but dude, you are putting up some serious walls here, I hope you eventually get over what this woman did to you and start living again. Yes, there is always the opportunity for getting hurt in life, but sometimes that's what makes life worth living. You sound like you have it really bad, I hope you get over it some day.

For the record, I am guarded, but I am still human, and still capable of falling in love again, Do I look for it? No, but I prepared to embrace it if it happens to come my way, Does that mean that I might ever get married again? Not fucking likely, and I guaranfuckingtee you that I will never get divorced again, If it ever comes to that, there is this little place in Costa Rica called Crocodile Bridge, and as the saying goes, accidents do happen. loo

All my life I thought that other people were able to hurt me. It wasn't until I divorced that I realized that what I thought in the past was hurt by others was just anger I was feeling for being betrayed, and that the only people who can hurt me are ones I love or care for. The deeper the love, the more potential for hurt. My ex hurt me something fierce with this divorce.  

What is worse:  Being hurt, or not being capable of being hurt?

Think about it a while before you answer.

everyone processes feelings and approaches relationships in the same manner as you do.....

There is nothing wrong with putting up some wall to protect your still broken heart for a period of time, but at some point you have to start living again. don't let those walls stay up forever, you will regret not having lived a lot more than you will ever regret getting hurt.

The "when" is only for you to deicide. Just don't make it after it's too late, we only have so much time on this earth, we owe it too ourselves to make every day count.

In the meantime sticking with women that you will least likely end up in a "real" relationship might be the best idea. If you know you will never have a real relationship with a 20 something, maybe those are the types you should see, this way you are protecting yourself from yourself, and still having fun in the meantime. Just a thought.

As for myself, even in my mid fifties I know the ONLY women I might end up in a serious relationship are hotties in their twenties or thirties, I don't find women my own age the least bit attractive, but I don't fall in love easily, and I am completely aware of both my strengths and my weaknesses, so I am not too concerned about having my heart broken. and If I do, I will pick myself up and go on with my life.

this place is turning into a friggen soap opera!!
Is this really the place?
How about an on-line shrink!!

CurlyW, GaGambler, the divorce did hit me hard. 40+ years with someone only to be kicked in the nuts is hard to take.

Once you reach a certain age, we all have baggage. Truth be told, I would be more worried about a woman in her thirties or older who had never been married, had kids etc. Who in their right mind get to be that old without acquiring some baggage along the way? Those are the really scary ones IMO.

I probably have the least baggage of anyone I know my age, while I have been married once before, I have no kids, and no real baggage to speak of, except of course the fact that I drink like a fish, gamble way more than a person should, have the attention span of a gnat and love to fuck at least a half a dozen different women a week. See what happens when you have no baggage??? lol

I couldn't agree more with you 89Springer. I have no interest in women as a companion anymore. I need to take care of myself and won't risk a relationship that will take half of what I have left, again.
In the VERY unlikely event that I met an attractive woman my own age who had as much (or more) to lose than I do, I might think about it. For me, it's not the emotional risk, it's the financial one.
The one's I meet are either crazy, have too much baggage, or I am just not attracted to.

Clearly, he is suffering from Multiple Personality Disorder.  Don't worry, folks, soon "Dungy The Mangina" will be back, along with "Dungy The Stalker," "Dungy The Gameless", "Dungy The Inept Picture Poster," and, of course, "Dungy The Ass Clown."
He recently won this award and is extremely proud of himself

I get what he is saying and I've been there but just like you I'm not completely devoid of the fact that I could find love again.  
I read both hobbyist and providers on here stating they are happy to be alone all the time. Yet they are constantly on a fuck board giving/getting reviews. If you are on here it's simply a different type of courting for a one night stand and not because they are happy to be a hobbit.  
Everytime I hear the "happy to be alone" statement  I can only think that person has closed themselves off to possible happiness. OR they are simply off in the head and the only reason they can't find someone that can make them happy is they run off the possible suitor for fear of getting hurt.
All in all this is where you rent a hooker, fuck her and go home. This is not a dating site and you wont find that SO stability here. So find one, fuck one and go home.

You don't.. You just go away...

And maybe better I learned it now than later. I'm in the (35-45) bracket. I know my posts was probably referenced to in this thread. No, I don't have baggage, been single since I started the hobby.  

than go thru a divorce again. Hey, but you don't even have to make it look like an accident.

Actually I saw this on a shirt in a store window in Hollywood. I went Wow! nice.  

