Ladies, there's nothing hotter than a woman who takes the lead and who is aggressive.  What's going on here???  I think it is especially important in this business.

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Until I opened the door one day and this 90 pound wildcat wrestled me to the floor and started stripping my clothes off.  The freakin' hotel door was still open and I had to kick it shut for Christ's sake.

I loved it!

6 years later and she's still one of my top favorites.

But most gals, at least on first date, want to have you sit down and chat on the sofa so that they get comfortable with you and I think that makes a lot of sense too.

Just like in chess or poker, there are a lot of openings to use.

Alot depends on the signals I'm getting from the gent, but I do like to be aggressive sometimes.

However, sometimes being aggressive can be misinterpreted as trying to rush the session. Also, I try to keep in mind that its your dime and your fantasy, so I am going to take my cues from you and generally let you guide activities where you want them to go.

That is why communication is important. If you like a tiger in the bedroom, tell her what turns you on, and hopefully she will respond accordingly

They like to take things slow, and an escort who rapes them from the word go makes them feel rushed. Or maybe they want to "get to know her" before getting too intimate. But what am I doing making their case? What better way to get to know a girl than to molest each other's privates, I always say.

I don't really have any complaints myself. Most girls get right into it, but sometimes she expects me to take the lead, which I'm glad to do. Her attitude is that it's my call how we pass the time, so I should either give her a little direction or simply, "Have your way with me, big boy."

i prefer a slow seduction. an initial warm greeting, a getting to know or catching up phase leading to a long slow tease. but then i usually book at least 2 hours, i like dinner dates

it may be better for the escort if they can accomodate getting to kow you quickly or slowly. that way they can manage better with more varied client tastes, if she can be that flexible.

probably it is a good idea for the client to let her know his "style" in advance. some key words in the initial request could be: "i'm a passionate, spontaneous guy" or "i'm a quiet guy who warms up slowly".

Dear Ms. Lockhart:
Speaking of woman being aggressive and dominant, would you say that providers with a BDSM background have more of a propensity to be dominant by the sample size of men that you interviewed? I would tend to believe that they would, especially if they are large in stature.

I like assertive providers, since the ladies that I've seen in my civvie life are just the opposite.  It's a nice change of pace ...LOL.  I usually tell the provider ahead of time, if I have any special requests/likes/dislikes, etc.  I believe most ladies would accommodate this kind of request.  Although if you're seeing a new provider for the first time, she may not rip off your clothes and jump your bones as soon as the door opens, until you have a short "get to know you" chat/drink ...LOL.

I by nature tend to be a bit bossy and the leader. If I sense that you are sensitive or that is not what you are after I try to curtain that a bit. I also don't want to scare you or make you think I am an *itch... So, habing said that.. maybe you should also specify your needs...

Read the providers reviews, a cross section of them.  If she doesn't seem to offer, what you seek, move on, or simply ask before-hand (using subtlety and respect  of course  

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...they should know to do it automatically.  See, the fact that I have to tell a woman how to please me erotically, is a total turn-off to me.  A woman should know what to do to begin with.  An adult woman should know by now what makes guy's tick.  What guy(besides a lot of the herbs in the community who'd rather sit and play chitty-chat all day, "get to know you" and "feel a connection" bullshit ---> LAME) doesn't like an aggressive woman who takes the lead?  Now hey, that doesn't mean I'm not a romantic guy, I totally am, but I'm only romantic with chicks who have an actual interest in me both sexually and emotionally, and we all know 99% of adult workers have absolutely no interest in the guys they see, so why even bother trying to be romantic and establish a "connection" with someone who has absolutely no interest in being romantic with you?  In the escort world, I'm only here for one thing and one thing only. I just wanna get down to business.  

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Not all guy's want to be attacked sexually by a provider the second they walk through the door. I do not. I like taking my time. Some time I want to take the lead sometimes I don't but I enjoy taking the time to talk to the ladies. That is why most of my appointments are 90 min to 2 hours long so I can take my time and get to know the ladies before I "fuck the taste out of their mouths"*.

Every guy is different just like every lady is different. Man up, and say what you want or quit bitching if you do not get it. This women are not mind readers. Thinking they are is lime.

Remember you do not speak for all men, not even close. You do not speak for me.


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researching of providers or the signals you give out when you meet them. Because it hasn't been a problem for me, and I generally like being raped from the second I walk in. And the last thing I want is to spell it all out to a girl before we get started. That would take all the fun out of it for me, like giving away the plot of a movie.

Getting to know each other's style intuitively as we go is as big a thrill for me as the destination. So, I read reviews to find providers who are assertive and, just as important, good at picking up signals and making a "connection", superficial though it may be. And really, I rarely give much thought to who's been the aggressor in my sessions. I like when it's more like a dance than a battle.

So, you can think all you want what you "shouldn't have to" do or say, but the fact is that not all escorts are pre-programmed to your particular wishes, so evidently you DO have to approach them differently, which could wind up being more fun.

I'm one of those ladies that waits for the guy to take the lead... I was raised in a household where the "man" takes charge... of everything, lol, & it's just stuck with me for life. Hence why I won't do domination appointments, & am much more comfortable w/gentlemen who take the lead. It has been noted in some of my reviews, and some guys were confused by it, but unfortunately, it's just a personality trait that I personally, just can't shake Hence, also, my tagline, 'Sweet & sexy girl-next-door'....

i think it is fun to switch it around, there are times when i prefer to take the lead and other times when it is hot to have the woman grab be my tie pull me in the romo and rip off my clothes!

...is in for a lifetime of disappointing sex. Communication is essential! Be clear about what you want, and you might actually get it.

many men are turned off by sexually aggressive, or more properly stated..assertive...women. these men tend to naturally take the lead in sexual and romantic relationships and will not tolerate anything else. you also have a significant portion of men who fall somewhere in the middle...sometimes they wish to be seduced and aggressively pursued, other times they wish to be the aggressor. because you see, every person is different.

i am a naturally submissive woman, that is just my personality in and out of the bedroom. for me to be with a man who wished or expected me to ravage him would be EXTREMELY awkward. i just could not do it, it is too far outside of my nature. that is why, when one has specific tastes, it is so important to take the time to get to know someone before engaging in what could potentially be a nightmarish and traumatic experience for both parties. even within this hobby, we are not all actresses, and i would even go so far as to say that even among those who are, the role can only be pushed so far.