I've never worried much over the presence/absence of blowjobs particularly with civies; but I have found that the primary barriers in terms of a woman either giving (or even receiving, believe it or not) oral sex is attitudinal/psychological rather than a matter of hygiene.
Some women just find the whole idea in either direction distasteful because an organ used for excretion seems to them to be a place where one's mouth does not necessarily belong -- no matter how well cleaned it may be. In essence, their reaction to the idea of mouth-on-penis or mouth-on-vulva is similar to my reaction to the idea of mouth-on-anus: yuck!
Sometimes this can be approached and dealt with in a kind and loving way; but one must be careful in that a great many women very deeply resent anything even remotely akin to the barest concept of "pressure" in a sexual sense -- so approaching a woman about such matters can make them resentful -- something that is incompatible with enjoyable sex at all.
So that's the first problem.
The second is an attitudinal problem of a different sort. Sex with civie women is complicated by the fact that it typically takes place within a more encompassing relationship; and other aspects of the relationship come into play. You haven't just laid down a few hundred bucks and said: "Okay, this time is for sex only and is a time set aside from all other aspects and complications of our lives. During this time we will be our idealized selves."
Sex in civie life typically takes place within a broader context of relationships that have lasted a long time. As such, each has managed to hurt the other, either deliberately or unawares, many many times. Sometimes these little and big hurts are effectively set aside, but very often they are not. It isn't just women who can have difficulty setting these things aside -- men can too.
I am reminded of a scene in Forgetting Sarah Marshall in which the hero's ex-girlfriend, Ms. Marshall, attempts to seduce or have sex with him only to find that, with HER, he is psychologically impotent. She asks why, and he says: "Excuse me. No, I haven't had anything to drink today. Maybe the problem is that you broke my heart into a million pieces and so my cock doesn't want to be around you anymore! Okay? EVER! Because you know what I just realized? You're the goddamn devil!"
Not all such cases are so extreme, of course -- but the principle elucidated is valid. Our sexual responses and willingness to be giving in a sexual sense can be seriously affected by how we have been treated by a partner outside the bedroom. Often, this results in the withholding of the most desired of sexual acts; because in a sense those acts are the most giving. Although, of course, it also can result in a total lack of sexual desire for the other person.
These things can work bidirectionally as well. One partner refusing sex or particularly desired sexual acts can, in and of itself, be hurtful to the other partner -- thereby resulting in the slighted partner's sexual desire being removed from the person who refused. And it may be nearly impossible to re-direct back. I remember, in one case, a woman did this to me because it was apparently a game she had played often in the past with other men, but in the wake of it she no longer impressed me as even being a sexual being -- I lost even the barest hint of sexual desire for her and it never returned. So one should be careful about doing this voluntarily as some sort of manipulation.
In addition, in a world where both partners typically work; sheer volume of work in addition to perceived inequities in work distribution can be a large contributing factor in many cases. Basically, a woman who works 9 hours at the coal mine, picks up the kids, goes home and then spends 3-4 hours taking care of dinner, laundry, dishes, homework, etc. might not have enough bandwidth to be interested in sex. Some studies indicate that men who take on a greater share of home chores get laid more often.
Finally, our civie relationships are often interpreted within unrealistic and artificial contexts -- particularly those conveyed in media; which can substantially alter our expectations leading to dissatisfaction with our relationships.
I realize this sounds preposterous, but it is quite true.
Please see, for example, a study by the IntraAmerican Development Bank of how you can manipulate the overall divorce rate in a Catholic country simply by varying the content of certain TV shows: http://ideas.repec.org/p/idb/wpaper/4611.html
Given that the average American spends 35 hours in front of the TV weekly and internalizing who-knows-what implicit expectations of relationships; the effect of gradually eroding satisfaction with any relationship that is less than a "made for TV ideal" is predictable. This lack of satisfaction will likely lead to resentments, thereby resulting in a decreased willingness to engage in sex or favored (most giving) sex acts.
All of these, I would posit, have far more effect on the content and frequency of sex acts within civie life than personal hygiene.
I have no doubt that, as a provider, you may often encounter men who do not have the time to shower before seeing you and this country's inexplicable aversion to the bidet adds to the stench. But if a man is married or living with a girlfriend, his wife or girlfriend has the opportunity to see him when he is freshly showered, and even to get into the shower with him and scrub him to her satisfaction.
After all, what man would refuse getting soaped up by a beautiful woman prior to a blowjob?
So I sincerely doubt that lack of cleanliness *at home* is a substantial contributing factor to the lack of blowjobs *at home*. Rather, the largest factors at home have to do with psychology, expectations and the dynamics of longer relationships.
As for eating a diet consistent with producing semen that tastes good, I have one word: no.
I eat a diet that I believe is consistent with my overall health, energy and wellbeing. Most people couldn't even dream of accomplishing in a week what I manage to accomplish in a day. I will NOT go sucking down gobs of high-glycemic-index pineapple juice or the like simply because you think it will make my semen taste better.
Rather, I simply will not ejaculate in your mouth -- that way, the problem is solved to both of our mutual satisfaction. Yes, yes, I know it's the oldest lie ever told -- but any provider I've seen can tell you I didn't ejaculate in her mouth. I find the whole idea of doing so distasteful.
I can really appreciate your points and do the very best I can to arrive at appointments as clean as possible. But I don't believe this phenomenon automatically transfers into private life. A guy sneaking out of work for an hour is not the same thing as a guy who showers every night before going to bed such that a wife or girlfriend has ample opportunity to exploit sexual opportunities at the man's cleanest.
It's not because he is unclean that she doesn't give him a BJ. If it were THAT simple, demand for providers would quickly fall through the floor as soon as men discovered the incredible aphrodisiac powers of a bar of soap. (*grin*)
HOWEVER -- and I will grant you this -- there are some very filthy people out there. You'd notice the men because that's who you see. But the phenomenon is equally prevalent among women. They are just filthy and gross.
Unfortunately, such people are unlikely to read and take heed of your words. Instead, you may be preaching to the choir mainly consisting of guys who have long since gotten the message.
