I'd seen the same provider four times now, for two hours each time.  On each occasion, I would bring gifts and drinks, and treat her with the utmost care and respect.  And, I would sometimes send her gift cards in between sessions.  Basically, I feel that I treated her as though she were an actual girlfriend.

Not so much the first time because what you said was pretty innocent and just should have gotten a chuckle out of her. But the second time around you really should have known better. In fact, what you taught her the first time was how to get money for nothing. So when you made another innocent remark she knew all she'd have to do was get offended and get a quick, no-effort session.
So, for sure, don't go back and see her.

At least you had a very clear reason given for her actions, so weren't left guessing.   Three are at least two or three gals that I had seen for some time that suddenly disappeared and won't answer my emails, etc.   They still have sites up and are working as far as I know, so I guess I got fired, but why, I have no idea.    On the other hand, I stopped seeing some gals for various reasons and never told them why, so the balance is even.

Correct Nicky. She won the power dynamic between them. From now on she's going to take advantage of her power knowing that she can fully control him just by displaying her attitude, and still get paid. No way I would go back to see her. Too many good ones out there that would have rolled with the punches [bad pun, I know].

I'm tired of bitchy touchy providers that go off on the slightest comment outside the norm. You can't say anything anymore without offending someone it's just gotten ridiculous. It's obvious given the relationship you've developed with her you were kidding with her, I think it's more than likely what the previous poster mentioned - she wanted to be through with the session and decided to play the offended card. This also happened to me a few months back with a similarly innocent comment and the provider shut down the session before intercourse commenced [after a very rocky start] and I strongly suspect it was all much ado over nothing simply to end the session before intercourse could begin. It's a ploy to end the sex  and keep the cash. Personally I've had it with all the nonsense I've encountered with the behavior of some of these providers and along with the high prices and lack of quality I'm done. I'm not saying there aren't a lot of great providers out there but I'm tired of getting the bum steers and I just can't do it anymore.    

Not everything is perfectly scripted from our brains to our mouths and sometimes people take offense for strictly personal  reasons that we may not be aware. Was she molested? Does she have a friend or loved one who was? Rhetorical questions but I think you see my point. Some ladies, as are some men, are just more high strung or take things more personally than others and get offended more easily.  
This is one of those learning experiences we all go through at some point. You acknowledged your mistake and you forgive yourself and you move on.  We are all human after all. Thanks for sharing.

A lot of women in this profession have a troubled past, or are self-conscious about their occupation. Some are just easily triggered. I can understand your first attempt at humor (ready to molest you), but why in the world would you come back with another potentially offensive one-liner?

I would have politely apologized and cut my losses immediately after the so called incident.  Ok, you may have "joked too hard" but the reality is there is no getting it back regardless of the level or amount of explaining and, as for me, I am not a trained psychoanalyst.  Fuck it.  I don't need the aggravation of trying to predict how everything I say is going to land.

At least with her. Your sense of humor falls in the cruder end of the spectrum, and your provider falls in the more sensitive end of the spectrum.

A couple of nights ago I went to my (most regular) regular's place after an uncomfortable incident between meetings. She's not an indie, but close. The incident shook me and I wondered if we could go back to normal with my new-found feeling about her... not a good feeling.  
 
It was present in the room, we acknowledged it, and we GOT TO WORK! 😂 I love fucking her and she's worth every penny I give her and more.

I agree with inicky, above (stay away), but if you do go back and she asks you, "Do these pants make me look fat?" keep your mouth shut and RUN AWAY!!!!!!!

She has to see you,  that’s her income.  But anything you do is irritates her crazy.  She really tries . It’s not easy.

the rest aren't borderline.
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You never know what's going to set them off.  But once they explode, it's not possible to pick up the pieces.
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Move on,

@brownjack Why did the SP get offending for the comment of "working"? I think she picked a fight with you to take your money and do nothing.

