so be discreet and if the guy seems like a good candidate to be a SD and you are up for it, then go ahead.

Really.  Best policy ever.

Good Morning all!
I have a simple question..well maybe, lol Lately I have been hearing a lot of my girlfriends talking about sugar daddies, I for one have always been independent. I do however want to retire and maintain my current lifestyle, so then is it wrong to look for a sugar daddy? One girl in particular is a provider as well but I am finding more about her everyday I am not sure I like. I am not sure if it is considered a con, or do these men really know, and are ok with it?

i found my sugar daddy of a website called seeeking arrangement  but just becarefull since there is really no screening with sugar daddys and a lot of guys on those sites are just looking for free sex another thing is a lot of hobbiest troll those sites it seems so if you dont want your future sugar daddy knowing you were an escort dont use the same pictures,phone number or email as your hobby name.I had a 2yr sugar daddy relationship when i was 21 with a 47yr before deciding to become a provider and  i want on several meet and greet unpaid dinner dates to meet the guys and get a feel for who was real and who wasnt.After a few dates I met a great guy who was married and looking for someone he could see one night a week or so for a few hours each time.he would give me 2,000 a month in inqurements of 500 each time we got together but sometimes we would go on weekend trips and i would still only get 500 so its not as profitable as providing but he also bought me an audi tt paid off in my name cash  and at the time i was going through cosmetology school so it was a huge help. well things were great the first year then he became super possessive of me and wouldn't like me going out with my friends and would text me like 20times a day and even left his wife and wanted me to be his live in girlfriend so it became more of a annoying boyfriend relationship than a sugar daddy thing so its not always as glamourous as you might think but if your lucky enough to find the right guy that dosnt become obbssed with you than it can be a really great thing. personally I dont have anymore sugar daddys and think that escorting has turned out to be much more lucrative and safer for me. hope this helps your decission and good luck

Sugar Daddy vs. what your friend is doing are two different things.

There are two ends of the spectrum on SD's. Wealthy guys looking for a mistress type relationship, and cheapskates looking for ...

If you find a SD that is wealthy (think income 10 times what you want to be paid), then go for it. Just remember: You are being paid for your exclusivity/availability. Make sure that you are comfortable with that. Note: You are not really retiring, you are just going UTR and not seeing other guys.

Now, if your friend is scamming the guy and calling it an SD relationship, then that is a totally different question.

Sugar Daddy...  is it exclusive?  Does the Sugar Baby get to have a BF or social life besides SD?  The name means nothing...  these points must be negociated & agreed upon.   A lot of these deals end...  sometimes with hurt feels all around...  because SD feels he & his payments are taken for granted.  SB feels too confined.
One thing which comes up...  is this to be an exclusive arrangement?  Do both parties get tested & there after play unprotected?   Or does this continue to be a protected environment?  Both parties need to agree on this.  

Provider on retainer...  Is a special rate which entitled the gentleman to X visits per week.  In other words a regular...  but payment is promised.  Provider is free to work & socialize as she chooses.

Frankly, I have found with repeat appointments...  as in civie relationships...  effort suffers, availability suffers.  Long term, I don't see it working out.  There "must be" exceptions...  we just don't hear about them.  Short term, as long as everybody is on the same page, why not?

I've had a girl lie to me about being a provider, but it was obvious that she was. It is usually very easy to separate the pros from the "real" SBs, even before they give you their phone number which leads to their ads.

As for the SD/SB arrangement.. I think it will be very hard to find a guy willing to pay what you could make as a provider. That is my take on it after talking to several potential SBs. I think I'm pretty generous, but I still pay less than I would a provider. There are very pretty girls willing to do more for less. It's hard for a provider to compete in this market.

One thing to watch out for are the guys/girls that get attached. That happened with my SB. I also think a lot of guys expect BB from what a provider that used to be an SB told me. In my limited SD/SB experience BB has been offered without question.