I'm relatively new to our mutual "hobby," but I have noticed that none of the "providers" that I have seen have kissed me on the mouth.  As soon as the first girl refused to kiss me it brought to mind the advice given to Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, about never kissing on the mouth.  I think of it as a vaguely romantic notion.  I'm just trying to figure out why this is so prevalent amongst working girls.  Is it really that the girls are all hopeless romantics who believe that kissing is so much more intimate and special than sex?  Is it more about the looks, appearance, or hygiene of the "hobbyist"? (PLEASE don't worry about hurting my feelings; I really want to know the truth).  A third possibility that I have entertained is that they may avoid kissing out of fear of disease, but this seems unlikely considering the other things that they have allowed me to do  I'd love to hear from some providers on this topic, but really anyone's opinion is greatly appreciated.

The majority of Escorts I have seen DO DFK, so it could be you.....or....you could have bad luck. Are you doing research in advance? Her on TER, it is clearly stated, both in the profiles and the reviews, if a girl DFKs or not.

So far, in my experience, I have met only one escort who definately didn't DFK. There was one other who didn't, but her "madame" swore in advance that she did, so there just might have been a disconnect there...I didn't even try with her because my experienc has been that an Escort who does DFk will initiate the contact. Most in fact in my experience jump right into, as if to get themselves "in the mood" more than being concerned about if that was something I wanted (which I did, and what guy wouldn't...just saying I think they do it for themselves more than anything).

So that is my feedback...it could be you (for whatever reason), but the way to be certain is to do a little research in advance.

My two cents....

Why some providers don't DFK -- well there are a number of possibilities:

1.  Hygiene -  Theirs or yours

2.  Romantic notion  - Some providers might foster the sentiment that kissing is romantic, and that it is to be shared with someone special

3.  Misconception - Some providers have a misconception that by kissing they can contract STD or HIV.  There are numerous articles that dispense such beliefs.  

As someone else suggested, do your research.  Read the reviews on TER and/or other boards and find a provider that BEST suits your needs.

Peace out!

held back for their real significant other. They have a point. It is much easier to cross that intimacy/caring line when DFK is allowed. Most experienced hobbiests have encountered this. It works both ways. Providers have also been known to cross the line with clients (hi Mongoose). DFK is an essential part of a GFE for me. I will respect a providers choice not to do this, but I may not be willing to see her again since intimacy is one of the things I enjoy. On the other hand, a lovely lady who I saw regularly for 2 years before she retired, did not DFK (she did have some other very special attributes).

Providers certainly do kiss some hobbyists and not others.
I've actually chatted with a few providers specifically about this. The chats were just pure anecdote with providers who had no problem kissing me, so it was not one of those conversations.
With almost all, you get better mileage if you do not move to kiss them. So, now I do not, and I move on to other things, the kind of soft touching and lower kissing that providers definitely like, the neck, the hands, the inner thighs.
With some providers kissing is an intimacy thing. Some find it easier to devour Mr Happy for 55 minutes nonstop than to do a little tongue wrestling. LOL
They kiss their SOs.
The comediennes say "Lower" when you start to kiss them on the mouth.

Kissing on the neck can work wonders in mood.
With others it is an attraction thing. If they want you as a regular, you'll get it down the throat, and maximum mileage in all things carnal.
Some have no intimacy issue at all and are rational about it. Guys like to kiss more than babes, so those accomodate us.
It gets us turned on and along the way.

It is a bummer to have a kiss refused in the first five minutes after payoff, so don't set yourself up for disappointment.
Of course, if a guy is a whale, or looks or tastes like a goat, what do you expect! No whale kissing. No sharing of bad breath.
My humble advice is to forget about it and concentrate on other ways of improving your mileage. Forced kissing is certainly not one of them. It is counterproductive.

Two golf foursomes I'm in are composed of hobbyists. We compare notes on some of the same women. We have similar tastes. The young good-looking guy gets the long wet kisses, but not necessarily the bbjtcs or fs. The laid back 50-year old well dressed married guy with four kids gets the best mileage. The guy with a beer gut and 2 inches gets the worst mileage. And The Schlong is somewhere in the middle. He won't talk about it. I think he just likes to eat pussy the whole time, do the alphabet, then slip the schlong in and do push-ups when they're howling like banshees! LOL. Go figure.


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I honestly and sincerely share myself with MOST of my clients ( I wont lie and say "all" of them, I share REAL intimacy with roughly 96% of them, when I dont it is usually because we didnt "click") and truly enjoy DFK...the intimacy keeps me from feeling like a "blow up doll".

Sable
xoxo

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