Can a man feel when a condom is coming off during intercourse????? A friend of mine recently had an experience where they were in the middle of the act and she could feel the condom slipping off her client's member and when she went to stop him  she realized that the condom went all the way in her! Apparently she asked him why he didn't stop with her (supposedly he kept on humping away when she was trying to stop) and if he felt the condom slipping off just like she did. He told her he couldn't feel it. Also she excused herself to the bathroom to try to dig it out of her, and had trouble and she had to actually have him dig it out of her of course with him sucking his teeth with irritation probably from the due fact that she stopped all activity.  Now she is panicky for he apparently came in the condom when it went deep in her!!!!!!!!!!!! I know that she is highly upset and is actually taking an aids/std tests on Monday and also a pregnancy test. If a woman can feel it slipping off can't a man?

-- Modified on 3/28/2004 8:03:18 PM

I'm sorry your friend had such an upsetting experience.  There are a couple of different tests for HIV.  AIM has the one that can detect HIV in as little as two weeks from the time of exposure.  Also, AIM has good prices.

Good luck to your friend.

http://www.aim-med.org/faq.html

http://www.aim-med.org/testing.html

-- Modified on 3/28/2004 8:18:34 PM

Laurel,
If I read the news correctly,the FDA approved an oral HIV test that gives immediate results.

See link

Well, yes and no. I would be able to feel it, but if the sex is good, then my mind at that point would be a very noisy place.  In hindsight, I'd know exactly when it happened, but if the woman didn't call my attention to it, I don't know if I'd be able to wake myself up to the fact.  It is like I'm dreaming, and I wouldn't wake up till I've come.  

Though I can't excuse this guy.  I would stop once she got my attention, painful though it can be.

/zin

This stuff happens. Its one of the risks you have to take. Get tested now, get tested in 6 months. Condoms need to fit properly, and too much lube will make them roll off. I check them about every half dozen thrusts in CG, and I make sure that I change condoms and lube again after vigorous play. I bring an assortment of condoms, and sometimes I will switch because it isn't what I like.

This is not his fault, he can't think clearly in the situation, its the provider's responsibilty to pay attention. Its pointless to try and claw it out, and actually dangerous to put something up the vaginal tract as its easy to perforate the cervix. Not to mention any trauma is a window for disease to take a hold. If it happens again, then insert a spermicidal suppository and try to "birth" the condom out the next day after a nice relaxing bath. If not, then maybe there is a really sexy med student on duty in the ER that has a healing touch, and a g-string under her scrubs.

I have had only one condom slip off during sex and I had NO IDEA it was MIA.
Quite frankly, it did frighten me.
I did get tested and was/still am fine.

It is curious that she has a fear of getting pregnant.
All providers should always be on the pill or something.

It is after all his equipment and he should be aware of whats going on as well.

It has happened to a friend of mine. As for being just the woman's fault. Tsk..Tsk... I find that a shame where society is yet again, blaming the woman and not the man. Don't it take 2 to make a baby? Or, is that immaculate conception on just her part?

-- Modified on 3/29/2004 5:58:08 AM

I have never had a condom come off, but I did have an experience in civilian life where the condom broke.  I had no idea the thing had broken until the deed was over and I saw the tip of my penis sticking through the end.  I retrospect, I remembered at one point things started feeling better, but, never having experienced a broken condom before and having my mind on other things, I did not stop to think maybe something had happened to the condom.  

I would not fault the guy necessarily.  I assume that any rational male participant in this activity is as concerned about disease as are the females.  Therefore, it was not any more in his best interest to continue sans condom as it was in hers.

For 3 months, and use a condom, its almost impossible to get pregnant. Unless of course you take medication such as an antibiotic. If she had been on the pill, and rook it EVERY day at the SAME time for at least 3 months, and took no other medication, and used a condom and THEN got preggo, well, hell yes....let me be the first to write a letter to the pope for her cannonization.

Actually this has happened twice in my life and I couldn't feel it either time.  I remember both times vividly because my Ex sent me all over town looking for an all night pharmacy the sold spermicidal gel even though she'd been faithfully taking her pills for years.  She REALLY didn't want kids.

