I am reading a book by Steve Harvey, Think like a man, act like a lady...
He says do not give up the cookie/pussy for 90 days if you want to get a good man.

There is a wonderful civvie woman I have known through emails, texts and phone calls since August last year who very much wants to spend a weekend with me (and yes she knows about my "hobbying"...I think she finds it a bit exciting)...we are still trying to coordinate our live so we can meet and fuck...

Well, back before I got married, and back when I was too broke to see escorts more than once a month... now I get laid approx twice a month.  Once w the wife and once w a provider, SO... TECHNICALLY STILL NOT 90 DAYS!

and most likely we would not be compatible, ESPECIALLY after she found out just how many women I had fucked before her. (try thousands)

"Thousands" GA-Gambler?! - you're my hero!

for some odd reason this is the part that jumped out at me as if this was true why would there be so much activity in the hobby.  Free is good.  The reason is I don't think it's true. I don't think it's ever been true. And I don't think it ever will be true, at least in the US of A.  And if it is true, and I'm wrong, in 98% of the cases it becomes true enough after marriage lol.

you to say.  Most women have no problem waiting for Christmas to cum.

minutes to have sex.  Why rush it?  I think it shows a certain amount of respect for the lady.

she's probably not viewing this as a NSA meeting.  After this kind of time investment, she may have unrealistic expectations that this is more than just a casual fuck, and if you mislead her that its something else, you are going to acquire a stalker, or worse.

An old school friend contacted me after many years and we struck up a Platonic and convivial relationship consisting of schmoozing, dining, and an occasional movie.

9 months? Unless one of you is incarcerated there has to be more to this. Good luck.

This does not compute.

and funny -- I'm going to steal that line

Fucked my ex the first night. 35 years later I  realized she really didnt like sex.

...I'd continue with hookers for another none months and just end most of our dates early in the evening.

You wrote that you will not date again until you quit the hobby because men can't handle their women being a provider. That sounds like a convenient excuse, maybe the real reason is that you like getting paid to fuck and you don't want to let a guy fuck you for free

Are you saying it took you 35 years to realize your wife didn't like sex? Maybe she just didn't like it with YOU. Lol

million of them, but unfortunately, most are not funny.  Sometimes you miss a six-inch putt.  Other times, you get a hole in one.  Lol

No, I have not.  

and saw the movie.Didn't care too much for the book I like Steve better when he is doing comedy not telling women how to deal with men.

Had plenty of that with my first wife. It was awesome. The problem was, that she eventually got more angry and the sex went away.

Somewhere between 3 to 6 dates -- which could extend to about 30 days.  We're talking about someone you want to establish a very long term relationship with.  90 days would imply something less direct, and less frequent at the beginning.  Like some case where you know someone and start to hang out occasionally and it sort of organically develops.  But if you are actively dating (say through referrals or dating sites) sex within the first few dates is about the best you can hope to postpone it until the gent walks.  The good ones have options

In my first serious one, I was only hanging out with her at first.  Then, one afternoon, I went over to her place to take her to lunch, and things just exploded.  We never left for lunch, and the relationship lasted for almost three years...  

Depends on the woman and if I think she's worth it. If I had a woman tell me she was going to make me wait 90 days for sex on the first date, unless it was an amazing first date, I would move on.  

I love dating hookers because I immediately get to find out if she is good in the sack.lol

I don't know about 90 days but I would wait a little. I slept with my ex husband on the first date. Then I slept with my ex boyfriend on our first date too. You see a trend? lol. Maybe a few weeks or something, maybe, I don't know. If the chemistry is good, then some deep kissing and dry humping probably. I would be honest and just carry some condoms anyway just in case. ;

Could be. Either way sex with her was less than hot. Want her number? Lol

Julia what percentage of a civilian relationship is based on the grade and quality of the sex?  Also what percentage of that same relationship is based on the compatibility?  Finally would you say that your libido is higher than most women and that is why you are a provider.  They always say find something that you love to do and you'll never work a day in your life.

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on date number one.  Because if there's not a party waiting for me in there, no need for date number two.    
   
 

Obviously he's been listening to the sex-negative feminists who hate men, sex, and the hobby.  Yes, a woman should make sure a man values her for more than her pussy.  No, she should not put unreasonable demands on the poor guy.

Gambler I know why you date so many hookers.  I am thinking with respect to your personality that you were always into instant gratification.  Even when you where small you used to open your presents as soon as you got them.  I also would hate to see you wait for a bottle of ketchup to start to pour.  It is a direct extension of your personality and I would say at times you might be a bit impulsive as well.  If you were a basketball coach on defense you would force the action and try to get steals instead of playing the board. You also don't want to go through all the prerequisite bullshit that one would go through in a civilian relationship and it is so much easier to satisfy your hedonistic needs than to follow certain rules of interaction with women.   That is why the hobby is taylor made for you.