I generally do at least 4 days. But as I suffer from bad ED , I try upto 2 weeks. Wondering what others do? Is libido more like a "use it  or lose it"?

Everyone is different but for me, 5 - 7 days away from doing these works best.

No offense, but you’re clearly addicted. Take a break. Anything is good in moderation. Most of my friends refrain from jerking off 1-2 days before we meet. Everyone is different, but you’re only 47 years young. Focus on Funtime.

You will find your performance will be better. You will be harder and cum much more etc.

Testosterone supposedly peaks at 7 days of no fapping (based on studies discussed by Derek of “More Plates More Dates”).

I typically hold off for at least 48-72 hours. I do this to have  stronger orgasms and a large amount of ejaculate for multiple pops during my sessions. It also helps reduce  my refractory period. When I first started seeing escorts I would jerk off the day before a date and I’d find myself waiting 30-45 min before being able to get hard again after the first round. If I don’t cum for a few days before seeing somebody I can go again after 20 min or so. (I’m late 30’s with no ED issues yet and am gonna enjoy that while I can)

Stay relaxed ..🤣🤣

I give it two days rest. I tried giving it more days, but I build up so fast that it leads to me cumming too fast during the session. I imagine it’s also why I’m picky. If I find an escort unattractive I may go soft during the session. If I hadn’t cum in a week I would probably fuck a cardboard cutout.

I can tell when a client has jerked off prior to our meeting. Usually the performance becomes boring and start to be just repetitive with no excitement all because he jerked off and sometimes they admit it.
So I advice to don’t do it for a month and see how it goes.

Honestly, if I had been 47 with erection issues I would have been very good friends with the best urologist in town. That’s way too young for the switch to break.

I would explode in the middle of the night while dreaming of having sex. My sex drive is like a teenager even though I am in my 50s. If I wait too long, the penis, not me, decides it has had enough.

An apparent porn addiction may be interfering with RL encounters.
Jerking off to porn, or otherwise,  is zapping your libido.  

Just try it.  Your testosterone levels will skyrocket

I am senior and definitely need time to recover between engagements

Typically a day of refraining from jacking off or having sex is perfectly adequate for a one hour visit. More days than that I worry about cumming way too fast with the provider.  Now if I have a 2+ hr date I wouldn’t mind premature ejaculation since I would probably be able to go for round two. So in those cases I might abstain for 48 hrs.  I think if the OP is able to jack off to porn, he doesn’t really have a medical issue but more psychological due to deconditioning from too much porn. It’s happened to me in years past. A little viagra would overcome those issues.

When you feel a little urgency and/or pressure building in your balls, just go see a provider.  It's not complicated.  There are even providers who will see you the same day you make the appointment request.

Not everyone can afford to see a provider every time they want a release. Personally, I’m a calmer person if I get off 2-3 times a week. I don’t have the budget to see 2-3 escorts a week. And, there is nothing wrong with masterbating.

The more you ejaculate (via sex or masturbation) the more you will continue to produce.

Thanks ,will give this a try. THough not sure I can last 30 days. But I like the idea of reducing the amount of porn/fap in my life.  I like to do things incrementally. So let's see how far I get with that..

Good idea, but I can't afford to see a provider every week My budget allows for once every 2-3 months..I suppose I can try holding off jerking off for that long. Or maybe I just jerk off without porn using visual images of hotties I see in the real world... I used to do that in college when there was no internet/phones and I had a roommate..

A day seems awfully short. Are you able to manage 2 pops in an hour with just a day off from jacking off?

For me two days/three nights is ideal! If I see a provider on Monday, then I can be optimal to go again on Thursday! However, when I’m horny and feeling flush with cash, I’ll go Monday/Wednesday or Tuesday/Thursday!  This usually works out fine!  As far as porn goes, I watch regularly, almost daily including between closely scheduled provider sessions! It doesn’t always have to result in orgasm - many times I’ll just edge myself a handful of times, keeping the old tool in shape and building up the reserve of fluid for the next willing recipient! I do this a lot the night before a session - it’s sort of like a test drive to make sure all systems are “go” before tomorrow’s launch! I’m in my mid 60’s, and I like to think this regular sexual activity along with daily exercise and a good diet will extend my longevity and sex life! A good alternative to refraining from porn completely is to just tone down the masturbation a bit with only light touching or rubbing the tip instead of  working it like you are cleaning a dirty pan! The soft touch approach definitely makes me hornier for the next day’s session!

I had a girlfriend in my early twenties who simply swallowed. No muss, no fuss, handiwipes, hot towels, etc.

Exercise, don't smoke, drink in moderation, exercise, have a good steak once in awhile, carbs after exercise, eat the bad stuff in moderation (big mac, yes I need that 3-4 times per year), always have veggies with the meal...

Within 24 hours.

what I tried to say earlier was this. For an old guy like me to go a month without exercising would be insane. My biceps would turn to jelly. Why would I expect any other muscle to be in better shape after a 30 day rest??

You’re beating off too much bud. I’m 52 and don’t need pills and get super rigid but if I jerk off too close to a play date (less than 3 days) I might have trouble.  You’re only 46. Way too young to be having ED problems unless there are medical issues you battle.

I read through all the nofap websites and concluded I definitely  have porn induced ED. So I stopped looking at porn for two weeks and also did not jerk off. Some days I would peak at porn though. I had a session yesterday after two weeks of this. It went very well. I managed to get hard quickly and maintain that erection through 69, K9 and missionary. Even got hard for round two but it was close to the end of the appointment so we didn't try it.  

Mostly depends on age.  In my 20s I could have sex almost everyday.  Now, I don't cum and wait a good three days before seeing a lady.  4-5 days is better as I'm so stiff I last 1-2 hours.

Subtle innuendos follow…
Sorry, couldn’t resist.  

