the proper place to discuss, unless however it makes you feel as tho you aren't alone out there. My heart goes out to you and I hope you get better soon. But I have to ask should sex really be on your mind right now?  

One step at a time. Get better first, then worry about all that 'other' stuff. You have bigger things on your plate.

Hey, I'm very sorry to hear this.  I hope you get the best medical advice possible (it won't be on here) and that you make it through this OK.  

One of the many good things about activity that my name suggests is that at least a few studies have shown that it can help prevent this kind of cancer. Having said that, it's definitely not a guarantee against it.  

Best wishes to you for a complete recovery.

Ladies and gents, I appreciate the comments so far. I absolutely know that my health comes first and sex should not factor into a decision that could affect my survivability. I'm not looking for medical opinions on the treatment. That's what doctors are for. I'm interested in how to deal with the aftermath

Thanks

But first, let me agree with the posters who've warned you this is not the place to come for serious medical advice.  That said, I have not had prostate cancer but someone close to me has it.  It was diagnosed about ten years ago and he's lived with it rather than risk the side-effects of surgery.  Prostate cancer is the slowest-growing cancer there is, so there's no rush to opt for surgery unless yours is very advanced or is a recurrence.  I would strongly advise you to discuss with your docs the pros and cons of postponing the surgery.  The longer you can wait, the greater chances of avoiding the side-effects of surgery because of medical advances.

who had prostate cancer. He had the seeds for many, many years and eventually died at an old age from a heart attack. He continued to have a sex life during that time. I cannot answer any other questions. Sorry. You are in my prayers.

Having dealt with several family members fighting cancer, I can't imagine what you're feeling but I can definitely sympathize. Be strong.

Without getting too personal, my father actually had prostate cancer a few years ago and has fully recovered via radiation. He just had a child, so I think it's safe to say things are at least going well. I don't know if that's much help, but, life goes on, and soon, whatever treatment you choose, this will just be a distant memory of a battle won.

Prayed for you just now and may the Lord continue to remind me to pray.

May not be coming from the best handle, ehem, (looks around,) but He knows just where you're at and is listening.

Don't be afraid to draw strength from above when you can't find it on your own, and ask for help when you need it. Also praying for caring people around you as well who will be comforting and encouraging crutches when you need them.

YES! YOU WILL STILL BE ABLE TO HAVE SEX! It will be a while.. Be patient.
YES! it is still enjoyable.. you may experience a dry orgasm or it may take you a bit longer to achieve one..
SEX for her will not be any different..  

Hang in there....!

IF you are uncomfortable with it I suggest you get over it immediately.

A lot depends on how aggressive the cancer is. A lot of what has been said is true, but it depends on how fast or slow the cancer growth is. That being said, get a second opinion from another Dr. in another practice. If surgery is then the only option, find out if they are saving the nerve bundles on either side. As it was explained to me, one is for point and the other is for shoot. The up side is no mess to clean up! Feel free to PM me.

A family member recently went through this.  A lot depends on your age & the extent of spread.  He was treated with FM hormones to shrink the tumor before radiation treatment.  Everything 'shrunk' during the treatment.   It has been successfully treated.  There are lingering effects of the hormone treatment but are expected to return to normal after some time.  (It's only been a few months.)  
I've heard that robotic surgery is much better at preserving nerves that are needed to function sexually.  If you go surgery route, you need the very best in your area.  This is not the place for bargain basement!  You need the first team!
Most prostate cancer is slow growing so you can take the time you need to fully explore the options & expectations in your case & I urge you to do so.

the cyberknife.

Good Luck!

I've been with one person who had surgery, it was a later stage one so they had to remove a lot so this may be in the bad to worst case scenario. His penis when erect was about half the size of what it used to be before the surgery. He no longer had intercourse so our meetings were exclusively for mutual masturbation. He said in terms of urges he still felt as aroused, but sensation was more difficult and although he did reach climax, it was longer than before.

He needed more stimulation like dirty talk and visual.

Best wishes. Health is more important though.

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my prayers are certainly with you. I had a client who just went through the surgery and it took him months to recover. He called because he wanted to test his thing out on me, and sure enough all was well. He reached orgasm in about 15 min. but he says he has other issues not sexually related. You just need to follow your Physician's advice, and take it day by day.

At least four years that I know of.  I have become active in the hobby and have no problems.  Despite all of the well meaning and heartfelt advice, get a copy of your pathology report and speak with multiple doctors.  I spoke with four.  The original diagnosing urologist advised a radical prostatectomy and the other three told me wait and monitor.  Do some research and find out who is the best in your area or take a trip to The Mayo Clinic (I did) or to some of the better cancer hospitals.  There is a plethora of information out there, so if you have the time (I pray you don't have a Gleeson 10), make the best informed decision you can make.  BTW, I'm in my mid 50's and I've been told that with the type of cancer I have and the lack of aggression, I'll likely die or cirrhosis or heart problems before the cancer gets me.  

Good luck, make a very informed decision, and I'll add you to my prayers.