Gents,
If you schedule a lady for a 12 hour overnight, what is your expectation as far as number of hours spent together (awake) vs. number of hours sleeping? How many cups do you like to get in and/or how do you like to pace the evening? Who is responsible for setting the pace and getting in the desired experience, the client or provider or both?

Ladies,
How much time do you expect to spend awake versus asleep on an overnight date? How do you feel the evening should be paced? How do you set rates for such an experience, by the hour or by comparing with other ladies' rates or some of both?

Ladies and Gents,
How have your experiences on overnight dates measured up? What have you found to be the pros and cons of doing this length of date as opposed to a shorter or longer encounter?

I would appreciate some input, guys and gals!

XoXo,
Marea

-- Modified on 6/8/2007 1:39:39 PM

I would say that you would only want to schedule an overnight with someone you have seen before and are comfortable with.  With that said, I would have a frank conversation and go over expectations.  

Is it 12 hours or is it an overnight, with no hard hours involved?

Is is it a matter of cups served, hours involved, or is it play it by ear?

Sleep is up to the two of you...if I had a naked hot woman with me, I doubt I could sleep for very long no matter how tired I was.

Be honest with him and ask him to be honest with you about expectations and take it from there.

If you would like to do a "trial run" I am available for sleepovers!   LOL

Have A Great Time!

This is an interesting question.

If the provider in question expects a 8 hour beauty sleep... you are done for.  

It would be best to discuss the expectation upfront - what time of the 12 hours are allocated for dinner, sleep, and sensual fun.

Cheers!

Overnight sessions are always very special for me. To me, an overnight isn't so much about a sexual marathon, as it is about the total experience -- romance, closeness, intimacy.

I look at overnights as the ultimate GFE encounter... really, more of a Honeymoon Experience.

My first rule with overnights is that I will not schedule such an encounter without seeing the client for a minimum two-hour session first. I want to make sure that we're compatible, that we're going to be able to enjoy one another's company for an extended period of time. This is critical. I learned this lesson the hard way; my first overnight, the gent spent the entire night drinking heavily, ranting incoherently... it was a nightmare, and very, very long 12 hours.

However, that's very rare, thankfully. So many of the men I meet are so delightful, interesting, and fun... it's always a treat to get to spend extended time in their company.

My overnight rate is based on a reasonable breakdown of my hourly rate, and I do also compare with what other providers are charging.

Part of the reason overnights are pricy is because usually, after a long night of fun with a friend, I'm really not capable of working the following day, and need to rest up.

That said, I do expect to have some time to sleep, usually a minimum of four hours. I know there are some men who have a problem with this, as they want to "go all night" and "really get their money's worth" and "why should I pay for someone to sleep." For these gents, I'm happy to offer a higher "marathon" rate, and do the all-nighter.

I should also add that my overnights tend to run overtime, often significantly.

Generally, though, I've found that the "marathon" clients aren't interested in seeing a mature provider anyhow, so that works out. The thing is, a lot of men like the sleeping part. It's very pleasureable to make love several times, and then snuggle up in your lover's arms and nap for a bit... then wake up and play all over again! A lot of men enjoy this closeness, the languid sense of satiation as you drift off to sleep. And waking up to a lovely, willing partner is truly delightful!

For my overnights, the hotel is included in the rate. I arrange an evening at a lovely, upscale bed and breakfast in the foothills. We have our own little cottage, with a private hot tub, a fireplace, a fridge and microwave for snacks (to keep up our energy!). It's very romantic and charming.

Usually, we go to dinner before returning to the cottage for our evening. I have had special friends choose to increase my fee, so that I could arrange to pick them up at the airport in a limousine, give them a tour of the city, etc.

Overnights are a "go with the flow" situation. I find that the provider usually gently sets the pace, but of course open to suggestion and able to shift course as new situations present themselves -- but then, I think that's true of one-hour sessions too. You know, something like: okay, we're lingering over dinner and it's almost 9pm... I want to try to give this person at least three cups... allowing for recovery time in between and dipping in the hot tub... "wow, it's getting late! Why don't we go back to the hotel?"

