...to get ugly for you very quickly. If your situation involves your SO, the kids, the house, etc., at stake, then think about the potential for destruction and havoc to be let loose in your life should this get out of hand. Since you're feeling these things already, multiply them and you can see where things might go horribly wrong for you.

The P4P arena is all about non-complicated play time and it sounds like this is nothing BUT complicated. Find another provider for whom you *don't* have feelings of civvie domestication -- yes, the sex may not be as "Wow" but then neither will the lawyer's bills, the alternating weekends, the crazed SO taking revenge on you through the kids, etc.

The P4P model is by far the safest and most efficient form there is for a man to satisfy their lust as well as some level of human contact and even intimacy.

There is only one thing wrong.

As humans, we often desire to go the wild route in life rather than the safe route.  This is not a bad thing if you think about it because without this imperative, we'd still be tryng to figure out the wheel.

So, we end up in this strange gray area of enjoying the attention and the ego stroke of accepting off the clock time while wondering what kind of pay  back this will exact from us.

As one who has traveled down these paths numerous times, all I can say is to try and strike a balance.  I've had some wonderful experiences and I've had a few lulus too.

This whole hobby world is fun, but no one said it was going to be that simple either.

Enjoy the good parts and try to minimize then forget the bad.

isn't just amazing what a couple of so so sessions would make you go back to?  i made a post about this about a month ago with a girl i did a 2hr sesh with where the last hour and a half(extra 30min her time) we just laid in bed.  well here is an update in that i gave her another shot and, well, SHE KNOCKED MY FUCKING SOCKS OFF! i only booked an hour and i kept telling her i wasn't gonna cum a second time and kept telling her shower, but every time i tried to get off her she would pull me back in and start dfk and put me back in cause i was still hard and covered. now my dilemma is that after about an hour and a half into the hour (i finally make my way off her cause i don't wanna feel like i am taking advantage)she asks me if i want something to eat and i oblige to be polite and i was pretty hungry so she starts making us food and we hang out for another hour or so.  then she asks me if i want to go hang out with her friends, but i tell her i am kind of tired cause i had a long day and it was pretty late. i offer to give her a ride since its on my way home and she accepts.  

point is, i was so turned on by this girl in the bed and we really have a damn good time(damn good!), but when it turns more into a GF, then a GFE, i kinda lose it for her.  the plus this time is that this was her time so i was being polite in staying for a late night meal.

there must be something seriously wrong with me cause the moment it stops becoming about the sex and gets a little tooooo friendly, i completely bug out.  now i ain't sure whats going on, but i kinda think shes got a pretty big crush on me and that is kinda of killing it for me, cause i don't want anything complicated, hence the reason for being here. most guys would give there right arm to get with a girl like this(solid 9's  and 10's in reviews) but me, i can't get away from that civie/domestic aspect fast enough!

in conclusion, sex amazing, domestic civie aspect (she kept telling me she is a good cook,which is true, and we still kept fooling around while she was cooking and during the ride) not so good cause i don't want that. so folks, lay it on me, what the fuck is wrong with me, or is there nothing wrong with me cause at least i ain't taking advantage of the situation and just want to keep it business so things don't get weird. but i wanna keep seeing this girl cause the sex is just... WOW!! but i am cautious of what may happen.i jokingly said "next time i'll cook for you, and by that i mean i'll take you out to eat". she said that would be great and she can't wait. do you think i should stop seeing her? or should i just keep seeing her(sex=awesome) and if it does go down a path i don't want, have an unpleasant talk to get things back to business.

Which is very problematic for someone with an SO, but no so much for someone single.

It does appear that the OP is not interested in a "relationship" and that he may need to put his foot down at some point. His choice, he seems to know what he is doing, manginas aren't the only ones that can be "clingy", women are just as subject to that particular disease as men. lol

I wouldn't worry too much about the OP, the clingier she gets, the less he is going to be interested, no matter how great the sex is.

You know what you should do, and you know what you are going to do. You should be very clear about what you are looking for. Set boundaries and keep them.

But if you are reading the situation right there is a high likelihood that when you are real clear about your expectations and limits the great sex will end, so that is a good reason to ride it a little further and only draw the line when you are forced to do it.

It is possible that she is very good at GFE, and enjoys your company. In that case, she is only making sure you keep coming back. One way to test that would be to go slow on the dinners and the extra time - be busy the next couple of times you meet, leave on time, say thanks, gotta run. See what she says and does in response. Even if it does not give you a good read, it will create a little distance between the two of you, slow things down a little, and that sounds like what you want.

Me, I would probably enjoy it for a little longer. Of course, that would be the little head doing the thinking. Boundaries are good for all of us, even if crossing them is the most fun.

Zig

well no kids and my last relationship was about a year ago and it kind of left a bad taste with me.  i haven't even seen this girl all that often, maybe 5 times in the last 6 months.  the last 2 times just had a way different feeling. now i am a guy, so i will put up with the lovey dovey stuff cause the sex is too fantastic to not do again. my main concern is i don't wanna seem like i am leading her on cause that will fuck things up and then so much for the sex. but i imagine its true what one poster said, the sex is probably that great because there is probably some emotion being put in on her part. like i know for a fact that if i didn't finally pull away, we woulda probably had sex for a lot longer cause one time i completely rolled off of her and i thought we were done, but nope, she pretty much forced me inside her in the spoon position(not like she had to force me though ) now i may be reading to much into this, and maybe she is a really really good gfe(again, 9's and 10's in reviews), but something tells me its a little more than that and i have a feeling this great thing will have to come to an end sooner then i would like.   i hope more then anyone it is still just her gfe and nothing else