Hello,
Can anyone give me a guide line on when and how much to tip a provider?Does one always tip?

For example: a $250 per hour incall with one pop and no special requests... What would be an average tip?


Thanks.
-Booty---

Tipping is totally up to you. If you have an exceptional time and you feel inclined. Please do so but that is totally up to you. I don't expect to be tipped and I don't think many providers do. We make very good money and I don't feel it should be expected in any way.
IMHO

Brooke

if you want to give your provider something that's up to you ... I'm sure it would be appreciated ... Will she remember you the next time for it? Will you get better service? Will you make her Christmas card list? your guess is as good as mine. I have never made it a habit to tip. Actually I've never tipped.

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I've done it both ways ... tipped and not.  I gauge it by:

1.  High end for market or not?  If she's high end, I tend to go low end on tip.  If she's low end of market, I'm more prone to tip, combined with:

2.  Indy or agency?  Agency I tend to tip more, particularly if lower on cost.  Logic:  she doesn't keep it all if agency.

3.  Great session, average, or below.  Combine this with 1 and 2 above, and figure out what feels right with the gut.

Answer to your question:  $250, 1 pop, no special requests?  If there was a great connection, $25-$50 tip.  If not, nothing.

I have recently been bringing little trinkets with me such as candy or wine, it is something I want to do. Even a thank you card can add a touch. Is it necessary,no but I do think it is nice to do.. Here is the delimma. What do you do if the provider goes over the time allotment. Does not ask for anything. Would it not be appropriate to tip then? I had this happen where we went over an hour. I had given presents to this provider, but I did not have the money on me to pay for the extra hour. It was not asked, but I feel guilty and wrong for not having given her something extra?

What should one do in this situation???

hi bootycheeter

I just asked a similar question in a recent thread here ("tip your waitress") that got some great responses.
generally, the fee is agreed upon by both parties, and that is all that is necessary. I found it most interesting that your appreciation need not be in the form of extra money. many of the ladies indicated that items such as gift certificates, books, scented candle or any small inexpensive gift can also really go a long way. this may only apply to someone you have been with before and know her tastes and interests. I was also happy to learn that even if you cannot afford gifts or tips, save that money and invest it in a repeat visit.  
   
it seems to me that the main thing is to just be a gentleman and treat your favorite lady with respect and show her that you care in your own way.

best regards, mr.man

because you asked her...or did she stay on her own? If you asked or hinted, then absolutely you should compensate her. But if she stayed over by her own volition, then it is your option to tip or not tip.

Personally, tips make me feel weird. I waitressed for a good many years, and this is definately not the Food & Beverage industry. What I do adore are the little trinkets sent to say thank you. Nothing expensive, thats embarressing, but those things that make me realize I am appreciated and he was paying attention to what I like.

Make sure if it happens again you, in some way, show her your appreciation. A note saying thank you, something beautiful the next time you see her. Acknowledge the fact she spent extra time and asked for nothing in return. Trust me doll....we arent all money whores...

xoxoxox
Lass

but if you feel like you should well then do so.

Kisses, Shaye

I am new at this and I figure that for an indy, a tip is not necessary and the few indy's I saw, I didn't tip.
By coincidence, I have my first agency date in a couple of days.
I figure that since she doesn't keep all the money, I'm paying $$$+5 up front, that I should give an extra 5 if she is good. Otherwise, if I see her again she either might not want to see me or if she does, she will only go through the motions.
Any other opionions are welcome.  FYI, this is one of the reasons I always prefered indy's since with indy's you don't really have this situation.

Big hugs to you honey, I miss you! I hope you come to DC soon so I can buy you a drink/lunch/dinner/we can go out to a strip club again, something

But... I really, really hate that whole concept of "money whores," thrown in there... because I don't think that expecting to be paid for our time in this 'biz is a "bad" thing, but many gents DO think it is a bad thing. Or think that if we enjoyed it, we'd do it free (not true!), or any of the other bazillion different things that they think.

Money Whore?  Maybe.  But my guess is that 99% of our clients wouldn't stay hours late at THEIR jobs, even jobs they love, without expecting to be paid for their efforts OR compensated in some way for their extra effort and time. And no one would think that that is negative, or bad behavior on their part!  Even if they don't get "paid" for that particular hour, often they will get paid ultimately via a raise or promotion or both. So compensation is always involved somehow.

