Sorry for what is potentially a very basic question, but for the past week I've been trying to figure out how to handle what is potentially a rather negative review.

tl:dr   Appointment was for 3 hours, provider left at 1:45 with full donation.


So, last week my wife and I set up a playdate out of town, a number of emails back and forth with the provider and we set on a 3 hour date starting at 4:30.  Two days before the trip, something came up, and we suddenly had to cancel.  Then, on the afternoon of the date, our schedule cleared and we were suddenly free, able (and very much wanting) to play, so we contacted the provider, who was VERY accommodating and said she'd be able to meet us at 5:30.  

Now, although this was one hour after our original start time, we didn't think the date time was changing.  In fact, we responded that 5:30 would work, since we could just push our dinner reservations one hour later.  We also reconfirmed the donation amount (that she had set for 3 hours of her time).

She winds up being a little over 10 minutes late which isn't really a big deal.  We chat, have a drink, play, climax, all that good stuff, and lounge for a bit before she gets up, gets dressed, says her goodbyes, and leaves.  It is only at this point that we notice it's only just past 7:15.


Now, this is a rather highly reviewed provider with nothing by 9s and 10s, so I'm assuming either she made a mistake, or there was some misunderstanding, but it'd be ridiculous to contact her and say "Hey, you owe us 75 minutes of your time!"  On the other hand, a review of this session would come up with a rather low score, which I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate.  I suppose I could just not write a review and privately let her know why?

I suppose I'm asking the hobbyists what they would do in this situation, and I'm asking the providers what they would like the hobbyist to do.

Contact her and let her know.
Try to come to a resolution and see what she is willing to do for leaving early.

If she's defensive, evasive, angry, makes excuses, blames you, and you can't come to a resolution, then that would be the time you can write the review.

Always try to come to a resolution first before writing a bad review.
Just like ebay, you don't want to leave negative feedback without contacting the seller. It's unprofessional.

Ask yourself this, how would have she responded if the envelope would have been light.

I think this is just another session in which the provider was doing math. Your 3 hours (180 minutes) does not always ad up to the provider 3 hours (180 minutes). I say post the review and email/pm her with a nice explanation on why you are dooing so.

I have had a provider tell me "your time starts when I leave my house and ends when I get home". So maybe she was including travel?

We can conjecture that she thought she was doing you a big favor by conforming to your rather flighty schedule in the first place, as she might have blocked off that whole day, but since you didn't ask at the time, then you sort of gave up on the high ground there.

It is always good to be very specific with a provider, especially when the original schedule changes, just exactly what times they plan to come and for how long they plan to stay.

Try to contact her now and see what she says, but I have a feeling she may not respond.

In any case, you are free to write a review and state the facts of what happened.

YOU are the one who was at least somewhat flaky on this, while she was over-the-top accommodating, correct me if I am wrong.

YOU lost track of time and did not realize she was leaving early, but it is not possible that she did the same thing?

By your statements, sounds like you had an excellent time while she was there, and she has stellar reviews otherwise.

What do you have to gain by posting a negative review?


TAKE the advice that others have given here and CONTACT her to discuss the situation. The WORST that will happen is either she won't respond, or she will tell you that you forfeited an hour with your schedule change. The BEST is she will give you the time you "lost", discount on future visit, or some other consideration.

Either way, go ahead and write an honest review once you've cleared the air.

OK, I DO see your side in this, so don't bash me here.  
However, did you do all the play you had planned?  Did everyone bask in the post play glow adequately?   You planned the occasion and estimated how long you wanted available.   But everything happened that you wanted but in less time.  How long did you want her to just hang out?  
In a normal 1 on 1 the provider usually manages the time.  I used to book a longer time period for my enjoyment because I needed the extra time.   But it has evolved that I no longer need the longer time, so I NO LONGER BOOK the extra time.  At least one lady mentioned to me that we didn't need the extra time.  

I wouldn't bash her for leaving if everyone was satisfied.  If something was left un-done, that's different.  WHY would the review have a low score?  If the play was everything you wanted, then forget about the time issue.  How would it score without the time issue?
I would not expect a provider refund but I would open a non-accusatory discussion about booking a time frame more in keeping with your needs.
This is my view.  
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Almost everybody up to now has said something with which I agree.

If you paid for 3 hours you should get it all.  If you're finished with sex, there still is the post game or other talk.  As far as I'm concerned, an experienced. over 22 (kids what do they know) high paid escort takes care of you for the whole time!  Escort means more than sex.  There are exceptions when she can get up and leave, when it's listed on her website, violence, threat, etc  or you indicated you were finished with the session.  Make sure to talk this part over with your SO and that your SO didn't send any of these signals, especially that it was over.

The provider didn't call or write to apologize for any other reason; therefore, it's fair to assume unless she left for one of the above reasons, she shorted or stole 42% of your time.  

Like any dispute, first you make certain of the facts and get all sides versions.  In this case, her legitimate ones are limited, because her lack of apologizing and her position requires her to do so unless it is an exception justifying no contact with you.  You'll have to determine if this is one of those.  If not, call and PM get her side give her 24 hours then submit the review.

No offense, but most providers would not have been able to see you at all being you said you only gave her two hours of a notice about canceling, and then you all of a sudden want the appt. Why some guys schedule knowing their work could interfere is beyond me, and the very reason so many providers are starting to require a deposit. I would contact her and ask if you guys can either get the time she agreed to on another date, or a refund of the fee before you do anything. Most professionals with such high scores will be more than willing to do another date, vs. getting a bad review.

It could also be she charged you a cancellation fee, but if that is the case she should have made that known. Personally, I don't book again with someone who cancels unless they make up any expenses I may have incurred, so maybe that is exactly what she did. Did you provide the room or did she? Was that also the case the first time you canceled? If so, I don't think you would have cost her any money, but I don't really know what she had to go through to meet you guys to begin with. Most providers who schedule a 3 hour appt. tend not to see anyone else that day, so she likely tossed off other appts. for you.

.... but it probably would have been good to find out ahead of time if she had to leave at the original time or if the full three hours was still in the stars.  Perhaps she had other plans later on, but with that said I like the idea of contacting her for a discount and or made up time.  If it doesn't work out you can write the review as such but not blasting her for shortened time.  Instead I think it would be the right thing to do by making mention of it but admitting that your change of plans contributed to the situation and that it wasn't cleared ahead of time.  

After all is said and done, what's fair is fair and she can't be totally blamed for anything she did wrong, and either could you, but the situation was originally created by your change of plans and I think it was good for all concerned that she was still willing and able to accommodate you last minute.

If she is willing to work with you then it's a win-win but of not, it's just one of life's experiences that we learn from.

Honestly, I don't know if a provider would attempt some alternate resolution, or would simply black list someone if the envelope had been THAT light.  If the agreed upon price is $1000, and you only pay $600, I'd think she'd be mighty pissed (and rightfully so).