made me a lot lighter in the checkbook, I can tell you that.  

At first I was thrown off by the verb you picked. But then I read the rest. I'm happy that you are now viewing people as people now.
I have questions but based off of your username...

Plus it's allowed me to be more open about my sexuality. GFE, BDSM, 3somes, 4somes, orgies etc.  
Like the OP, playing in P4P has given me the opportunity to have more women platonic friends because on my side, sex is off the table. It's also let me be open to, and confident in other NSA  sex relationships with women who are not in this.

I saw my first hooker at age 15, that was 43 years ago. Of course I've changed, but unlike a lot of guys here, hookers have always been part of the landscape of my life. I never looked at hookers in the way that society looks at them, so there never was any kind of grand epiphany in my life when I started looking at women in general or hookers in specific as anything other than people. People I wanted to fuck of course in many cases, but people none the less.

I normally use the word "Hooker" and I have ALWAYS viewed hookers simply as "people" who sell sex for a living, no better and certainly no worse than any other kind of "people" The PC police would try to claim the very use of the word "prostitute" or "hooker" would imply a certain level of disrespect, but nothing could be further from the truth in my case.  

but I have to agree with you because the biggest benefit for me has been socially with civvie women, especially the ones that are twenty years younger than me that I would have been angling to get a date with were I not completely satisfied by my provider-friends.  In fact, because sometimes I'm the only older guy in the room that's not leering and coming off as creepy, many younger women are approaching me with suggestions we have lunch or go get coffee.  It rarely leads to anything more than friendship, but you can never have too many friends.  I think there is some kind of confidence vibe women pick up on when you've got a little swagger from banging younger women, even though you're paying for it, but they don't know that part.  They just know you're not some bore hitting on them all the time, which makes them want to spend time with you.  

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Not sure what your shrink has already prescribed for you....but they need to up the dosage.  

Even CDL isn't always wrong. I have to concede that getting laid by hotties on a regular basis completely erases all traces of desperation that is such a turn off to women.

And stay away from wet strippers.

Now I'm jacked.

Well I'm not shy and not easily shocked. And I think practice has helped me keep a straight face and not give away my feelings. I don't know if those things are entirely good or bad. It's good that I'm more open to others no matter who they are and less quick to judge; I don't moralize about other people's behavior.

You seem to be more desperate.  You still haven't responded to the link below on another thread.  You  know, the one where you said that guys that write reviews are NOT gentlemen.  

Seeing providers yields stress relief, distraction and escape.  I’ve not been nervous around women since my junior year of highschool.  I’ve been very comfortable around them for a long time so it hasn’t really made me more outgoing per se, but it has allowed me to meet some deep seeded needs that would otherwise go wanting or require more time and effort to meet than I’m willing to invest. I’m not generally the PSE type trying to live out that type of  fantasy. I need the intimacy and passion the hobby provides.  I’ve met some beautiful, intelligent,  wonderful, passionate women along the way lemme tell ya.    

I thought it was an interesting choice.  Perhaps there's a little more work to be done by the OP to see women, including "prostitutes", as people.

I'll own that fuckup, but I guess it's too late to get my money back on that fake GED I bought. lol

I just got back from the golf course. There was this stunning 22 yo Swissplayer practicing. She was obviously very good. I started off a conversation with her and we chatted for 20 minutes. No way in hell would I have done that without the experiences Ive had with escorts. Damn. Should have gone for the phone number. Lol

As long as budget permits,  I rather see the ladies than go to a movie. It is a wonderful service with perks. The short term meetings are like the dating stages where we are all civil, enjoying the times together without the drama.  

in P4P have taken 10-15 years off my age, increased my self-esteem as it relates to being around younger women, helped me enjoy learning more about my body than I had ever dreamed possible, and motivated me to take better care of myself so that my encounters will be more enjoyable.

When I returned to seeing hookers I was just a bit older and, being an admirer of women I figured I wanted them to be as enthusiastic as possible.  So I did several things to improve my already lovely appearance and have become like a Greek God.

... well not every woman, but before I started (about two years ago now) there would be women that would trigger me into scheming how to get into their pants.  Two things though, I am not particularly handsome and I am married.  So these schemes were either going to be too subtle or too dangerous.