Clearly, different strokes for different folks.  But after you screwed up with her the first time, that would have been a mood killer for me and I would have looked elsewhere for subsequent appointments.  Clearly you two are marching to the beat of a different drum.

these things

While I agree that the statement you made could be problematic -- clearly it was in your case -- the origin of your "crime" was thinking that after 4 sessions you had really gotten close to the provider. That error led you to think you could be provocatively humorous with the lady. But seems like you jumped the gun on that as you didn't know her well enough to know if such a phase might be offensive or make her uncomfortable (perhaps due to events in her past?). And,she certainly didn't know you well enough to accept such statements without feeling threatened (if that's what was happening).

I do think that if this was a first date the op would carry on much more carefully. He judged to be much closer to the provider and that she'd appreciate or at least tolerate his humor.  

Excellent perspective.

Thank you Chanel.

Unfortunately, if you look at statistics people who engage in adult work have been molested. I would refrain from using the word entirely. Just take it out of your vocabulary, unless it is agreed upon with the provider before playtime. My personal opinion.

Very well stated!  I once had a similar experience, but it was actually *reversed*.   There was a companion I saw very regularly and after about 20 appts or so, she told me I reminded her of an extended family member and she proceeded to use racial pejoratives to explain what she meant.  Clearly, she felt "comfortable" enough around me to tell me this story, since it involved her personal extended family (nothing I had ever asked about) but her comments weren't received well by me at all.   A few days later, I called her and discussed the incident and she wasn't interested in resolving the issue, so we parted ways.

"I'm ready to molest you", if you had said, "I'm ready to see how many times I can make you cum," you would have gotten a giggle and cooperation instead of a lecture.  Choose your words carefully, and even though it's a paid session, lean towards "romantic" and away from crude.  

Warped & Twisted.  Most of my Regulars know this….still there is a fine line between warped and stupid!  “I’m ready to Molest You”. That statement is the epitome of Assholitity!  WTF were you thinking?  I also can read most people fairly easily!  Until I feel the accurate read, I just STFU!  On those rare instances where I have difficulty determining this, all the more reason for me to STFU!

"Are you ready to play?"

He basically called her a whore, in a joking manner. She didn’t find it funny.

with this one, either.  I guess it comes with experience being around women in general, both civvie and professional (meaning providers, too, not just doctors or lawyers.  Lol)  

Well said but still just a stupid and classless thing to say.  And then you felt the need to do it again with another stupid one-line!  

That's reaching a grey area. I mean, how well do you know each other and how could you confirm what the comfort levels are between you two, especially in her line of work.  

And a  snow flake and cannot take a joke. The customer is always right, within limit and I think you are within limit especially when you said input in jest.  

I maintain that given the circumstances and the context, I should have expected a less dramatic reaction.

It can be dicey expressing a situation such as you encountered, because too often doing so  turns yourself into a piñata for our stick wielding  audience.   But that's the way TER is, love it or hate it.

I forget which movie it was, but the line went something like: "I don't pay you to be here, I pay you to leave."  Good advice when dealing with providers, especially those who are under 35 and would be classified as snowflakes.  The first comment may have been playful, but likely triggered something in her her.  You apologized and moved on.  The second, was all on you though.  It was a true statement, but some girls don't want what they do considered "work".  Its debasing and a little rude.  I'm sure she's not proud of what she is doing and probably classifies it in her head as something different; just not being a prostitute.  Move on.  If she was a good lay, go back, keep your mouth shut and do your business.  If you want a girlfriend, go get one, just don't ever think a provider should, or could be one for you.  Remember, you pay them to leave.

"I don't pay them for sex. I pay them to leave."

She needs a thicker skin for this biz. Seems to me she found a great way to get the cash without doing the deed.

It's been suggested, in a couple of replies, that the provider's reaction to my comments benefited her by allowing her to get paid, without providing a full session.

I always wonder when they tell me to be a little rough or use abusive language if they are "testing" me, so I'm reluctant to go all in until I have seen them several times.  If I'm established as a regular, and she has a fantasy she wants me to be a part of, I will take it as a sign of her trust that I won't go out of control, and will comply, but when it's someone I'm seeing for the first time, I question her motive in wanting something I usually don't do with a perfect stranger.  "Am I being set up for something?" spins in my head.