Married or ever thought about marrying a provider ?

Yes to the first two, no to the third.

At least one other frequent contributor to these boards also married a provider who is still active.

Honestly, there have been a couple of ladies, who I wouldn't have any qualms about being in a serious relationship with, even marrying depending on the situation/circumstance.

but if I did, it's just as likely to be a hooker as a non hooker.

man.......we love ya GG......you the MAN.

and I will likely do it, but I'll do it for a very special reason. My spouse would get a portion of my retirement when I die. This money was based on my contributions over my time in that job. If I'm not married  when I die that money goes is lost. With a prenupt that we will have leaves all my estate to a family member who knows about my plans. Another benefit  to my spouse while I'm still kicking would be that she wouldbe covered by my medical insurance.

He was mid 80s and married his early 30s cleaning lady. Make sure all the i's are dotted and the T's are crossed. She got some hassle from the pension fund about a sham marriage but he left lots of documentation about their ongoing love affair and married her to make her an honest woman.

and something I most likely will keep in mind as I get older.

Thanks Sticky, Good advice, I think I have covered  the restrictions and I will double check.

GAG, Thanks for your comment. However, when you die, I'll bet it will be at end of a  really hot orgasm. Then, in the hereafter, you will be surrounded and adored by the hottest chicks in hell.LOL

Like me, you revert to the "it's not her, it's me" defense. and a very valid defense it is.

What other traits ? besides not doing what she is told....

If your marriage goal is regular sex then forget about it.  

I no longer have a wife (thank goodness), I have no children, no siblings and my mother has passed, my father is the only remaining immediate family member and he has all the wealth he needs. So, I've willed what wealth I'll have when I pass to St Jude's Children's Hospital, as this was my Mothers favorite charity. Just because you're not married it doesn't mean that the State, or anyone else you don't want to get your wealth will get your wealth. Getting married just to pass it along to someone is a really awful reason to get married, and to be honest you couldn't present me with a reason to get married that isn't awful. If you want someone to get your Estate, will it to them, it really is that simple.

He is not talking about leaving his estate to someone which he (or I) can do simply by willing it to that person or entity, what he is talking about is his pension. If unmarried at the time of death his pension payments would simply stop, if he gets married he can make sure his "wife" continues to get those payments for the rest of her life, while he can will the rest of his estate to anyone else of his choosing.

I missed that, my reading comprehension skills need some work.

Your social security payments.  And those would indeed go to the surviving spouse as well.

But not if the "wealth" that he wants to leave her is a pension or retirement plan with a joint and survivor spousal annuity benefit. You can't will that to someone other than a spouse.

I'm not sure you are directing this message to what I plan to do.The part of my retirement money that would go to my wife would be LOST if I'm not married. So I couldn't will it to any charitable cause.

Once we marry and you put me in your Will I will whisk you away to Jaco.  Just be very careful when we cross the bridge over the Rio Tarcoles.

I miss her  

Why would you bring up something like that?  Putting ideas in our heads...

to all the ladies of TER. This is the only marriage where the sex never stops.

I am sure guys can fall in love with a provider easily, or at least have thoughts of being smitten.  

I like the point you make, "where else would men keep telling them how beautiful they are...". I am sure that is one main motivation for women if the money alone was not a good enough reason. Though, only a provider can explain more.

I just haaaaappen to like very polished men.

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and get over it as I walk out.....