Actually, Sarah, there is a reason for that.  My first ever review for TER was of my ATF, and I tried to give her a very high score, but because I was a new reviewer, and her average scores were lower than what I was trying to give her, my review was denied until I lowered the score.  I should add that she is now getting higher scores, but my guess is that they come from more established reviewers.

and said he had a good time and would repeat.  to me, that's at least an 8.

I don't mind having the SPOTY or the BSU, we have had this conversation before.    First, if I think that there was an issue of chemistry, I am not going to fuck around with a lady's ability to feed herself and probably her children.   Second, in cases in which the lady is highly rated by everybody, I am not going to be the one who comes out and gives her a score that is completely out of the norm, I would just rather not review.   I have seen what has happened to some guys for daring to give someone a fucking 7, not going to go through it.   So yeah, the shitty sessions I will keep to myself.    Does part of it have to do with being a chickenshit?   ABSOFUGGINGLUTELY!    
Am I ashamed of it?   Hmmm, let me think about it really quickly, NOOOOOO

As much as we think we can make everybody laugh or piss their pants, I too am an entertainer, and my job is to accept or decline entertainment venues based on whether or not the audience will benefit from me.

I've stood up in front of thousands of people, no kidding, sang my ass off, and no one made a sound. I lost the competitions (well second or third place usually) because I was low on my "audience volume" score. Guess why? People listened. lol!

Then there were other times I stood in front of smaller groups of people with my guitar and my voice, and my songs. Some songs I could feel the audience's emotions. But I'd go on to the next one and feel the boredom of the audience. When you're prepared with who you are in front of a crowd, a song, and the audience doesn't like the song, you have two choices. 1. Pretend it was shorter and figure out a way to end it early, out of respect for the audience's time. or 2. Play through the song and let them be bored.

But in front of another audience, they were left crying with the songs that the others were bored with. The problem is, you don't always know the attitude until you get there.

Going into a coffee house, or a rock bar, and singing the National Anthem between a set of Megadeth and Led Zeppelin isn't going to fly, unless the situation is called for. Go to a baseball game, and you've got their attention.

Each song performed must be tailored to what the audience is looking for, or you don't have a chance.

Now leading worship? Completely different story. I've moved churches of 300+ people, and gone to another church where I didn't agree with the attitude of the audience and flopped. Because they couldn't be led into a higher, more loving state. They were all gossiping and bitter, yelling at each other and their children all week, not sucking their husband's dicks, and the husbands were cutting down their wives, treating them like useless slaves.

Then I have to stand in front and act all hopeful and full of the Spirit of God, and try to lead these people in loving worship. It can't be done, so I stopped leading there.

Then I have been in churches where the pastors sat me down and talked shit about the congregation one by one directly to me, and then I have to act all happy with them and then lead people in spirituality after I listened to the very people I was playing music with talk shit about who we all are leading together.

 
Now, take it a step further. I do competitions all the time. I guarantee you I am the best singer at every-single competition. But the preconceived notion of many of these small groups of singers and all of their cliques, it doesn't matter how good you are. If the audience doesn't like you, you won't win the competition. But if they do like you and you're a mediocre singer, you have a chance over Mariah Carey. Unless you have a judge that is a real musician who appreciates real music. Then you may have a little more weight in winning regardless of the popularity of the singer. Usually, not. But many clients I see know I can be a twat online. I can be mean in email correspondence. I bust BALLS if people fuck with me. But - they know what the "real deal" is, and they want the "real deal". So they don't give two shits what the rest of the audience thinks.  

On the note of not reviewing someone in that state. Some of these people are winning money, and the judge doesn't want to ruin their fun, because they're bringing people in to the bar to buy drinks. Mission accomplished. The bar doesn't give a rat's ass what the winning singer sounds like, as long as they're bringing in money. But the judge is NOT going to go up to that singer and say "I'm going to tell everyone I think you SUCK!" Why? Because their friends do support and love them, everyone is there to have fun, and the bar is making money. Nobody gets hurt, everybody goes home and forgets about it.

So I have to choose which competitions I sing if I want to win. If I don't give a shit, and a friend or family member begs me to sing in a competition, and I know for a fact I'm not going to win because it's a cliquey bar, doesn't matter. I"ll sing. But if I'm really trying to get somewhere and taking it seriously to move ahead via these venues I am singing at, and it gives me a certain type of exposure that will tarnish my reputation, I'm not even stepping foot into a bar I know is going to have an audience that not only doesn't like me because I'm pretty and can sing like a Diva, but also will work their ASSES off to find every thing I do wrong, I'm not going. Because they don't appreciate real music. At least not mine.

I - too - am an entertainer. I'm an adult entertainer, I have finally done some comedy, and I am a singer/guitarist. When someone tells me I suck, I don't even flinch. Because I don't suck. Haven't had that happen, they just say I think I'm hot shit and stuck up, unless they have constructive criticism, (I know when something is really constructive, vs a back-handed comment,)  

My issue is I can read when someone is judging me. I can't help it. I can feel the energy and the aura - that's part of being a performer and becoming one - intimate with the audience or the crowd. Sometimes you just can't, because they can't connect with you. And that's ok. But if someone is hating on me, even a client, I not only feel it, it seeps into my core, and paralyzes me from the ability to move about freely and be the seductress that I am with people who know how to enjoy me. It becomes methodical and staged.

As long as you are truthful and consistent and don't use the anonymity to be "big and brave" like some of the keyboard warriors and internet tough guys here, there is nothing cowardly at all about reviewing from behind an alias.  

Even bars and restaurants have "secret shoppers" are their reviews and comments less reliable because they are done anonymously? It could be argued that their comments are more accurate, not less because of the anonymity. If a woman has a bad attitude, or looks nothing like her pics, why should you reward her with your silence?

Agreed.

Some reviews you know are a waste of time
Such as the ones that end " treat her right, guys"
Or "thanks, Brumhilda, see you again soon"
But those that don't review when something isn't right...I don't mean she didn't rock your world that day, I do mean when she's drunk or high, the place is a mess, things that are real and not just subjective...shouldn't be a VIP because they defeat the entire purpose of writing reviews

so if  you don't care enough to do the work, why the f should i care enough to do your work for you?

don't want to pm me, fine.  stop whining about what's on the surface, if  you don't feel like going deeper.