...asks which is more important to the client, sex or companionship. This sort of question should be a 2-parter. In my experience, the older guys get, the less they seek wall to wall nonstop pounding and look more for intimacy and companionship.

Maybe there should be an accompanying age question as well.

What about those of us whose answer would be "both".  Seriously, it's the combination that really rings my chimes.

I like to be pampered and rubbed, so it's kind of a 50/50 type of thing with me.

I've been wanting to post this for awhile but didn't have the words for it. Still don't.
Ok..it's like this. I prefer the multi-hour dates for many reasons. I think both parties have a better time; I think I have a better clientele; I am happier (more relaxed, more comfortable); I think I perform better; and the whole dynamics of the experience is better.
I'm not necessarily saying that we need to spend 4 and 5 hours every time, and I'm not even saying we necessarily need to do a night on the town first (altho those are certainly fabulous and memorable). Most of the longer dates are with the out-of-towners, and the shorter dates are with the locals (usually).

My business has grown since leaving my job this past Spring/Summer and being more available (duh), but I would like it to increase a wee bit.

One local provider suggests that men won't book a three or four hour dinner date UNTIL they have booked a one hour date as a 'test drive'. I think just the opposite. I think most men, AFTER having a multi-hour date would then be more likely to be a repeat client and be inclined to book a one hour or 90 minute date BECAUSE he's had the dinner date and feels comfy. SHE feels that if I want more dinner dates, I need to book more one hour dates and I don't see it that way. Also, it's too hard for me to book a one hour date anyway because I don't have incall.

What are your thoughts on this?

How do you see the questionnaire and my thoughts intertwining?
I enjoy the gentlemen who like both. Who want to have an idea about the woman they are spending time with (hence the social time) yet they also are anticipating the 'fun' time afterwards.
By the time we've had dinner and are back to the room, we both are very much looking forward to 'dessert' and I really like that!

The one hour dates, for me, are only really fun when they are your repeat clients, who know it's ok to say to say "I'm in a rush - I want you badly enough to see you, but am busy enough that it's gonna have to be in and out (no pun intended!)". That's not only ok - it's a huge turn on!

Hope this made sense..? And looking forward to your thoughts.

Thanks.

To me, the concept of multi-hour dates sounds really good -- but I would want to meet for 20/30 minutes over coffee first OR have a one-hour first.  I would need to have some sense of the chemistry between us.

I haven't done a multi-hour simply because of finances, but I would think I am in the minority on this board (not doing a multi-hour owing to $).

-Hoot.



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I prefer multi hour get togethers. But this past years economics have put a serious damper on my play fund so I've had to do a lot of 1 hour meats.

the multihour dates can get pricey.  I had a fantastic experience with a provider who stated out right that she has been around long enough that she did not want me (or anyone) to post anymore reviews.  She offered one hour at $350 (or $400) and 2 hours at $500 (not a big markup so I went for it).  She also made it clear that 2 hours was actually her whole evening (no other clients for her that night) and I understood (correctly) that if she was enjoying her evening, there really was no clock...so our 2 hours were really a date (yes I paid) but each hour afterwards (we were together for at least 5 hours) to me really felt like a date.  Again, I picked (with her enthusiastic endorsement) a good place for dinner all in all, worth it and I would repeat!  The fantasy of a date with the realistic challenge of my getting her to feel comfortable and insisting on lengthening our time together was a total thrill...

HootOwl,

If you're strapped for cash, try to find a provider who discounts for multi-hour, i.e, 300/1...500/2....600/3

Nothing soothes my soul more than a non-rushed, intimate two or three hours.  Enjoy....

I would love to do multi-hour or overnighters but I'm streets away from being able to afford it. Shit! I busted the "piggybank" this year jus' doing the one hour's.
Oh yeah! in regards to the original question of
"companionship or sex" I gotta' admit Companionship is the big winner with o'l Mr. Warmth here, but I would not part with the Benjamins if the sex wasn't included.

     Cm.

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On the other hand, my time constraints are almost as tough.  It's just shy of 9PM as I write this and I'll be in bed (as in sleep, wise guys) within 1/2 hour.  No choice, too tired for anything else.
Why do you think I'm on this board instead of doing something useful?

So I might as well save my pennies and when I do indulge, go for a top quality experience.  I do hear you about the chemistry factor, though.

I too think that this poll question was not so hot.  I love companionship but want a romp as well.  I answered companionship because I thought I understood the intent of the question to be "would I prefer just a sexual encounter to one with some intelectual/emotional attachment as well".

As for the type of dates I prefer...Multi hour.  Perhaps it's my age, but I really want to have a DATE.  I want to spend some time in meaningfull discussion.  I want to know the ladies thoughts on the wine we are having.  I want some casual time together so as to experience the whole person.  

I do love the feel of the soft skin, that rush I get when I see the breasts for the first time, and the warmth of her on me.  But I that is all enhanced when there is time before and/or after to really get something else: an emotional connection.  I want each of us to leave the encounter feeling like, "wow, I really had a great time".

I agree 100% with you Sedona, the getting to know you date comes first, then once you have a connection you can arrange an occasional hour of merciless pounding.  But I still like to take my time and linger in the moment for the majorety of the repeat dates.

So, what are you doing tonight at about 11PM?  Hmmm.... San Diego is just so far away.  Guess I'll contemplate a chocolate martini.

For me I have to admit it sex. Companionship is nice and can be very enjoyable, but not what I look for in an escort. I work a regular job an coming up with the necessary funds for m/hrs dates is just not possible.

