Hi everyone

That has been the norm for a long time.

Some guys do and some don't.  Reasons differ, don't want to leave an electronic trail, don't want you to know their screen name, etc.  You just have to keep asking and keep giving good service.

I see. Thanks for the feedback

...is that I will not post a negative review, and that I will not review a provider without their permission. These are my choices and I in no way recommend them to anyone else. If I had a satisfying time with you I would be more than willing to post a review.

I have tried P411 but you must have I think it's 3 "ok's" from known hobbyists or something like that. Date check for some reason wouldn't allow me to create a profile the day I signed up but I never tried again honestly because it seemed kind of outdated. Thanks for the tips.

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You will get more clients who are willing to write reviews if you get a decent website and join P411. Also you need to get off of that "Skip the Games" website that is not a reliable source.

Ok, thanks for the info!

So tell them that if they don't write a review, you'll kick them in the guts.

Lol! I've got more honey than a beehive so that's not it I'll keep trying, just a little too eager I suppose.

Really? I just assumed the opposite. Good to know!

You're right. My eagerness is hard to suppress. It's like I got a taste and now I want more lol.  Thanks for the advice, especially being a fellow provider. I really appreciate it

I'm going to start by saying that I never comment or participate in board discussions, mainly because I don't have time or interest, but also because I deliberately steer clear of chatter that could easily develop into unwanted drama. However, because I was new 1 1/2years ago, and could not even get so much as a reference from other ladies, I will do my best to help you. This may be a little long, so your patience is solicited.  

Hi There Lady

Firstly, I can't help but mention that I don't regularly offer incentives for reviews. Nor do I focus solely focus on reviews and neglect the quality of my work. I don't solicit help from my clients, I simply ask if they're interested in writing a review. How would I know if I don't ask? Your post sounds a little condescending but helpful nonetheless. It was strictly for my first time, to get started. I'm sure not to pressure anyone or make them feel uncomfortable. I just needed to clarify that. Thanks for all the tips, though.

Lol it does. But now I have a better understanding and won't it sweat it too much.

I understand. Thank you so much for clearing that up, as this form of communication can easily be misconstrued. Regarding pressuring your clients, I know you are not doing so in the literal sense and by no means was I trying to be offensive with my choice of words. The point I was trying to get across is that your bringing it up may make them feel a sense of pressure although it's not your intent. I was just suggesting that you only bring it up when you feel you have already established a connection with a guest. Your reviews will be fewer and far between with this method, but you may find it to be more effective.

I agree. Asking after the connection is a lot more sensible. Thanks again JadaJ

You're welcome dear! Feel free to reach out to me via email if you need anything! Xoxo

review about the great time he had with you and the rest will be history....Enjoy life, don't stress out with the small stuff. A review is only a review.... right now Amazon is having a serious problem with their reviews lol.

reviewers are often attacked by ladies who don't like their reviews.  I write very good reviews and am gentle with criticism but still have gotten a few flame-mails.  I was actually once blasted for saying something nice about a lady by another lady.

That body though!  Damn damn damn, I need to get up to NYC!  Really Informative stuff, never considered the whole provider jealousy with some clients writing reviews, thanks Jadaj.

Haha

Jada has mentioned some of my reservations.  I am not completely comfortable writing reviews.  The part of the review that's open to anyone are usually general statements such as, "I liked her, I'll be back"' are innocent enough.  But when asked by TER to mention the "juicy details" -- the specifics of the session, I prefer to keep private such intimate moments.  I've written 3 reviews, but it's unlikely that I'll write any more for the aforementioned reasons

See, that's something that I never considered. The reason I posed the question was to get an insightful response like this. Thanks.

