Had the unfortunate diagnosis of prostate cancer yesterday. So where else can I get this variety of opinions?  For those of you who have endured, I'd like to hear about the aftermath of treatment. I haven't decided about radiation v surgery but I have been advised toward surgery. My questions are obviously sex related.  

the proper place to discuss, unless however it makes you feel as tho you aren't alone out there. My heart goes out to you and I hope you get better soon. But I have to ask should sex really be on your mind right now?  

Hey, I'm very sorry to hear this.  I hope you get the best medical advice possible (it won't be on here) and that you make it through this OK.  

Ladies and gents, I appreciate the comments so far. I absolutely know that my health comes first and sex should not factor into a decision that could affect my survivability. I'm not looking for medical opinions on the treatment. That's what doctors are for. I'm interested in how to deal with the aftermath

But first, let me agree with the posters who've warned you this is not the place to come for serious medical advice.  That said, I have not had prostate cancer but someone close to me has it.  It was diagnosed about ten years ago and he's lived with it rather than risk the side-effects of surgery.  Prostate cancer is the slowest-growing cancer there is, so there's no rush to opt for surgery unless yours is very advanced or is a recurrence.  I would strongly advise you to discuss with your docs the pros and cons of postponing the surgery.  The longer you can wait, the greater chances of avoiding the side-effects of surgery because of medical advances.

There are many different types if prostate cancer, so please be careful not to assume that because someone else has successfully avoided cancer, you can too.  Go and get a second opinion from another urologist or oncologist.  Sometimes radiotherapy and drugs are great, sometimes you need surgery.

who had prostate cancer. He had the seeds for many, many years and eventually died at an old age from a heart attack. He continued to have a sex life during that time. I cannot answer any other questions. Sorry. You are in my prayers.

Having dealt with several family members fighting cancer, I can't imagine what you're feeling but I can definitely sympathize. Be strong.

...This is the type of treatment Rudy Giuliani chose.

Say they don't work ) ...but do you have a caring partner ? It would be a process , and a gradual one ..I'd look into this if I were you ...also if you know a provider well perhaps some extra romance time or extra affection ...hard to say ..it would depend mostly on how the surgery goes ( nerve endings ) ....as inicky said get several opinions and find a support group of guys who have been there ?  

Prayed for you just now and may the Lord continue to remind me to pray.

YES! YOU WILL STILL BE ABLE TO HAVE SEX! It will be a while.. Be patient.
YES! it is still enjoyable.. you may experience a dry orgasm or it may take you a bit longer to achieve one..
SEX for her will not be any different..  

IF you are uncomfortable with it I suggest you get over it immediately.

. he has said NOTHING about the stage of his disease. He hasn't even chosen a treatment yet and there you are telling him everything will be fine. Maybe yes. Maybe no. Impotency is a side effect of this disease. Not saying he will be impotent but he could be. I am sure he wants to hear that life will return to normal but you are not doing him a service by blindly stating so.

It out , often doctors just don't know ....there is a thread on this very topic from guys who have had the surgery ...if is gains knowledge here and elsewhere better questions will be had when he is with his doctor ....an informed patient is wiser than 1 that is not .... I think any positive input is good ....to the OP > GOOGLE , sex after prostrate surgery and read the link. From Roswell !!! Again op best of luck to you !  

A lot depends on how aggressive the cancer is. A lot of what has been said is true, but it depends on how fast or slow the cancer growth is. That being said, get a second opinion from another Dr. in another practice. If surgery is then the only option, find out if they are saving the nerve bundles on either side. As it was explained to me, one is for point and the other is for shoot. The up side is no mess to clean up! Feel free to PM me.

You do have a point.. and yes, he should ask his surgeon about these things as well.
But, I have Been an OR nurse for years and have seen gentlemen in various stages of the disease..
In the working world and in the bedroom...  
Common sense ( which I assume our friend has) says that this disease as with any disease can affect each individual differently...  

A family member recently went through this.  A lot depends on your age & the extent of spread.  He was treated with FM hormones to shrink the tumor before radiation treatment.  Everything 'shrunk' during the treatment.   It has been successfully treated.  There are lingering effects of the hormone treatment but are expected to return to normal after some time.  (It's only been a few months.)  
I've heard that robotic surgery is much better at preserving nerves that are needed to function sexually.  If you go surgery route, you need the very best in your area.  This is not the place for bargain basement!  You need the first team!
Most prostate cancer is slow growing so you can take the time you need to fully explore the options & expectations in your case & I urge you to do so.

For girls like you ! This is touchy and a hard time , you know stress and all .... and I'm with you on the positive side for the op and others too .....

the cyberknife.

I've been with one person who had surgery, it was a later stage one so they had to remove a lot so this may be in the bad to worst case scenario. His penis when erect was about half the size of what it used to be before the surgery. He no longer had intercourse so our meetings were exclusively for mutual masturbation. He said in terms of urges he still felt as aroused, but sensation was more difficult and although he did reach climax, it was longer than before.

my prayers are certainly with you. I had a client who just went through the surgery and it took him months to recover. He called because he wanted to test his thing out on me, and sure enough all was well. He reached orgasm in about 15 min. but he says he has other issues not sexually related. You just need to follow your Physician's advice, and take it day by day.

At least four years that I know of.  I have become active in the hobby and have no problems.  Despite all of the well meaning and heartfelt advice, get a copy of your pathology report and speak with multiple doctors.  I spoke with four.  The original diagnosing urologist advised a radical prostatectomy and the other three told me wait and monitor.  Do some research and find out who is the best in your area or take a trip to The Mayo Clinic (I did) or to some of the better cancer hospitals.  There is a plethora of information out there, so if you have the time (I pray you don't have a Gleeson 10), make the best informed decision you can make.  BTW, I'm in my mid 50's and I've been told that with the type of cancer I have and the lack of aggression, I'll likely die or cirrhosis or heart problems before the cancer gets me.