Do you feel it's necessary to tell your regular about your SO if they don't ask? Or it's none of their business. I ask because regulars also develop some feelings.  Or do you feel it's part of the fantasy that you are 'single' when you meet your regular?



 

I tell what I feel comfortable with.  Sme things need to be unsaid.  Mst of the time I am friendly and talk about things that might interest him.  I have had a problem with being to honest. Of some one is asking for help and wants a sincere reply I will tell him.  I always come with my open heart.

it depends on the provider. Some providers are almost friends. Some are just for fun.

But most of the time I don't. Discretion can prevent many disasters.

I think it's more like  a date, so I would prefer not to know and not to tell

the chemistry is different with every provider.  Example:  Patty and I were both in rotten relationships and spent the middle part of every two hour session comparing notes, bitching and laughing about our S/Os.  

On the other hand, Catherine had more insight into my relationship with my S/O than I did, and told me about it.  In one instance, it was rather like having ice water dumped on my face right after cumming.  But she was right, and I continue to this day to be grateful to her for her wisdom.

Sherry and I talked about our respective S/O's quite frankly and openly.

As a general matter, tho, I think it's prudent not to yammer about the SO, but if asked, tell the truth.  Yes, providers have feelings and deserve respect, so maintaining a false sense of "fantasy" is doing a disservice.

unless you came to see me in part to improve your relationship with your SO.

Would you want me to tell you if *I* had an SO?!?

to discretion, or safety.

In the past (no more), I have met married gentlemen in their homes while the wife was out of town or out for the day. I would make sure not to wear any fragrance. If they are married, I will also be sure to know whether email or cell is accessible to her, etc.

Otherwise, it's none of my business, just as my personal status is no one's business.

Although, wait! I just got a PM from someone interested in seeing me, but asked if I was married or else he wouldn't! How timely is that..And that's a first! Never had someone specifially ask before..Ha!

I'm quite likely not to deal with a guy that blatantly refers to wifey or a marraige.  That usually comes along with a backhanded reference to sexual intimacy that is rather indiscrete.

xoxo
Elise

(That's the New Revised Standard Edition)

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