+1  Lieutenant!    Adam Ant   "Goodie two shoes"!     I'm a child of the 80s, and I know my 80s music.....because I WANTED (and got) my MTV!

Norfolk HS theme song:

Good one Mr. Fisher!

Do you have a problem with ladies not welcoming you back?

But that strikes me as funny partly because to my ear the locals pronounce it “no fuck.”

Good one Mr. Fisher!

but I was stationed at the NAB Little Creek for UDT training in the military many years ago, and Norfolk is a real shithole as American cities go.  Just my two cents.

You just can't refrain from being negative and nasty.  So typical of you!

it's just a city name, not an instruction.  Lol

Especially the Asian locals!

I think that your response to not use porn to jerk off (while still having alone fun), I will lead to a more  authentic experience with others.  It’s also super desensitizing - Porn can be so easy recall so you get off and you might miss the fun reality.  
Not depending on porn will increase the ability to masterbate based on sensation.  
Best of luck! Syd

You have to make a choice to do one or the other. There are providers that will see you for 200 or 250 every week. Some even less. Worse case scenario, every two weeks. If you can't afford to fuck a girl every two weeks with 200 bucks then you need to stop the hobby completely and jerk off until you are able to afford to see girls.

i can't remember the last time i jerked off !  LOL     ahhh the days when i would visit vegas for an entire week and a different girl every night .. now .. well .. one night and i am good til the next trip  LOL

from being irrelevant on this board.  When are you going to see a provider and review her?  

Speaking as someone who started watching porn way too early (hence my alias name), you're most likely suffering from Porn-Induced-Erectile-Dysfunction (PIED). This is when the brain interprets *watching porn* as having sex, instead of actual sex as sex. As a result, your "tool" isn't able to perform because the brain is too accustomed to being a voyeur instead of an active participant. Secondly, porn is a super-stimulant to the brain. Research indicates that it impacts the same area of the brain cocaine does. XXX causes massive amounts of dopamine dumped into the brain, with diminishing returns the more you watch it. (This is what spurs heavily addicted users to watch more and more extreme stuff, they're chasing the initial high that overwhelmed them).

Good.  Porn is terrible for you mentally.  And jerking off does affect performance, even when younger.  

My apologies for resurrecting a zombie thread.

Yes, stop jerking off completely. What you're going through happened to a lot of us.  Jerking off to porn and fucking live women don't mix. It's like tasting two different sweet things at the same time. What happens when you do that? The second sweet thing starts to taste bitter. Your mind is used to the images you are seeing online. And keep in mind, while jerking off, you are sifting through dozens, sometimes hundreds of images and videos. Some of it maybe extreme. When you get an actually woman in front of you, your mind can't process that because you're used to the images and your hand as opposed to the feeling a real woman. If you make a conscious decision to quit porn, you will be alright in the bedroom. If you try to do both, you may continue to have ED problems.

If I am out more than that.. I will encounter PE

I typically jerk off at least once a day, usually more. It's a fucking miracle if I can manage to hold off for 2 days when I know I'll be hitting some hot ass.

I had to hold off after a vasectomy for about 10 days. Damn that shit was glorious first few times 😂

On the subject of whether or not players on his team (for those who don’t know, he was a baseball manager, most famously for the Yankees) should refrain having sex the night before a game. Stengel was against the idea. The quote was:

The Cosmo Kramer “I’m out” joke.

I have. Search this thread for Kramer

My 2 cents, but generally 2-3 days works for me. Beyond that, I don't find much difference in my semen volume or pleasure. I'm older and have BPH so I take Flomax as well as Cialis for it. I also need that time gap to go off the Flomax because while I can still experience an orgasm, I am unable to ejaculate when I am on it. For me, part of the joy of the release is cumming in my partner when having sex, either CIM or creampie if BB ( with girlfriend). While I have developed some Peyronie's disease later in life, achieving an erection has never been a problem, and even less so as a side benefit of the Cialis. It literally keeps me as hard as a dinner plate for hours. With it, I have never lost my erection during a session, and have had 3 pops within an hour even though I'm in my late 60s. On or off the meds, I masturbate pretty much every day, usually while watching porn if a provider or partner isn't available, mainly as a stress release. Despite this frequency, I personally have never had issues with immediately getting erect as soon as I'm in a room with a naked woman.  

Bad analogy!
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Your penis is not a muscle, and in fact becomes erect when particular arteries *relax*, not when they contract.  Look it up.  
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There are other muscles in that vicinity, and exercising them is good.  Those do not cause erection, but do other good things for sex.

To add to this

Its not a muscle, its a bone. That's why we call them Boners! I can't believe I have to explain this to everyone!

some guys here take boner pills.  

People under the age of 40 who grew up with quick and easy access to porn will probably need a lot more time.
Their brains have been wired to get off on watching two OTHER people have sex, so when they try to participate in real sex, whether it be with a provider, wife, gf, booty call, etc. they may find themselves unable to perform.
PIED (Porn Induced ED) is very real despite people trying to downplay it. If a real woman is not arousing you, even when she is smoking hot with the body of a goddess, but a digital image of a porno scene has you stiff, then chances are you have it.
This is my personal experience.
I have seen sources online that recommend no pornography or sexual images and no masturbation for 90 days. Not even real sex. Chances are you won’t be able to perform anyway if you have PIED.
I was in my 20s when I discovered Internet porn and I regret that to this day.  
You “old guys” who are 50+ are lucky you got to enjoy tons of real sex without easy access to Internet porn when you were younger. You had to sneak peaks at “nudie mags” or get your hands in an actual adult film! lol

But this is such a great question, and honestly one a lot more guys deal with than they admit. First of all, big props to you for taking such good care of your health and being self-aware. That alone puts you ahead of the game. 😉