For me, there may be a time when I am "just chatting" with a client and choose to let things run over a bit... but honestly, it's rare. Not because I don't enjoy myself, but because I know that regardless of what we are doing (Chatting? Other stuff?), it's very unlikely that I'll be reimbursed for the extra effort... either in the moment, or in the future. (Kudos to the gent who at least is curious of the best way to proceed on this one! Thank you!) I've met way too many who just take advantage of our good nature, and there's very little that can make me feel bad about a session...but feeling taken advantage of, does!

Hugs*
Nicole

First time seeing a provider, if the session was good, I drop an extra $50 or so.  If it's a provider I've seen before (she was obviously good the first time, otherwise I wouldn't be back), I show up with the donation in a pink and white Victoria Secret gift certificate holder (along with the gift certificate, of course).

i always give a present-jewelry watches,etc before a session begins. i find that i get treated better. it is great watching the smiles and surprise on the girl's face.i will also tip if i am treated well.

It may have just been my attitude at the moment. It stems from a recent conversation I had with a gent. He relayed his displeasure in a recent excursion he went on with a lady. He was asked, and rightly so, to pay for her expences (i.e. travel, food, lodging ect) plus her time. But then it turned into she needed shampoo, female nessecaties, she smoked so she wanted cigs ect. He complained and she told him.."Well you asked me to come, so you have to pay". I was a bit taken back by her attitude. Now this is a gent I have known for the entire 3 years I have been in this biz. I have recommended many ladies to him and all have come back with the same assesment...fun, a gentleman and generous to a fault. But he is so much like me that when asked for something, we will break our backs to get it done, but Tell us and we will fight  you every step of the way.

This conversation, along with the many threads I see on other boards of how the ladies pretty much Demand certain things, make them just that "Money Whores".  A lady recently came to Vegas with a guy and the deal was he paid her expenses and he had to take her shopping and in turn she would attend some gatherings with him. After an expensive trip to Prada and her time compensated for, she ducked out of the festivities and went home early. That makes her a Money Whore.  There aren't many around because their life expectancy in this business is a few months tops. But their ever annoying attitude of it's all about the Benjamins makes me ill. And there are times it makes ua ll look bad.

It is true, many take advantage of our good nature. I myself do not charge for certain aspects of dates (i.e. shows because I KNOW those tickets are usually expensive) and I would hate to be paid for watching La Femme and have it cut into my private time. But I have had some drag those kinds of dates on forever and it comes back to bite them in the ass, because I have learned not to let anyone take advantage anymore.

Honey I am sorry if my post offended you. I was by no means taking a shot at Any lady in the biz who wants to be compensated for her time, that is what this is about for the most part. There are just those that really get under my skin, and you know me, I throw an opinion in there whenever i get a wild hair.

much love to ya

Lass

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If the session is just average which is seldom for me (just lucky I guess), then I probably won't tip anything.  But I have tipped as high as 20% which in some cases has turned out to be around 150.  What can I say, I like to spoil women.

Tipping is not necessary. I always hate when a provider hints at a tip or asks if you'll tip her. It is tacky and rude for a provider to act in such a way.

I have brought some gifts or included dinner with an extended appointment with providers I see on multiple occassions. This is not because the lady request it but because I want to do it to show my appreciation that the lady would want to see me on a regular basis. If you ask questions it is easy to find out some things the lady might like or need. Some things like a day at the spa or a manicure/pedicure are nice things to do for a friend.

Moderation may need to be exercised here because some providers can read more into the gift giving than is there. However, if you have seen the provider frequently they should know some things about you and be comfortable with you.

Be yourself and make sure you do what you want to do in this situation.

Tipping is not necessary. I always hate when a provider hints at a tip or asks if you'll tip her. It is tacky and rude for a provider to act in such a way.

I have brought some gifts or included dinner with an extended appointment with providers I see on multiple occassions. This is not because the lady request it but because I want to do it to show my appreciation that the lady would want to see me on a regular basis. If you ask questions it is easy to find out some things the lady might like or need. Some things like a day at the spa or a manicure/pedicure are nice things to do for a friend.

Moderation may need to be exercised here because some providers can read more into the gift giving than is there. However, if you have seen the provider frequently they should know some things about you and be comfortable with you.

Be yourself and make sure you do what you want to do in this situation.