Same with music or art or any aethetic enterprise.

To keep things fresh, spread things out and see a range of gals both in terms of physical attributes and activities.

This is what I do and I love it.

I have been hobbying for a couple of years now. Question: so, I have regulars I see, you can say they are ATF's. But, when I see them after the 4th or 5th time, their performance, attitude, and my experiences with them seems to slowly decline. Why is that? I am intrigue by this. I know that this is nothing new, but I haven't been following the threads, so please excuse me for this topic. It always starts off great, then after a couple of repeats, I ask myself, is it me, or are they just slacking off?

Some logical reasoning: providers get tired of the job--physical sex, mental exhaustion, and emotional stress, my size may be an issue (I wear a Magnum, I'll leave that to your imagination), my performance may be too aggressive, their egos may get in the way (may possibly feel belittled by other peoples occupation or overall status), schedule conflicts, declining chemistry, personality conflicts, and the list continues.

Here is my stance: First encounter, providers want to show you a good time for a repeat by boosting your ego, just absolutely shows you the time of your life. Tells you they want it fast, hard, deep, and nasty. 2th & 3th time, its the same. But, what I have been noticing the 4th & 5th time, they just can't physically prolong the vaginal sex part, they want to passively tell you to finish, and controlling your thrust with their legs and hands.

Why must you encourage a man to fuck like that the first time around, and make him think like that's how you want it all the time. This is from my perspective, so please excuse the personal dilemma. Now, it has gotten to the point to which I have accepted that the maximum time frame for seeing a provider who's service will decline will be the magic number 4. Then I move on and find another one.

I have indeed try to fluctuate my performances, like making love instead of fucking, and paying attention to her physical needs, but it hasn't seem to work. Now, please note that this does not happen to some providers I see, but with others within my list. I hope I was able to make sense during this post, any feedback would be helpful, both providers and Johns alike. Also, please do not get off topic with your reply, as the theme is: "why do some providers performances seem to slack off after the 4th or 5th visit?".

If you want to scratch your head wondering why that's your right but it seems pretty simple.  it's a job to them , not romance. Once some gals have you on the hook they will get comfortable and that "new pussy" experience starts to wain.  I've been at this for a while and I've seen it go in both directions.  I have stopped seeing more than one regular when the passion seemed to cool. On the other hand, my longest-running ATF of about six years keeps getting better with age.

Hello! Hello!
Wow, first off let me start out by congratulating you on being so brave as to post this particular theme!  I am truly motivated to read the responses and to see how people react to mine. I think that you have made a very valid point that services can seem to lack in quality over time due to couple different factors.  I also find comedy in your repeated hints about how large your cock is, good advertisement LOL.
You may find my perspective very interesting and it is honestly a split opinion, black and white (I'm a Gemini lol).  Lets start with the basics.  The first time you see someone is usually amazing; people dress to impress, desiring approval.  They are running off of pure excitement for the first couple encounters because it is new.  After the fourth or fifth time, you get to know each other and at times lines are blurred.  Clients and providers naturally have a tendency to become more involved after a couple times of seeing one another due to normal emotions.  At times it is one sided, you get the client that calls and texts non stop or you get the provider that feels comfortable enough to talk about their personal life. Having physical encounters with someone over and over emotions find a great breeding ground to develop and the "performance" or "guards" go down and real people are exposed. Bottom line, it is difficult to separate personal and business when the business involves such a  personal experience.  Now being a consumer, I would expect the best experience every single time and I understand it is the provider's responsibility to deliver that service to the best of their ability.  But as a provider, I also know things can get complicated if you are more involved with your clients.  Personally, I don't turn into a different person as a provider and I am 100% myself.  There is no off and on button, I can't just "perform" for you. SO, IF I am not into it and IF you are getting on my nerves or IF I am not enjoying myself it is obvious.  Granted it takes a lot to get me to that point.  I would rather have uncomfortable conversations to try to resolve all issues prior to an arrangement versus delivering a service that is less than what is expected. Everyone is different and some people "push" through things and the thought of that repulses me so I refuse to do it.  Hell, I have stopped in the middle of a session because I wasn't enjoying myself because I will never deliver a half-a** service, I would rather not do it at all.  So, Mr.Hobbyist maybe you should take a look at what you could be doing to cause the situation you are describing.  I highly doubt it has anything to do with the size of your Magnum, it most likely has to do with something you are doing or the lines that you are crossing.  There has to be a commonality, think about it or maybe just ask the providers that have frustrated you enough to make you want to discuss it on a board.  Or figure out why it is important for you to see a provider more than 5 times, what are you looking for?  Why can't you just see a provider once or twice and move on if you are so consumed with wanting perfect performance?   Obviously, this is an entertainment industry and you are probably thinking, "But, why should it matter what I do?  If I order a Big Mac today, shouldn't I get the same Big Mac tomorrow?."  In a way, you are correct for thinking that, I think the exact same way!  However, we are human and some of us cannot operate like machines when you want a GFE experience.  I congratulate the ones who do have the "ON/OFF" button and maybe I will learn it as I continue in my business but until then I just won't see someone again if I cannot give them 100%, life is too short.  Here is a philosophy for you, "NEXT"...Some will, Some won't, SO what!! Stop crying on the boards, just move on!!

