I have seen the same provider now four times and have scheduled my fifth meeting with her.

The first one, there was some kissing and no French.

The second one, there was a lot more, better kissing, and when I asked for French, she politely declined.

The third meeting, there was a little less kissing and this time, she gave me French.

The last time, she let me be with her half a nite, so wwe slept together and had three sessions.  There was even less kissing though.

So I asked her about it in setting up the next meeting.  She said she sometimes doesn't feel like kissing.  I asked her if it was because I am unattractive (as so often reminded by my EX-wife).  She said "No, it is because kissing is so 'intimate'".  I asked her "More intimate than sex, especially French?"  She said "Yes".

Can some providers enlighten me on this.

All the same, so long as she provides to me, I don't think I will ever see another provider.

Thanks!

At least I think so. With the lower region, you have the sensation of touch, but with kissing you have all the senses involved, including the most primitive--smell. And for the most part, you are obliged to look into the other person's eyes (the window to the soul) where intentions emotions, true feelings and the like are not so easy to hide. much less of an emotional commitmentthe other way around i would think...at least for guys. interested in what the providers have to say
-renaissancefool

"All the same, so long as she provides to me, I don't think I will ever see another provider." -- 4inchFred

two words:  things change!


as for kissing being more intimate, i know providers who will rim a guy but not give him DFK and they claim the same excuse ... go figure ... i guess they put their "money" where their mouth is

I sometimes indulge my FB/SO with another provider - arrange for her to 'join us'. I can handle that, and am a pretty generous SO, AS LONG AS everybody knows upfront what the Rules are and abide by them.

One of them is, he can't kiss her!

I've never put much trust in the so-called differences between the sexes, but this difference over kissing must be one of them. Too many guys (including me) are puzzled by it, while too many women are adamant about it for it to be a myth.

But why?

--b.

i won't have it any other way. i get into it more.I feel like it is a pleasure and not a job if i DFK,it makes me feel more like a woman as long as the guy has nice teeth (NONE MISSING OR BLACK)lol i guess it comes from the movie pretty women. and Dear i guess it is a EX thing about reminding us we are not nice looking.. go figure. sassy

Although I may have a mild disagreement with the definition of "intimate", absoluting kissing is much more personal. As one person wrote above, you're looking into each other's eyes.

For me, kissing.. DFK, is an absolute requirement. It's a big part of the GFE, at least for me. Hmmm, maybe that's why I get too attached sometimes... oh well.  In summary, no DFK, no session. Period. That's what is so great about the reviews... You can weed out the non-kissers quickly (among other things).

Hi,

Kissing for me is one of the most wonderful things I can do with a girl! I find it very intimate and very wonderful!

I have had 3 times for me that was very wonderful...

Kissing, just enjoying it!

Kissing and me cumming!

Kissing and both of us cumming (very special and hopes it happens again in my life time)!

Just me,
1dogg12

My most recent experience with a provider was that we talked, the act, she was clearly happy about how it went (she got an attack of the giggles!?), wanted to cuddle afterwards and got me to go for the second round by delivering DFKs...I thought we were done but the DFKs sent me the clear message which was 'don't worry about the clock, I am into this now!'.  They also rekindled passion on my end.  Kissing is a GFE and in this case it came only after she felt good about me which was after sex...yes I find it confusing as a man, but, as the saying goes, 'vive la difference!'.

The only time I won't kiss....is if the person has bad breath. Otherwise DFK is what I consider part of the foreplay. There's nothing like getting lost in a kiss.
Kisses to you ~CarleeofArizona

And it probably is for the woman you are with.   In one case, she is getting involved with your little head.  In the other she is getting involved with yur big head.  Both heads are sex organs.  IMHO, if she can't deal with all of your sex organs, find someone who can.

To me no kissing and I may as well stay home. GFE is kissing period. It is The Definition as far as I'm concerned. They can cover it or refuse to do anything else but the kissing is a must. Intimate? Hell yes, that's what makes it so good! I also love affectionate DFK. Something that not too many woman I've met understand. Most associate it with passionate sex,but the ones who understand the art of ADFK are the best.

All women have their rules, and that's fine. I'm perfectly willing to accept them.

I've seen a provider twice now. She is great in every way. And, she DFK's.

If she meets your needs, have fun. If she doesn't, move on.

kissing, sex, etc it is all intimate~

Shaye

DFK was NEVER a problem for me with providers until that damn movie came out.  After that, almost EVERY provider was saying they didn't kiss because it was "too intimate".

Yeah, right!  I find it interesting that there are now a load of providers that will induldge you in BBBJ and BBBJTC and still won't kiss.  It's like they are saying that my dick is preferrable to my tongue.

My solution is to boycott any provider that doesn't kiss (at least LFK).  I happen to adore kissing and I am not going to deprive myself of the experience.

Sorry, even though most providers are better looking than Julia Roberts (my opinion, I happen to thing she is a dog), the fact of the matter is that I am paying for the session and I can choose what I am paying for.  I have plenty of providers that are willing to kiss, so apparently it is not such a "taboo" as some would make you believe.

As for the others, well, a provider can choose, that is her option.  What she can't do is make the choice for me.

Just my opinion and I could be wrong, but I doubt it.
Loarthan

But to be honest I do find kissing more intimate than even giving a blow job.

I don't know what it is?

I thnk it's because everyone has different preferences when it comes to the style of kissing and when someone doesn't kiss the way you like it can be a turn off.

For instance, I don't like deep french kissing, i don't like a lot of swapping spit, licking my teeth, swallowing my mouth, I mean I'll do whatever the hobbyist likes but I personally don't enjoy it.

I like sweet soft kisses.

Absolutely.  Sex is great, but nice DFK gets me going so much more than anything else and makes me feel so much closer to the person, be a provider or other.

I feel that DFK is a very emotional act . You do it when you have feelings for someone .....I think it is much more intimate then sex . It's like having sex without a condom   ( and I don't mean because  of std's ) .

Oh, you're ridiculous sometimes...

Babe, no one kisses like you.  "Intimate" it is, but with you, it's transcendental.  

LET HIM kiss her.  A lot, for Gawd's sake!  EVEN IF she kisses as well as you (almost an impossiblity), you have the "whole package" and it won't even be a fair competition.  

But, realistically speaking, she won't kiss as well as you.  So no worries...

My two cents.

Really?  Ohhhhhhh...... my.

For those of you who think kissing is more intimate than sex. Have you always felt this way or just since you've been involved in the hobby. This always puzzled me because for me it always started with a kiss. What did you gals do just jump in the sack with a guy and not kiss him first? Maybe I'm just old fashion but here is an example of where I'm coming from. I went out with this girl in high school through my junior and senior years. We did the usual heavy petting and a ton of kissing. Ok we break up and go our seperate ways. We hook up again in our mid-twenties. Make up big time for the lost sex of course. One the first things she says is "I always regretted not being intimate with you".

This is the way it has always been with the girls I've dated. Kiss first,sex later.