I am a very large man. I weight 357 pounds. I know this kind of weight can cause problems for some ladies like some positions are not possible. And ladies often do not find really large men attractive. So I have started bringing it up when I book an appointment. I had an appointment with a lady today and I told her I was on the way obese side when I made the appointment. She said it was not a problem. I then booked a hotel room to have our date. When she got there she said she does not do "fat fuckers" and left. WTF!!! I told her I was very obese when I booked! Now I am out of $ for the room. I know because of my weight certain things go off the menu because of loss of penis size, difficulty positioning one self, and just to heavy to be on top. But to just walk off after I warned her and put up the money for the hotel. WTF!!!!




P.S. I am just venting. I am not looking for weight loss advice. Believe me when I say people regularly give me unsolicited advice all the time on loosing pounds. Thank you.

The way she treated you was awful.  I'm so sorry to hear this.  There are providers that have no problem working with men of size.

I wonder if she didn't understand the term "obese"?  That might be the problem..... next time tell her "very overweight"

"I told her I was on the way obese side'

If she's a blond maybe she didn't know what Obese means..
If you have PM send her name to me ..I will boycott her, if I'm not already on her DNS list.
I'm short and skinny but I figure she is too particular for my taste or hers.

If she was told in advance, then it's just not right.
She showed up?  Can a review be submitted?
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She Hispanic. You will get a PM

...can visualize it. 'Obese' can be vague and could have different meanings to different women.  Some women think other women who wear more than a size 6 are obese.

Many ads online are posted in a way to trick you into thinking that you are talking to the ladies in the pictures, when in reality, you are talking to someone else.
That's my guess and I am sorry it happened to you.
When you book girls, always ask if you are talking to the person you are meeting or her assistant (or agency phone girl).

Very unprofessional on her part...I can see a lady walking out on a guy that practices poor hygiene...But to strictly walk out on a gent because of his size..Is wrong! As long as you're showered, smelling good and respectful...There should be no issues...Just brush ya shoulderz off and don't sweat it bro...

(Blaze81)

Sorry to hear that, bud. I'm sure there's some kind of recourse, someTHING you can do, so that pinche bruja doesn't keep doing shit like that.

I'll admit, I know ladies that don't like to see big guys. Or won't. But you were cool enough to let her know beforehand.

Do me a favor. PM me her fucking name so I don't make the mistake of giving her my business if I'm ever in your neck of the woods or she tours here.

Thanks, and my apologies again.

p.s. I'm half Hispanic, so I wish I was there to turn you on to some finely chosen words for her exit.

...But she probably didn't understand what the word obese means. It really doesn't matter how good her English skills are.  This is a vocabulary issue not really a comprehension issue.  Next time just tell the lady that you are overweight.  Simple works best sometimes.

Maybe she thought you said you were a beast and got all excited.

Just the fact she said she doesn't do 'fat fuckers' tells me her comprehension of the English language is just fine.

Scoed, thanks for the PM in advance.

I live in NM. And I work with many people of Hispanic origin. I've had some admit to me that they know damn well what 'gringo' is talking about, but act stupid just to get them out of their faces.

You did everything right.

She said OK and then backed out. That's not the whole problem: She acted like a cunt about it.

You should be posting her name. This PM stuff is bullshit. Unfortunately the well-intended, supportive-type advice telling you that "you shoulda ..." is off base.

Everyone knows what obese is except stupid people. Stupid can be overlooked as long as someone acts decently. This bitch is not representative of how decent providers operate. You are not responsible for catering to the lower common denominator.

The dumbing down in this country is way out of line. The only thing that keeps it going is that people just say its ok, and tell each other how to put up with it. It's time to "Just Say No" to stupid, mean, assclowns and clownettes.

You keep on doing what you're doin' and don't let this kind of bullshit make you second guess yourself in any way!


I'm happy today!!!


HalfHour

I just stepped out of the shower not more than 30 minutes before she arrived. I was clean. And I always try to be respectful. She just wasn't.

I'm a "man of size" as well and the fear of things like this happening have made me debate whether I should enter the hobby or not.

Everything worked out in the end. Unprofessional lady who was rude ended up not getting a dime of my money and waisted her time going to hotel room. She was referred to me by a provider friend of mine. When I called her up to tell her about her friend insisted on making it up to me buy giving me a two hour date for the price of one. After the extended appointment I took her out to eat as she was hungry. From the restaurant my provider friend called her friend that dogged me and had her meet her outside the restaurant. When her friend got there my friend let her have it and cussed her out in front of me. My original date then said she was sorry to me and left. Everything worked out. I didn't waste the hotel room and had a very happy ending. The rude chick ended up being cussed out and didn't make a dime that evening. So what goes around comes around.

