That is, at the end of your appointment when you say your thanks for the great time you had. If you weren't completely satisfied, do tell her that? Or do try not to hurt her feelings and say you enjoyed everything?
I'm asking because I'm relatively new (have provided S&M in the past but never escorting) and keep getting odes about my skills from the gentlemen I see, but they never seem to follow through with a review. Although it's flattering to hear that I'm "the greatest they ever had," it sounds improbable and sometimes downright cheesy- I'd much rather hear about the things I should improve on....

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I've had the pleasure of 'knowing' the lady most of the time before we met. By that I mean, we've talked and helped put each other at ease as to whatever misconceptions or any questions and/or expectations one or the other might have.

I'll admit, some turned sour after circumstances that didn't really pertain to the 'date' in question. But that's not what you're asking is it?

I have a habit of scoring ladies higher than most other guys do because of my practices. I won't go into it here, AGAIN, so if you wanna know why PM me. And that includes however I feel after the fact when I have my encounters.

I'll just say I'm usually not a 'one and done' guy and part of the reason I invest my time and money with certain ladies is to spend more time with them if they like.

While I don't lie to the ladies I do tend to praise the positives and down play or omit the negatives. Like my ATF could stand to loose some weight, yet I don't tell her that. I tell her how her smile brightens up any room, as it does. I do not tell her that her BJ skills need some work, but I do tell her how she is the only one to have ever fucked me so hard that I literally catch air while in CG. I am a big boy, I didn't think it was possible to ride me that hard. I love it. And I tell her that all the time.

If I say it, it is true, but it doesn't mean that there isn't more truth I am not speaking that isn't as flattering. Don't get me wrong, I will tell you how I like it and how things could be improved, but I keep things positive. Some ladies in this game have esteem issues and I don't want to make them worse by bringing up small negatives.

As for reviews, I only write them if asked, she is new and has less then five reviews, or I feel I need to warn others about something. Some guys don't review, ever. What they say could be true but it doesn't mean they will ever review you.

i once had a review in my profile which was an extremely unpleasant experience. the provider in that case knew i was unhappy when i left and there was some considerable drama following that occasion. that is more the norm. clients are used to some degree of drama and difficulty if they are honest and have some kind of constructive remark.

please understand, assuming that you are sincere in wanting to hear how to improve, there are enough providers who would rather have the fantasy that they are "the best" in some sense than hear a constructive appraisal from the client's POV. there is narcissism and sensitivity on both sides of the envelope to be sure. there are clients who want their ego stroked too.

but i have to say that for a special ensemble of ladies (a mere handful) that have been especially inspiringand wonderful, my compliments are completely sincere. they cannot be compared. each is so different but so wonderful that each and every one of that handful is a special and treasured "best".

one is spectacularly beautiful and never lets me quit or get tired until the very last possible bit of pleasure is extracted from me. she is also a wonderful dining companion.

another can please me with very little effort, just talking to her is a tremendous stress relief.

a third is very sharp and highly sympatico, a pleasant and somewhat kindred spirit who has a unique sensual dynamism: passionate fiery and bright.

a fourth is just outrageously entertaining.

the fifth is a slow sensual experience: dark, soft, and wickedly decadent.

each is different. each is one kind of "best" for me. one is a particular favorite among favorites but i'm not going to tell one expressed annoyance that i would even "talk" to one of the others and there is no point in creating trouble

if you are really looking for feedback, find a sensitive client who won't try to run a power play on you behind a facade of helpful criticism. make it clear you want honest feedback. also please understand that very few reviews get written anyway. i've only reviewed about a third of the folks i've seen.

good luck.

In my experience, a man should never tell a woman he is less than satisfied with ANYTHING she does at the time she does it.

Would you be ok with it if a client told you that right after a session? Has that ever happened?

I don't claim to have a complete understanding of women, but I have in inordinate amounn of women best friends, (I'm sort of like "their 'gay'" except I'm terminally hetro) and only one EVER has been the type that is ok with a candid revelation such as that, at the moment that the problem existed.