... but I've never had one slip off.

RJAGW

Back in the 80's a GF of mine changed prescricptions from a higher strength to a lower strength pill.  Someting about the changeover caused the problem.  I was unaware of the situation, we continued to have sex and she got pregnant.  It was only afterwards she learned how she made a mistake, or the doctor made a mistake for not warning her.

Extremely rare, but possible.

happened with my ATF... she's a cool composed beautiful latina from an upper class venezuelan family that hit the skids... you can't make these stories up, the weird hands that life deals some folks...
  We had great sex, body and soul, and we both tried to be as conscientious as we possibly could. There were times when the condom would slide off, like it scrunched up with every thrust and then pulled a little more off of me and inside of her with every thrust...
  Neither of us noticed until I was thinking My God this is the best feeling, it never felt like this with her before, until I looked down and, YO! no condom to be seen anywhere !
  She excused herself as it took about five minutes of careful self exploration for her to retreive it... she asked me if I had ejaculated in her and I truthfully told her no.. she was cool with the whole thing, we put on another condom and banged away for the next hour...
  We are both very careful when it comes to testing and selective about how far we go with whom... as a rule I don't see women who have reputations for doing everything with anybody... it has a lot to do with the ethics and mindset of the person you are with...

The sooner the better.. A Pharmacist can Prescribe, as can a Doctor... Call Now for prevention Of Pregnancy.

Lots of women can't take Monthly Hormones for many reasons...

For instance, there are MANY medications that alter the effectiveness, Antibiotics are merely one of the WELL KNOWN.

Elise [email protected]

Actually getting pregnant while on the pill does happen far more often than one would like to believe.  It's interesting if you do the research of what the company of the pill will say the rate of pregnancy is versus the studies from places like pregnancy crisis centers and the like.  I have personally known 4 people, including myself who have gotten pregnant while on the pill and I was very careful in using it properly and never missed once nor took antibiotics or other medications to affect the pill.  It does and can happen at times.
Getting pregnant while on the pill and using condom, most likely not, however I think the point being made about this was that the condom came off and the guy already came, thus spilling the sperm inside of her.  Definately reasons to be concerned and hopefully your friend will get tested for everything, not just pregnancy and hiv/aids, but for bacterial infections, vaginitis and all that other funky stuff.  Although it does not help for the STI or STD's, having a contraceptive cream to use could be helpful, as well as going to get a morning after pill~
Hope all works out well for your friend~

I am still waiting to hear back from my friend to find out how is dealing with this. I guess the moral of this story to the men is: If her p*ssy feels too good be true, make sure to check to see if the  condom is still on lol

I wonder when it will become available to all of us.  Thanks for the info and the link, guys.

Here's a link to a test for HIV AND Hepatitis C with the same test that is supposed to take just a couple of minutes for the results

It CLAIMS to be just as accurate as any labratory test you can take

....and I had absolutely NO IDEA that my cover had come off.

We were in a position(I don't know whats it called)where she was flat on her stomach with her legs together, and I was straddling her from behind. We were going at it pretty hot and heavy and I could feel myself about to cum(Okay....think about where your mind is around this time). Suddenly she said rather loudly..."STOP-STOP". My reaction was "Huh..Wuh" I was informed at this time that the condom came off. I pulled out and sure enough it wasn't there.

Well, needless to say the session was pretty much over after that. She reached up inside herself and eventually found it.
She was pissed, I was upset and luckily I had not reached climax yet.
I got tested and came back negative and I assume she did to because she is still providing. We haven't seen each other since.

My whole point is,don't sit there and say "well the guy should have felt it come off," if you have never been through the situation. It happened to me and I didn't feel ANYTHING. Thinking back, I attribute what happened to a lack of proper lubrication and a position that "tightened" her up. FRICTION was the culprit(I believe).Always make sure you have a proper fitting condom and use adequate lubrication. This could happen to anybody if the conditions are right. Be safe