. . . these girls are tight. I have the experience of being close to several group of ladies and they look out for each other. I can't help but being suspicious that the cussing was staged to make you feel better and repair the relationship with your friend. You didn't say if your friend told your provide the over the phone that you would be there? But I think she, who screwed up, came over to make it up to her friend by getting cussed.

It's one thing to do this to someone you have no connection with, but to disrespect the regular of a friend of theirs is just too much.

She is either the world's most insensitive person or has the IQ of a flea, or both.

Those "K girls" that don't speak a word of English that all these white guys think are meek and possibly sex slaves, speak a lot better English than one would think as well. Many of them own their own homes, nice cars and speak English just fine TYVM. They just pretend not to speak English when asked stupid questions by stupid Americans. Sometimes I wish I could do the same thing, but in spite of my slanted eyes, my entire body language screams "American", I can only get away with it in South America where they are not sure if I am Americano or Chino. lmao

She was very unprofessional and beyond rude. Anyne who behaves that badly is not someone yu want to spend time with anyway, consider it her loss.

I remember, thru drunken conversations, that you turned me onto your Asian descent.

It's going to be interesting to see if you were bullshiting me here in a couple months...

That's one of the advantages of having a connection beyond laying the envelop down on the nearest flat surface. I've had most of my best experience from being referred by a lady, that I've seen, who has got me in with her friends that are UTR.

No excuse for her behavior should be made, nor hould you subject yourself to that kind of behavior...

I am sorry that happened to you..

If you find yourself in Charlotte, NC. You can find me..

We are not all classless or clueless...

I am so glad to hear how things turned out. What a great end to what started out as a totally crappy and uncalled for experience.

Even better, I would be willing to bet that your provider friend will never refer a single person to the lady again. She didn't just lose out on the money should could have made from you, she has also lost all the potential business your lady friend could have sent her way.

Your lady friend though, definitely sounds like a keeper

I hear you on that, but let me give you some perspective.

There are many things to consider in making a decision to enter the hobby. That is the least of them. It's a decision YOU have to make and be 100% sure about or it ain't worth it. Skim the board (esp. FAQ for Newbie) for good advice and perspective. Now back to the OP issue.

The term 'Lady' and 'Gentleman' in the use freely in the hobby, but they need to be earned. There are enough cunts out there to give you an occasional bad day. But, in fairness to the (real) Ladies there are a ton of asshole for them to deal with. And they certainly far outnumber the amount of providers that cannot be considered Ladies. Simply put the Ladies is the hobby put face a lot more bullshit than the men. (And, believe me, I am no WK or mangina.)

Why is that relevant? Because, above all, the Ladies appreciate a CLEAN, RESPECTFUL GENTLEMAN. Looks and body type are far less important. This is not my opinion, it is the overwhelming consensus of the Ladies who anser that question time and time again. Just skim the board.

Any man of size may come across a provider that doesn't want him as a client. So what? It's not the first time something like that has ever happened. It won't be the last. But, the important thing to remember is THAT IS NOT THE WAY IT WILL USUALLY BE.

If you are clean and respectful, I mean CHECK YOURSELF TWICE clean, and TREAT HER LIKE A GODDESS respectful you will do just fine. Stick with well reviewed ladies and you will do better than fine. Hell, most of the Ladies on this board that answer the question of big men as clients say they don't even need to know in advance! That says a lot.

Consider this scenario - You call up a seriously stripper-hot little 22yo and ask for an hour incall. You ask her if she is ok seeing a very heavy man, and she enthusiastically says "Oh yeah! I LOOOVE BIG GUYS!". You get to her incall and plop down your donation, and she invites you to sit on the couch. Bext she hops on your lap face-to-face, her legs apart and wrapped around you, her arms across your shoulders with hands clasped behind your head. She looks you at you all fresh an wide-eyed and smiles, and then asks "Would you like to have some fun."

The first time that happens (and there will be that time) you are going to know what makes the hobby so fucking great. (Even more so, when after the fun, she asks "When are you going to come see me again?")

Life is good

HalfHour

That's awful that she treated you that way, shame on her. But like others have said, maybe she didn't know what 'obese' meant, and if that's the case, you probably didn't want to see her anyway. There's a lot of other providers out here that have NO problem with larger guys.. and it seems you guys are actually the more skilled at DATY and conversation!!

Fat guys love a good cat fight.

that girl needs to be OUTED FOR BEING RUDE.

I am sorry that happened to you .