-- Modified on 7/17/2012 6:11:42 PM

That womens number one fantasy is rape.  Just because it's on the net doesn't make it credible.

She pretended in her head I was raping her while we were having sex. It definitely freaked me out, and I didn't like hearing her say that.

As soon as we were done, she says, "You know what, I pictured you raping me while we were fucking and I really liked it"!

I just looked at her and kind of gave her a puzzled look. Major mood killer at least on my behalf.

I'm not down with that kind of role playin' at all!

going through it, it is actually a very common fantasy. It's simulated rape, so that's where the line is drawn. I had a guy dress up like a burgular once and come in when I was literally in deep sleep...fkin amazing sex! I was really scared at first because you forget about things when you sleep, so him coming in shocked the hell out of me. He tied me up, put his hand over my mouth, and started to daty...just yummy! I think it's more of having a man take charge to where you can't say no, that is the turn on...no so much actual "rape" which connotes being unwilling.

I see a provider here occasionally who likes me to  play burglar early in the morning.  Hope she never buys a gun and forgets what we have set up.

And I guess I don't get the turn on factor having someone do things to me and me not being able to stop them. I guess the level of trust has to be extremely high to be able to do that.

while i will agree with you that the vast majority of women who claim to have "rape" fantasies in actuality simply have a ravishment/domination fantasy. they want some dark sexy stranger to take them unawares and do all the things to them that they desire anyway, without the guilt of open consent. and yes, that is a far cry from actual rape.

however there are a few women who do fantasize about actual rape. real, ugly, emotionally and psychologically scarring rape. i am one of those women. and, i have been raped in my past. there was nothing fun of exciting about it. it left me on the brink of suicide. and when i fantasize about rape, i do not imagine myself being aroused or feeling good...i imagine the overwhelming fear and loss of self and horror that i know firsthand. i reflect on those feelings of utter humiliation and helplessness that i know all too well. and no, it is not something i would ever wish to "roleplay." my fantasies are about real rape, and no one wants to be raped. some may call my fantasies self-hating, however they are actually more part of a martyr complex...in my weird brain, my suffering spares the suffering of someone else. and that gives me a sense of peace and purpose. that is what drives the fantasies.

we human beings are very complex creatures...you'd be amazed at all the nooks and crannies deep inside our minds.