Yea she's smoking hot...will not have any issues getting biz with the right presentation. But you'd be surprised how hateful and spiteful some women are in this biz...I've witnessed it. It's not worth the drama...I feel bad for some of these guys

That's sad...so sorry for your experience. This should be adventurous and exciting for us all, drama should not be part of it. Traditional relationships are enough drama, this is my escape from that lol

Back in the day, I wrote hundreds of reviews at another venue. Every lady I'd seen knew me, and it was tons of fun flirting with them on the boards. But then, some of the ladies started getting jealous. They'd read my new reviews, and or flirts, and send me pissed off messages. "Why didn't you come see me?" "Why did you go see her?" "I don't ever want to see you again." Even though the make up sex was awesome, it became a pain in the ass, and escalated beyond messages.

lol thanks I was a little reluctant to even create this thread but curiosity got the best of me. I hope no one took my post negatively. I read it over and can see how it might come off  as a little scornful. Just curious!

I don't think your initial message came across weird in any way, you won't know if you don't ask. Judging by your pictures, I think you're a beautiful lady, and you seem to be very intelligent...qualities that classy gentlemen love. Once you find your niche and fine tune the details of your business, I think you'll find great success! Smooches!

If u guys keep this up we might have settle this behind closed doors lol.  It doesnt surprise me, though. It's just a perspective I never considered. Very petty. I knew something was amidst lol. All these reasons really helped me look beyond my selfish desires for reviews.

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I wrote my one and only review recently.  Wrote it because I thought, and still think, she is an excellent provider.  No incentives, discounts, etc.
She asked for a review because she is lacking recent reviews, and I was happy to help.    

JadaJ, why aren't u in NY lol? But in all seriousness, thank you.

Sorry, Coco, I'm sure it's become harder in some ways to break into the business these days.

If I had those experiences I would react the same way. I totally understand and appreciate your input. It baffled me initially, but this seems to be a pervasive issue. Now I understand why some people are reluctant. Thanks again.

Hehe! Hello dear friend!

I don't think anything came across negatively, I have found that their are a lot of self-righteous ppl who comment on these boards.  And Jadaj is correct, you never know until you ask.  Somewhere along the lines ppl just seemed to forget that we were all new to this at one point in time.  I found out the hard way, a young lady that I saw asked me to write her a review.  She was new and had no TER profile at all, obviously I was lost and hadn't figured out the nuances of the newbie board.  So I reached out to a provider that I had seen before and asked, what I thought was a fairly simple/harmless question, how I could review her if she had no profile.  What ensued was one of the worse verbal lashings I have ever received/encountered!  Any who, I'm glad everything was handled amicably and Coco was able to get the info she needed.

On a serious note, I agree. I've worked with ladies who I e seen receive continuous 10/10's and I know from personal exposure that they are not even close to it. And reading some reviews are worse...some look like the guy got paid of yo write it...just boring and thrown together, but with a 10/10 rating. I think a lot of guys see right through that

Thats something else I naively never took  into consideration. It shouldn't be that way. Ideally,  honesty should be encouraged and people should have thicker skin. But it is what it is. I understand how flawed and and annoying it can potentially be.

What happens in the Governor's Mansion stays in the Governor's Mansion

Yeah I've read through some of those too. So obviously fraudulent lol.

Lol! I was there last month in Times Square! We missed each other I guess...I'll be back after the winter. I'm a southern girl, I don't do well in cold winters lol. And of course, you're very welcome!

See the little notation under her username that says, "see my TER reviews?"

With all the work hours, taking care of the lady at home, providers, and sugar babes one does not have that much free time.

Awhile back I saw a provider, had a good time with her, and wrote a review that I thought was complimentary and honest.   I got a text message from her complaining that my numerical ratings of her looks and services were not high enough.   So there I am, the lady is upset and now I don't feel I can visit her again which I WOULD have done had she not gotten upset.    

First, not everyone knows about TER reviews.  I write professionally, so doing a review is really a break for me.  But sometimes I get too busy on other issues and just forget or don't get around it.  There are two things that cause me to write a review the minute I walk into the door at home: (1) a total rip off - wrong person, environment, exceptionally poor service, promises not kept after arriving, sting - where I want to warn my brothers; and (2) when the service is great but the environment is hazardous - thugs hanging around, pimps, PoPo, drugs.   If I find a girl that meets my specific needs [severe ED and a love of great bbbjtc] I will only share with close friends - want the service available when needed.  On the other hand, if the service is so fantastic for a specific need I will "tip" by writing a great report.  I've had some great rewards for doing so.  Oh, and some providers have come out and asked me not to write a review - feels it withdraws the mystery of their service.  Now I'm going to see if I can look for your first review.