If that is not how most providers are, I would like to know!!! Because if I am not satisfied, I say "thank you. I had a lot of fun" then I leave and dont rebook. If it was a small issue, I may try again, and if it is there on the second time, I will not rebook.

I am a repeat guy. I genuinly like women and I especially like providers. (Don't know why. maybe it's their liberated approach to life.) BUT... I am not paying her to coach her on her skills. I also don't believe that an emotionally healthy, self aware provider does not know how well she did in a session.

Most (men and women) people say they want to know either don't really OR they have the "shoot the messenger" mentality whether they realize it or not.

I am not interested in ending a disappointing session and a waste of money, with the drama that MIGHT unfold with tell her.

"Best let sleeping dogs lie."


HH

> If you weren't completely satisfied, do tell her that?

Question: You are on a civie date with a guy for the first time. What would you say at the end of the date?

If you want to see gentlemen, expect a gentleman's response.

> but they never seem to follow through with a review.

All you can do is mention at the END of a date that you would appreciate a review. Some guys only write reviews when asked.

> I'd much rather hear about the things I should improve on

Send him an e-mail afterwards thanking him for the date. At that time you can mention that you are looking for honest feedback on how you can improve. Kind of like a Customer Satisfaction Survey that a lot of businesses send out.

That's a quote from some jerk, but it's true when hobbyists promise to write a review. There's tons of reasons why guys don't write reviews, just read the boards to find them out.  Just keep doing what you're doing and the reviews will come, just be patient.

is that I don't things unless I mean them (points to heart).  I will not say things just to impress.  There are ways to spin most anything to make it sound positive; no, I am not nor was I ever an attorney.  

On the other hand, "the whole truth and nothing but the truth" does not apply with me.  If the lady has a negative(s) characteristic or flaw, I will not mention it.  When I write a review, everything said is true but I sometimes leave something out if it not necessary to the validity of the review.  Also, some things may get the YMMV disclaimer.

I will never outright lie about a session I wasn't happy about, but there are degrees of dissatisfaction.  If I'm dissatisfied because the woman wasn't as hot as I thought, there is really no upside in saying that.  She can't help that, and neither can you.  It would be just outright rude, that's all.

As far as things she could do better...if a girl asks and it's something that she did in session, then I might gingerly say something like, "I really liked it when you were really slow in the BBBJ.  The fast stuff doesn't get me off."  Or, "I really would have spent a lot more time between your legs pleasuring you, if you were into that."

But really, never more direct than that.  What's the upside?  Unless a provider really wants some feedback so she can be the best she can be and up her business, there is no upside.

There's almost no benefit to mentioning disappointment.  Rip offs are different but I've never had one, so there.  If I had a great time, she'll know it and the repeat appointment will be the proof.  If not, who was that masked man?  I can't write reviews these days, but when I could, I'd try to provide honest feedback to both inform the brethren and give her pointers.  It's tough for me because I'm a bad combo of shy and blunt.  No, really, lol.

Unless YOU really don't want to see the guy, then a follow-up email thanking him, or saying you had a good time, or looking forward to next time, is always a nice touch.  Then you can also ask about things you could improve.  Asking for brutal honesty in the moment at the end of the date is not going to get you what you want.  It's an awkward moment.

You're a politician!  

I've outgrown my shyness of being naked out in a crowd of people, but I still am shy.

i do not write a review, mention her by name on this board, or discuss her identity with any other hobbyist or provider.

CBJ no ANAL I would not waste my time. It is your choice but expect to get reviewed on what you provide

j/k

of course they know I'm joking cuz then why the fuck am I paying to see her.

If her performance was great, I tell her it was great.

If it sucked, I just remain silent and try to get the fuck out of there asap. :S

i don't suck, i lick....

i'm sure you understand that i'd have good reasons to honor a very legitimate request on the part of a lady friend who prefers that our liaisons be UTR.

what's the story behind that?

In that case i'm very shy. ..  (Aside from the time I was doing a girl on the balcony, beach, porch, car.... It was dark. Lol)

Man, you rock! lol!