Because my ATF and I live in different states, I suppose I am biased to the other extreme at this point to where I only do ovwernights.  She is clearly more companionship than sex.

If I am not seeing my ATF, rare, then my financial situation dictates one hour visits.  I really just want the sex, I am not coming back and I don't really beed a companion.  Of course I met my ATF through just this scenario above, wasn't looking at all, and there she was.  LOL

Sedona,

I have only booked two one hour dates. One lasted fifteen minutes and if I could remember her name I'd review her for it! The other, I spent the last 30 seconds kicking myself that I didn't have more time. Subsequently I booked her for 3 hours the next time we met.

If I could justify the expense of four or five hours I would do that every time.

I think a two hour is a minimum for a test drive. One hour doesn't even get me through DATY!

I voted companionship over sex not because sex is unimportant but because sex is the minority of the time I spend with an escort.

I prefer multi DAY meetings. I usually will have an initial meeting of an hour or, even better, dinner. After that if there is mutual interest, I'll arrange an evening out, and then multiday travel, which is my real goal.

I love travel, and hate to travel alone. This past year I did trips with escorts to Grand Canyon, Copper Canyon, London, Los Angeles, Miami and Disney World, and just returned from the Grand Caymans; and I will go to Las Vegas, Lanai, and Puerto Vallarta in three separate trips by end of January. I enjoy Broadway, opera, ballet and concerts in NYC. Just this year I rediscovered clubs in LA, Miami, London and NYC. There is too much life to live to live it alone, and too many things to try to settle down.

Yes, this impacts the budget. But I've found that once an escort knows me well she usually will be happy to discount her rates to allow me to provide a better travel experience.

You AND your friend both have points.  I'm more likely to repeat with someone I "know" better, and a multi-hour date is a way to get there.  But I'm reluctant to spend big bucks on a multi-hour until I already have some idea that we're going to get along well.

Maybe there's three stages:
1) First impression, physical chemistry.
2) Chatting, mental connection.
3) Crazy hot breathless .. dessert.

What I've been doing to get to know the ladies in my area, is a compromise that involves some risk, but tries to limit it.  I just get a two hour date, with no dinner.  Try to do stages #1 & #3 simultaneously, and then between rounds there's some chat time.  This is NOT ideal, but I'm just not rich enough to gamble with bigger stakes.  And it's gambling to commit to a 3 or 4 hour fee, when after the first ten minutes, I might have already decided that there's not going to be a repeat visit.  (A dinner date with a provider could turn out to be the worst of both worlds.  Sure, I'm guaranteed to get laid, but what good is that, if she makes me not WANT to?)

There's something else I would like to mention, somewhat related to this.  Sedona, you in particular happen to have an asset in your favor that MOST ladies, for some reason, do not take much advantage of: this discussion board.  Just by getting to read you ramble and rant about various things, guys are getting to know some facets of your character, and I can personally attest, trying to think up excuses to visit the San Diego area.  It doesn't really replace in-person impressions or intimate chatting, but it's SOMETHING, and makes me feel like committing to a multi-hour would be less risky than usual.

So keep that in mind, ladies.  "Wasting" time on the Internet, might not really be so wasteful.

I guarantee you that when a lady charges $400 for the first hour, and $150 per each additional hour, she is going to get ALOT more multi-hour dates than someone who charges a flat rate $250 an hour for the first 2-3 hours.  Of course, she may NOT get too many 1 hour dates.  But that's fine, if that's really what you want in a clientele.

I should also add that the lady (and Sedona, I'm sure you do, & I KNOW from experience that NOSC does) need to bring to it the type of interesting multidimensional companionship that makes someone want to spend time with you for activities that are not specifically sexual.  Frankly, only about 20-25% of the escorts I've seen would I WANT to spend multiple hours with.  But many of those, I would greatly enjoy spending entire weekends or even week-long vacations with.

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I prefer multi-hour dates...especially the dinner/dessert kind...but they're not always economically feasible...that said, I agree completely with Sedona that the multi-hour should be first.  A one hour date with someone that you don't know isn't as special for me because there isn't enough time to both get comfortable and enjoy the event. Sooo...I guess I'll save my ducats until I can afford a couple or 3 hours with Sedona...

I think I have priced my multi-hour rates reasonably to attract them more.
Anything 'multi' (2 or more) are merely $$ an hour to save on all the calculating (first hour is this much, second this, third, that - just multiply times 2)
I also don't mind the gentlemen posing the question of what the fee would be for X number of hours to include X (social) and work with a rate for that type of evening; and the same for travel.
Oftentimes it is less than they might have figured.

Wise Lady Sedona,

You are 100% right on!  Since I figured out what I want out of this, I don’t think I have ever seen a Lady for less than 2 hours on a first date.  I would rather wait until I can afford a longer session than have several shorter ones.

First of all, I am nervous every time I see someone for the first time.  I can’t help it.  “She” is always better looking than I am, and usually more outgoing and personable as well.  I am always thinking, “What if I disappoint her?”  Logically I know this isn’t likely to happen, but since when does this business have much of anything to do with logic.  Emotionally, I feel like a high school kid on a first date with a prom queen every time.

Second, as I’ve told you before, I can’t imagine jumping into bed with a Lady’s body devoid of her mind.  I want to—no, I need to know a little about her before it can possibly be pleasing for both of us.

Finally, the importance of anticipation cannot be overstated.  E-mails, phone calls, holding hands over dinner, letting hands wander during a movie.

Sedona, I MUST meet you!  You are fascinating.

Now you're crossing boards, aren't you?