Got one of those promotional e-mails from one of the on-line dating services.  The teaser contained some profiles of some women in the local area.  Lo and behold on the second page I recognize a Provider who I had seen previously.

Quite a trip to learn more about her.  Now do I tell her that I saw her ad (Personals that is) or do I respect her privacy and let her go about finding her man without any added concern that she needs to worry whether someone else may put 2 and 2 together?

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Let her keep her privacy, work and personal lives are often intentionally separate.

I think most of the female ads on those internet services are fake. The owner of the dating service probably stole the photos off the providers web site.

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1)some of the personal ads are really provider ads
2)it really is a personals ad, and she's looking for a beau, and you should respect her privacy
3)she's not even aware that someone is using her photo that they scammed from her website to drum up business

So, you have 2), in which case you leave her alone;
1)which would be OK to bring it up and
3)in which case you would be doing her a favor by bringing to her attention. My crazy math says 1.5:1 in favor of bringin it up! go for it.

The photos on her provider ads show her face fuzzed out while the personals ads shows her face clearly - so it's not a cut and paste job.  She actually posted the ad.  It's a reputable company which runs this site.

Providers are people too. Yes, that's right. We are human beings. Just because we're being paid to have sex with you doesn't mean *some* of us don't want to fall in love, buy a house with a white picket fence, and have two kids and a dog. Please act as if you've never seen it. Responding really wouldn't do you or her any good. Everytime a client said he saw my personal at at xxxxx.com, I would say, "I have no who would be using my picture." If asked for more information, I'd say the same thing.

I think it would be important to know if it was a true personal ad or a provider ad (they're quite prevalent in some of the dating services.)

A provider friend used to have a provider ad on AFF (Adult Friend Finders) because she said she got a few new clients every month that way. (AFF finally caught on and banned her, however....and I can't blame them--they want real ladies, not escorts.)

I don't remember all the details now, but I think her ad stated she was looking for a successful, affluent gentleman over 30-35--sort of a "sugar daddy" friendship or a no-strings type relationship. To me it seemed very clear it was a business ad for an escort.

The text for a true personal ad wouldn't have any of that in it--it would be the typical "I like candlelit dinners and walks along the beach" without any comments about seeking wealthy men.

If you believe it is a true personal ad for herself, I'd leave her alone for privacy's sake. She's gotta know that a few people (clients) will recognize her face, but if everyone is discreet, that should be OK.  

Girls do that as a back up to get more business.  I know lots of girls who put an ad up on dating service sites.  They usually get back to you with "looking for a business relationship" or "looking for generous men."

I even used to get on the dating phone line for just that reason.  There are lots of girls who do.  

Maybe she is looking for love, but my guess is she's a good business lady.

~Shayla

I used AFF and a lady answered my email that she wants to see me. I mistook it for a civi date, so I answered her telling her "I'd like to get to know you, your interest, what you do ..etc". She did not answer me.  I looked at her ad again and it said "you can do anything to me". That's when I realize there are several providers lurking Adult Friend Finder, so in retrospect she wanted a sugardady.

I have seen alot of personal's ads with providers in them. Sometimes I have actually recruited providers into these type of sites.

It is a good way to let someone else run point and take the risk. Then you get to read the reviews to see if the provider is good or not.

The ones who are no good don't make it. Yes it is incrediable the amount of information that you can find. Many of these women start out looking for a sugar daddy only to be disappointed that many guys only want one night stands, lol.

Sometimes it is fun to respond to their ads to see what they put in it.

There is nothing wrong with a provider looking for /or having a personal/intimate life.. especially if they are not a GFE Provider.. many providers looks for a more personal relationship.. yes 9 out of ten times They do not work.. But they get the passion they need until the man finds out..Escorts do not really receive much passion from their clients..so yes, they look to real life..

I played the dating game once as well.. And I should have taken forms from all of them!!!   Ha