4P more than 10 minutes for anyone, anywhere, anyhow”.

Can't help to say live and learn, bro. Otherwise, Charles Darwin was a dumbass.

by a certain cute red-head, but I'm so glad I was.

Didn't look like the photo/ b&s.  I TOFTT sometimes and when she doesn't look legit, I Walk out.

no need go through a potentially shitty session with a mediocre girl.

DA

....chiseled into stone tablets, LMAO.

Done it quite a few times and will continue to do so.  The lady is in her mid 40's we've exchanged  emails and I'll probably see her in the next week or two.  If someone submits a review before me, so be it.

Sex, blowjobs, and DATY is where it is at. Seriously, I feel that either you respect yourself or you don't.  The fact that I hobby plays no role in the value I place on myself.