Put longer times between repeats by seeing other whores.

They own you after that many dates, and don't need to perform that well to keep you? Or it's your subconcious keeping your emotions in check. So I wouldn't even worry about it, and find some new
pussy to fuck. You'll get to hear what you wan't(you have a huge dick-fuck me hard with that big dick)
Some times to much thinking with the big head can be bad for the hobby.

for me beyond the 4th or 5th visit--even beyond the 2nd or 3rd--is extremely rare. When it lasts, it's more because of our compatible attitudes than her physical stamina. It's a commercial transaction driven by my physical attraction and her acting ability. It's not like we're two civvies who struck up a romance at the office against all odds. It should be little wonder that the superficial connection wears thin after we've gone through all the usual possibilities of inserting part A into slot X, Y or Z.

hmmmmm I guess we'll see . . .

...they have good performances and not so good depending on a lot of factors. The same act that was initially exciting can become routine. There are many fish in this sea.

Oh! Mr.Shanahanlu,

I could never have a lack of performance with you And if there are rifts the make-up sex is too hot to deny. TMI, But you started it!

XOXOX
Eyva

Boredom is the enemy. I definitely try to mix things up time to time with regulars, and they seem to like it. Also, as time goes on I get into new things and offer to try out things with regulars.

However, it is important you speak up. I've had clients who after 2 years say "Would you try this?" thinking it might be too taboo. Yet, it's something I am more than willing to do or try. If only he would a have asked sooner.

Kisses,
Vanica

..Something well beyond the scope of most humans. I see it every day as a salesman and it never ceases to amaze me that with all the devices we have available to us, including our brains and mouths, we still can't seem to communicate worth a chit.
Too much assumption and innuendo is a recipe for failure and/or disappointment. Or just "missed opportuniy"..

Here goes honesty... we get just as bored as you do...
I mean it is the excitement and the adrenaline rush of meeting a new person, knowing what is to come... thinking about it for days afterward.... all of it is a rush, and that is what it is meant to be.

It is human nature to get bored, so some of us try to switch things up, not show you all of our tricks immediately, hold back a little. As long as its fun and real... all should be ok... once it gets a bit boring... I kinda hold off on seeing some of my clients... make them wait a little longer, so the endorphin's can start flowing again.

Sometimes we can be in a bad mood... I have more than once called and canceled an appt because I was in an icky mood... who wants to come see me when I'm not happy? How could I possibly make you happy if I am not? At least I am honest! I would rather see you on a good day, then upset you on a bad day and never see you again. I know my clients have appreciated this among other honesty factors.  

Bottom line gentlemen... speak up... ask us if we want to do this or that... we like to play too... if we didnt we really wouldnt be as good as we are!! Trust me... we have probably done everything and anything you can think up... just ask... what is the worst that could happen? We could say yes!! He he

I have a provider that I have seen a couple of times and because we have fun together, we have actually talked about out how to keep it interesting.  As with Ginnieleigh, she has had something different for the two times we have met and I so have I.  Change it up!  Take her to a strip club, go to the casino, make her dinner.  Do something different to keep the both of you excited about the next time you see each other!   This is where your fantasies can become reality.  Girls!  Ask!  What is the worst that can happen?  We most likely will say yes!  LOL!