That's why I love to touch myself..

It would be fair to say I'm in love with myself..

-- Modified on 11/16/2013 2:10:00 PM

As Woody Allen says in "Annie Hall,"
"Don't knock masturbation, its sex with someone I love."

-- Modified on 11/16/2013 3:57:40 PM

This goes beautifully with my idea of the perfect partnership. Sex is only a minor player in a much bigger thing. Once we get over ourselves and our very wrong-headed idea of love-as-ownership, marriages can finally be built on real things, like common interests, genuine affection, and deep, mutual, unconditional respect and love. In that sort of marriage, providers can be fun for both partners!

IMO sex is GREAT sport, AWESOME catharsis, and of course for procreation. But true binding intimacy comes from partners being absolute 'Best Friends'! It is truly 'liking' each other long after learning your spouse's farts can peel paint, or their handling of situations or problems is not always as perfect as yours. And it's not taking for granted; but rather having unwavering confidence that your partner will stand back-to-back with you throughout your trials as you will theirs.  

  I have a life long friend whose marriage is 35 years old and steadily counting. Too spend a day or have dinner with them one would wonder how it lasted 6 months by the way they bicker with each other about EVERYTHING. But in an era with divorces all around them their union has survived, and healthfully so.

  A wall poster I once saw many years ago tritely said "A friend is someone who knows EVERYTHING about you; but still likes you anyway". Perhaps the message is not so trite.

as cuddling is why I see providers.

-- Modified on 11/16/2013 4:52:41 PM

I think that touch is a significant part of a successful marriage but there is a lot more to it. My wife and I seldom passed nearby without out touching. We had a great sex life.My wife (of 52 years) and I agreed on almost all of the important things in our life. Politics, religion, type of child discipline, and the ability to allow the other mate individual freedom to enjoy different pastimes. She loved English history and visited there 12 times, often for a month at a time. I loved to hunt and fish. We both enjoyed camping and scuba diving. We agreed on no sex outside of the marriage. We had a great sex life, I didn't need anyone else, even though I was tempted. It took me 4 years after her death to seek feminine companionship with escorts. I missed the loving touches. I suspect that I was probably amongst the oldest group of "newbies" to enter the hobby.

Is something I miss very much.  I like to just enjoy a long horizontal embrace.  Skin to skin is very intense.