But mostly, for me, overnights are just the opportunity to really get to know someone on a much deeper level, and have them get to know me. There's lots of laughter and fun, intense passion, fascinating conversations and debates, quiet relaxation... without the pressure of the clock. They are my favorite sessions, without question.

Sorry for the long post... I get passionate about something and I can't shut up.

xxxooo
Beverly ;-*

The caliber of men that normally request such engagements are not looking for a marathon experience. Generally other activities are arranged.

Even so, I agree that each party must be familiar with the other.
It's also extremly important that clear boundries and expectaions must be set beforehand.
(ex: At least 4hrs of uninterrupted sleep...)

After all, Mutual Pleasure is the key to ultimate satisfaction.

Tschuess


-- Modified on 6/9/2007 3:59:09 PM

Be sure you are comfortable with the person before you accept the date.  Also, talk to the guy about expectations, is this an overnighter, a 12 hour visit, what does he want to do, etc.  
As for rates look at the rates of the ladies in your area and go from there!

I snore.  The ONE TIME I did do it, the lady was truly a lady.  Has become a great friend... but she wound up appologizing for having to sleep on another bed... as the snoring WAS that bad.  My ex used to have to wear ear plugs... no kiddin.  I snore so badly that my kids complain... and they are not in the same room with me... it is really really that bad.

So I approximate.  but I would do as it would be done nomally... if a 12 hr date... I would like 4 cups... 3 that night... and One in the AM!  Rate....?   Discounted for the continual time.  I would also "do dinner" in there and breakfast, if the lady is so inclined.. (But it would be room service).  For dudes who can do more cups... well?  more power to em!   but thems my numbers...

-- Modified on 6/8/2007 2:40:07 PM

I proposed an overnight to a certain lady I had seen once for a 2 hr. date and once for a 4-hr dinner date.  Our schedules could never align.

My proposal included meeting at a nice beachfront hotel in Fla. around 6 p.m. Shower & dress for dinner with a short appetizer session.  Dinner at a nice restaurant followed by dessert back in the room with 2 helpings if Mr. Happy cooperated.  Six-seven hrs. sleep, shower then a morning "wake=up call" followed by a nice breakfast if the lady desired.  Being in my 50's, I need some rest; I'm not an Energizer bunny.

Maybe I'll find another lady someday to make this offer to.

Sounds like the perfect overnighter, keystone

XoXo,
Marea

Counting the days....

...you are only paying for their time.

but I recently had one of the better experiences of my life on a 24 hour date.

Plenty of time for all the sex I could ever want in one 24 hour period. Lots of time to listen to great music, talk about some important stuff, cook a good dinner, walk in the moonlight, soak in the hot tub, etc. and still get 4-5 hours of sleep, wake up and play some more and then nap. Neither of us really had any preset agenda and just 'went with the flow'.

Truly an amazing 24 hours and one of my most precious memories. I look forward to creating some more!

-- Modified on 6/8/2007 4:08:25 PM

Within twelve hours, three to four hours of sex, with the rest for dinner, talk and sleep.  Personally, I consider sleeping with someone to be very sexy -- consider the fact that you're at your most vulnerable when you're asleep, as is she.

Lol.. you're idea was fine.. it just wasn't phrased in quite so romantic a way eom

eom

-- Modified on 6/8/2007 5:48:47 PM

You know Naples has a wonderful beachfront hotel.  And I'm always up for extra helpings.

I've not really given it that much thought, but I've picked out who I'd like it to be with.  I'd hope for a quick round followed by a fun evening out.  Then, upon return, I really just want to be fondled until I can't stand any more of it.  More in the morning, unless either of us wakes mid-night and can revive the other.  Of course, that's just the receiving side of the equation, and I'd hope to end our time together at roughly a tied score.