+100 I've been given shit because I scored a provider a 9 and she thought she was a 10. I've also had a provider give me shit because I saw someone else. Some providers make the review process a shitty adventure.  

Wow. Very thin skinned. It really does seem to be more trouble than it's worth.

You have one review and that actually should start to open the door.
Also earlier in this thread a
Provider reached out to you offering advice - do yourself a favor and PM the lady as long as she has offered to help.
I can tell that there is more than one lady I have meet that wishes she had a person to mentor her and keep her from menu mistakes
Also the longer you are in the business you will be asked for references and want to ask someone about someone/
If you have any kind of relationship it makes it easier to get quick and honest answers/
Possibly post on your local board once you are a little more established that you would like to be part of a "girls night out" or a meet and greet in your local area/
These things all make you known but come slowly.
Be careful, be safe , and be true to yourself.  
Last but not least remember that there are ass hats out there that will try to coerce you with threats of bad or promise the best/ I either case you will become the loser

It's just a matter of time before you start getting even more dates and reviews.
So asking this question was a smart move and got my attention. Lol

Posted By: CocoLuxe

Hi everyone  
   
  As some of you may or may not know, I'm a new provider in the NYC area. I actually received my first client from this very site. I offered him an incentive for being the first to review me, as it was a bit difficult to get a client  having no reviews. I've since seen more clients, all of whom have refused to write me a review. When I questioned why, one person said that I didn't need reviews because he has friends that he would refer me to. Another simply stated that it's not his "thing" although he's reviewed other providers in the past. The sessions go extremely well, at least imo. I find this perplexing mostly because it's the entire purpose of this site. Being new, I'm trying to generate as many reviews as I can. I receive tons of inquiries but most people are questioning if I'm legit. I understand the skepticism, but it's very frustrating. Does anyone know why this might be? I used to blithely dismiss and discard those emails from Amazon asking you to rate the product and seller, without any regard for potential consumers. Now I know their pain lol

There are two issues why I have reviewed only 5 out of a few hundred I have seen:

I have also came back into the industry within the past two months and I do not have a single review. I am with you as far as the fact that my sessions have gone extremely well and I have brought up reviewing a few times to certain clients that I had a good rapport with who seems open minded and even those that said they definitely would never did and I don't want to press the issue. I'm also in the same boat because I am trying to get with p411 and date check and some of the others also you need reviews and client and other provider references for which I have none. I have probably have 40 clients at least at this point and no reviews. I have looked at some of the other advice above though and I will do what I can to switch it up a bit but I definitely feel your pain there when you have nothing to vouch for you saying that you are the legit and give a good service. But we will get there with patience perseverance and continuing to give the best service .....I wish you luck hun take care

Don't worry so much about it.  I had reviews on here before I knew what TER was.  It WILL happen.  Don't offer an incentive for reviews and turn down any creep who uses reviews to get you to lower your rates or do anything else you normally wouldn't.  This is an abuse of the reviews system, I won't see a guy who does this out of respect for myself, other providers and the gentlemen that use reviews while doing their homework.  I personally have never asked for a review, not one.  On occasion a gentleman has asked if I would like one and I politely say "yes" and "thank you".  There's also personal satisfaction in knowing that all your reviews were written 100% by the client's choice.  

