Why does "Duelling Banjos" from "Deliverance" comes to mind------

Btw, Mr. Fisher, spelled "prostate" .

prostate massage while prostrate...

I had a girlfriend who used to poke around down there just when I was getting really heated up. I sort-of tolerated it for a while. I finally asked her what the hell she was looking for. She got embarrassed and told me a girlfriend told her that it really turned guys on. I told her to bring the girlfriend by and we'd all try it out, and that pretty much ended the discussion on the topic

I guess I'm anal-expulsive at heart, but I'd be willing to let a girl have a go at my bunghole if she seemed like she knew what she was doing; I'll try anything twice. But dry fingers and raggedy nails make me clamp down hard enough to squeeze coal into diamond.

the woman didn't give me any warning she was going to do it, we had never talked about it, and suddenly her finger was  there. Surprised the hell out of me, and it didn't feel that good, either.  Maybe a little warning would have helped.

I have had prostate massage a few times and it has always been a great experience. In all cases it was with a provider who specialized in doing it. There is an art to it that goes a bit beyond just shoving a finger up a guy's ass.

Re: The old saying: "There's pitchers, and there's catchers.... " comes to mind.

I have a one way hole.  I won't even let my DR go near it.  

Personal choice- no judgment whatsoever of those who choose differently.

Deliverance? Banjo music? Pitchers and Catchers? Gentleman, we ARE talking about a heterosexual encounter between a man and a woman here...

So none of you nay-sayers have ever fingered a woman's anus?

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For the most part, good fun was had by all.

I do hope to muster up the courage for a prostate massage someday. I guess just too many bad run-ins with the proctologist or PTSD from the draft physical.

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There are people who are anally erotic and there are people who aren't. The idea that you can just decide that somehow it will become pleasurable is silly (if you're not anally erotic). I've never had a provider do it, but a couple of women in civvie life tried to exlore that. In both cases... well, there's an old country expression, "It knocked my dick in the dirt". Talk about deflating the balloon... One had the good sense to try other approaches to stimulation, but the other kept trying - but not for very damned long. No means no, whatever the gender or activity. She rapidly became an ex. Not to make judgments, though - My ex-wife and an old girlfriend were both very much anally erotic and I was happy to indulge their preferences.   8->

that he would slip one up there while giving oral, and my wife should try it on me.  Now she has done it both during BJ & HJ, but that was way back when we actually were having sex.  I've also become fond of slipping her a digit during doggie or a variation where there is reasonably good access.  Makes the vagina yummy tight.

There are some "rules of engagement" however...

1. Use lots of lube, and
2. Work slowly rather than going for the quick plunge.  Massage the area and then tease with mini-insertions and withdrawals, working progressively deeper.
3. If long fingernails are involved, an exam glove (or a condom) may be suitable.

Done properly, it's a lot more fun than the old prostate exam at the Dr's.

Last thing... I feel there needs to be a high level of comfort otherwise the tension will make the experience unpleasant.  The recipient needs to be very relaxed.  As such, I have not yet tried this with a provider.

I enjoy external anal stimulation (licking, rubbing), but only once has a lady tried to go internal on me. The very tip of her finger just slightly inside felt okay, but after that it wasn't for me and I made sure she stayed on the outside.

I have a whole bag of tricks

Many gentlemen love anal play with a lady. I have toys of every size and shape and have used them all at one time or another. My new one is very slender with the tip pointing up. It vibrates like hell and am told it's the best of the best. Nothing like a good BBBJ while getting your prostate massaged. Could I be considered a healthcare provider ?

Kisses Haley

Did you sing "moon river!" when she did it?? eom

There are a bunch of books on this subject. tantra comes to mind