I would respectfully suggest that *all* good providers have a preset agenda -- that's making sure you have a wonderful time, and that you get everything you want out of the experience.

The idea is to make sure your partner is having fun... and feeling so relaxed and happy that it all truly does "go with the flow."

I think the best way to make sure you're having fun is to have fun myself.

xxxooo
Beverly ;-*

2. Have Fun
3. Have Fun
etc.

And I completely agree with your idea on helping your partner have fun. When she's enjoying herself, I enjoy myself so much more.

Forget about the clock, at least until the morning.

Just savor the fact that you can stare at each others' eyes and caress until the cows come home.

To lie in each other's arms after a good orgasm without any concern for the clock is bliss.

This is the wonder of the overnight.

Multiple day is even better.

When in your area I'd prefer Marco Island.  I have stayed at several of the hotels there on business.

For me it would be Dinner, Fuck, Snore (that's just the first hour) then the rest of the night would be Snore, Snore, Snore, Fart, Snore.

Somehow an overnight just loses interest.

I generally only do overnights.  mrfisher is absolutely correct.  He's also right about multiple days.  I've taken girls to Miami, Marco Island, Orlando (Disney World), Palm Springs, Cincinnati, Dallas, Memphis, Birmingham, and  Atlanta to name a few.  Next year it's Las Vegas for 4 nights.   Most of the time for at least 2-4 days at a time.  I'm always looking for the right companion.  It's great to have a beautiful woman to be there for you after meetings each day.  Eat good, shop a little and have each evening and night together.  What more could a guy ask for?

Don't get to do this often. Overnights (not 12 hours or any preset time) are generally the minimum I'll arrange. Whenever possible I try not to schedule them for the last night in town so that checkout time from the hotel is not a concern. It probably helps that the number of ladies I spend time with is small (they typically may have 4-5 dates in a month) so the dates are generally repeats. The nicest part is that there is no time pressure which allows for the long session, a quickie, anything in between, plus nice relaxed time.

-- Modified on 6/8/2007 8:46:03 PM

I haven't done an overnighter with a provider but if I was doing much more than that I would want to talk about any needs she (or I) might have for some time alone.
 As much fun as the lady may be having, or appearing to be having, this is her work and working 12 hours at anything without a break is usually very tiring. I think she would appreciate the consideration and if she needed some time to recharge her batteries then I would be better served after that happened.
 But again, so far I don't have that experience in the Hobby world.

-- Modified on 6/10/2007 5:19:15 AM

great question Marea.

for overnights, my rates are set based on the individual client. i would never have an overnight date with someone i had never spent time with previously, so that mutual comfort can be established and the most pleasurable experience possible can be insured. if a client is someone i truly enjoy my time with, great personality, lots of chemistry, etc., then the rate will be somewhat lower. if the client is someone i like but who i know is very demanding/difficult, then the rate will be somewhat higher. if the client is someone i do not like at all, there will be no overnight dates.

as far as sleep, downtime vs. "play" time, etc., i leave that up to the gentleman. as i am a submissive and market myself that way, i let the client set the pace. i've had clients who requested that i cook a gourmet meal for the two of us, feed his dogs, then clean up the kitchen afterward. basically he wanted a "wife" experience, and that is what i provided. i've had clients who just wanted me to play the role of arm candy while they were having a night out with friends. i've had clients who want to use me hard all night long and well into morning, and haven't allowed me to sleep. because they are paying for my time and attention, that is what i will provide. of course i prefer to get a few hours rest, but it is up to the client.

pros: can be fun, exciting, a great way to get to know a client better and the general flow and pace is far more natural than what can be had in a 1 or 2 hr date. and obviously the additional donation is nice.

cons: can be uncomfortable if there isn't good chemistry; increased safety risks (as really what's to stop him from kidnapping me or stuffing me in an oil barrel); can be very draining physically and mentally.