It's probably taken some of the mysticism out of sex for me. And honestly, I'm better at saving money because of escorts. I kind of worry that seeing escorts will sap me of "game" (not like I had much to begin with) because there's no real payoff for me to try and meet non escorting women since I can pay for sex. (I'm a 31 year old non religious male that does not want kids, the only real reason for me to try and get a girlfriend is for sex)

I would point out that I can relate to it.  

Thanks for posting this. As a Psychologist who now does this work more, I'm genuinely interested in how this affects both the girls who do it, and the guys who participate. I'm really glad yours has been such a positive experience of our industry because we, and it, often get a bad rap.
If paying for a little fun with someone like me now and then, boosts someone's confidence and keeps things on track for someone in the 'real' world then I'm doing better in this work than I felt like I did as a shrink, which seemed like a lot of banging ones head against a wall, as opposed to a lot of banging!!!!

Yep, I had just finished doing some much needed therapy to deal with a very old issue.
Started seeing a wonderful sex worker and stopped seeing the therapist.  
Both helped me make decisions to change how I deal with my life for the better.

This is very true.  

me the ability see beautiful women whenever I want. I love the flexibility of scheduling and no strings attached aspect of P4P. Just the other day I booked a 9am appointment with a new provider. It was great.  Just what I needed to start the day.

If you start fucking women your own age again, those 15 years will come back.  Stay dedicated.  

Not really a change per se. I had enough game, looks and money to pull good looking women during the early 80s disco scene. But then almost everyone was hooking up in the clubs. I got a chance to experience some of the same 'menu options' we read about here in the reviews section and discovered that I really loved fucking women. Today's ease, convenience and flexibility of seeing providers thanks to social media and the internet, allows me to feed my need now that I am an 'older' man. I respect and appreciate what these ladies do; just think how much worse the world (bad enough already) would be if guys weren't getting laid now and again.

There have been similar threads asking this question in recent months to which I`ve posted my 2 cents and will again today.
I totally echo MfSD`s spin on this subject as my experiences have been similar to his. Now a full senior I can be 35 again a couple of times a month with young attractive, sexual ladies and let me tell you is it ever WONDERFUL. No way could I get this from young gals in civvie world and I`ve pretty much retained my looks and GQ style. (so I`ve been told YMMV lmao)
These young beauties will hang, talk and drink with me all night but won`t take me home to give me what I crave and my providers DO. That`s my point.
I have two regulars that give me extra special friendship with lots of otc dinners and extra goodies which makes my hobbying even sweeter.
To illustrate this point just for grins I signed on to an online senior dating service for 6 mos while buzzed the other night and OMG  you wouldn`t believe the amount of old grannies that are out there sadly looking for love with probably little chance of connecting. I looked at hundreds and couldn`t find a handful that I would want to meet. I think I`m going to cancel my membership today as my cell phone is blowing up,very annoying.

Since my recent leap into this world my life has changed is several ways. First and formost I am realizing how precious time is and how waiting for things to get better is insane. You see many of us myself included forget that life used to be great. We get married we get on life's treadmill and we forget, life can be amazing. We allow work to distract us.  Personally speaking I dove into my work to avoid a miserable home life. Well this world has rejuvenated my lust for life, I am starting to come back, the blackness is turning grey and will soon be color I know it...
I recently read a farewell blog from Kimberlee Cline after 18 years she had some insight ... not the least of which described many of us as needing to take responsibility for our own health and happiness... it's exactly what I need to do and this journey has helped me get to the very beginning of what I know is going to be an epic second half of this life.
Here is the quote  
"And finally, please be good to YOU. It's not anybody else’s job to make sure you eat well, drink enough water, get exercise. Not your wife. Not your kids. Not your escort. If you need help, invest in personal training, dietitians, life coaching. You must take better care of yourself. Use your money. Make it a priority. Trust me, everything else falls into place when you start with yourself. Do it for you."

Some time ago when I was struggling with a depression of my own---my therapist put it to me very bluntly. He said: "Ultimately YOU are responsible for your own happiness, nobody else!!"  

I remember a guy on the radio making a similar point.  He was talking about self-less people who try to do everything for everybody -- who often end up disappointed in humanity when in their own hour of need, those who they have helped endlessly don't return any of the kindness.   We are responsible for our own happiness ... and if we're happy it is more likely we'll make other people happy just because of that.