Posted By: CocoLuxe

Hi everyone  
   
  As some of you may or may not know, I'm a new provider in the NYC area. I actually received my first client from this very site. I offered him an incentive for being the first to review me, as it was a bit difficult to get a client  having no reviews. I've since seen more clients, all of whom have refused to write me a review. When I questioned why, one person said that I didn't need reviews because he has friends that he would refer me to. Another simply stated that it's not his "thing" although he's reviewed other providers in the past. The sessions go extremely well, at least imo. I find this perplexing mostly because it's the entire purpose of this site. Being new, I'm trying to generate as many reviews as I can. I receive tons of inquiries but most people are questioning if I'm legit. I understand the skepticism, but it's very frustrating. Does anyone know why this might be? I used to blithely dismiss and discard those emails from Amazon asking you to rate the product and seller, without any regard for potential consumers. Now I know their pain lol

nearly every provider wants at least two current provider references, but then they give you shit for seeing other providers ???

Lol i was skeptical at first, and shuttered at the potential backlash. I didn't want to offend anyone and just wanted exactly what I got; tips and advice. But i did learn so much already and have no regrets about posing the question. Thanks everyone!!

Thanks Gypsy! It's refreshing to know that this is typical. I thought that i had researched all there is to know and hadn't prepared for this part of it. I assumed breaking through would be a simple task, but this isn't anything I can't handle. This site is soooo resourceful and i'm very appreciate for everyone and their input. And yes, we will definitely persevere!! Good luck to you xoxoxo *virtual hugs*

You are absolutely right. Thanks for the advice!

Yes reviews are awkward to write, and I'd much rather not go into the details expected...but the benefits of TER in terms of establishing credibility, ensuring safety, clarifying personal preferences, and overall helping to make this a great experience are obvious. It works because people are willing to share. Writing reviews is certainly a personal prerogative, as long as you're not at the same time using the site and others' reviews to improve your experience.  I really don't get being willing to use reviews to help find a great connection, but then be willing to write one

Every new lady wants those first few reviews to get started. As others have said, they are not the be-all-and-end-all of this business. But goddess knows they do help!

finding clients.Just a matter of time.

Posted By: CocoLuxe

Hi everyone  
   
  As some of you may or may not know, I'm a new provider in the NYC area. I actually received my first client from this very site. I offered him an incentive for being the first to review me, as it was a bit difficult to get a client  having no reviews. I've since seen more clients, all of whom have refused to write me a review. When I questioned why, one person said that I didn't need reviews because he has friends that he would refer me to. Another simply stated that it's not his "thing" although he's reviewed other providers in the past. The sessions go extremely well, at least imo. I find this perplexing mostly because it's the entire purpose of this site. Being new, I'm trying to generate as many reviews as I can. I receive tons of inquiries but most people are questioning if I'm legit. I understand the skepticism, but it's very frustrating. Does anyone know why this might be? I used to blithely dismiss and discard those emails from Amazon asking you to rate the product and seller, without any regard for potential consumers. Now I know their pain lol

I am going through the same thing right now. I too have had some great experiences with a few that use TER but it seems like everyone I have seen whether meeting them on TER or not they are over the top private and will not review. They repeat, but they don't write reviews. I try not to take it personally as they haven't written reviews for other women either. I'm sure one day, and hopefully soon, I'll get to join the rest of the lovely ladies of TER

You'll be legit within a few months/few reviews, but being reviewed doesn't necessarily get easier. I think those who tour get more it seems, but lately it seems I have to bring it up if I'm interested in receiving one. Very few offers and even those who do offer don't often follow through. (shrug)

I have gotten freebies for excellent reviews on other sites. I have never posted a sham review here. Don't ask me to.

Thanks Sarah Helpful advice.

Thanks I don't necessarily have a "problem". I just didn't understand why so many people were reluctant to write reviews. But with everyone's helpful advice and feedback, I'm enlightened lol.

i once had, well maybe more then once.....had experiences that were not to my taste.  however it was more of my own idiosyncrasies and pickiness in my opinion then the provider.  sometimes i want to say some things, but i don't know exactly where to draw a line, whats perfectly right and wrong.  ill only write a review if i know the lady wants me to, and if she knows I'm really happy.  i basically don't want to be the reason someone has a bad review if i think it may just be the chances, and sometimes some people already wrote what i would write so i figure, mehh.....but i should partake more, i didnt realize the ladies cared so much.