I wasn't referencing you specifically. There seems to be at least one or two threads a week by guys who are in love with providers, or who are wondering how to get to be "the one".  

this attempt to get close to, or become friends with, or hang out with OTC. or see 30 times in one year, or spend over night with...you are not getting all of an escort as a person. she is acting and only giving you what she wants to. Many times you read posts where guys say they dont want a civvie relationship then expect that type of relationship with the same escort. If you really like the NSA aspect why do you see the same lady over and over?  

Out and date . You seem like a nice guy , yeah like a lot of you guys here . And things didn't work out but being in like or being in love is nice . I just think you owe it to yourself to try again . Please don't take offense but Fuck your ex wife , don't be bitter , yeah I know easier said than done but you don't ever have to marry again or even live with a woman . But there are too many guys who do just what your doing .  

where is Dr. Fucking Phil when you need him the most..

providers: "We don't pay providers to have sex with us, we pay them to leave when we are finished."

and trying to get her to marry him.

The general thread was DATY with a provider .
I replied that she's a hooker , she's a prostitute and my face is not going near a hookers pussy . My tounge is not licking a vagina of a hooker . I don't know if she did bareback a half hour ago with another dude. I don't know if that snatch was washed after Joe Blow left . High dollar, Backpage slut it does not matter - a hooker is a hooker or prosititute by any way you look at it . I call a spade a spade - sorry .....
When I see a hooker she is and ALWAYS will be that and nothing more !!!
Straight up.
She is a paid fucking whore, hooker, slut, prostitute that I paid for MY enjoyment for the hour or whatever.
When you fall for some bullshit fantasy of GFE than you my friend are set up for a heartache of varying degrees of your misguided illusion .
You did it to yourself my friend.
Repeat after me ...... She is a hooker. She is a slut. She is a prostitute . She is a complete stranger I know nothing about. She is a whore I called and choose with the aforementioned known to me going into the fuck fest!
I just don't understand the gentleman here being disillusioned by three letters -GFE !
Whatever ....... I only see them as a paid whore so I have no chance of a hooker crossing over to my heart and world - that's what REAL civie relationships are for - DUH !!!

Look up the definition of insanity.

You weren't flamed for DATY.  Hey, even bad DATY is not always terrible. Maybe up there with: there is no such thing as a bad BJ?--which, of course there is such a thing as a bad BJ--or, so I've heard….but….digressing.  

It came back as .......
Being disillusioned by three letters - GFE

Are you offended that some men see you as only a hooker?
Are you somehow in a world that you fantasize you are a "companion" that is world travelled , college educated and can speak 5 languages ?
Does my blunt affirmation that you are a hooker, prosititute or AKA paid whore hit a nerver with you ?
I'm sorry if my "reality" language is not preferable to how you see yourself and the reality of your job that you discuss with family and close friends.
I call a spade a spade.
I don't live in a fantasy world .
I am NOT in denial - I'm a John - I pay for sex!
My mother sister and friends all know I pay hookers to suck my dick and call me "daddy".  
I have not the time or fucking care to hear a woman's mouth and opinions!  
They are good for one thing and one thing only - to be moist and be a cum dumpster

In $$$$$ too big too ignore......

But I do.  And this tool even thought you were a hooker!  So he's not only a complete douchebag, he's an ignorant ass-wipe.  Now, I may be a prick (and I"m sure you'd agree), but at least I'm not a stupid prick. LMAO!

"I've fallen for my provider" hormones...  me too...  I fall for each gal (If she's any good at her job)...  until the next one.  That's why I rotate among a few Favs.

Whore. Bitch. Cum dumpster.  

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for DUMMIES.  The Doc who was taking care of my meds while I was in Maine suggested I look at that book.  

You say you don't go down on providers because you don't know if she did x, y, and z before you got there, but let me clue you in...I have sex 'maybe' 3 times a month as a hooker. That is LESS sex and d(ck sucking than someone who has a boyfriend would do.  I fked everyone in my high school for free, and unprotected, so your logic is seriously flawed. It's not the title that makes one a whore, it's the actions, and you will never know if your own mother or sister has done this. So, your cum dumpster sister might have just drank from you milk glass, ass wipe. Oh, and "cum dumpster" is my fkin word...get your own, or at least come up with something more original.  

I need to buy a new trophy case. This one's full.

¿Qué pasó? ¿Las prostitutas no pueden hablar mas que un idioma? Invertimos in nuestras profesiónes. En este profesión hay mas dinero. ¿Si un educación ayudamos, porque no?